How old is to old??

[Reddy]

How does your arbitrary rule help teenagers or younger adults who are handicapped?

that is who the companion rooms are for
not the mom who has to take her stroller into the room with her - thanks for taking that room since there is only one in each spot - your stroller in the room for hanicap is "very helpful" for those who really need it

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

that is who the companion rooms are for
not the mom who has to take her stroller into the room with her - thanks for taking that room since there is only one in each spot - your stroller in the room for hanicap is "very helpful" for those who really need it

Dude, I don't even have kids. Don't blame me.

 

[Mickey527]

I was at WDW last week and saw a mom guiding her son to the men's room door and then standing literally right outside. He was maybe 7. I think 5 is young to go alone.

Debbie, I think that was me and thank you for the compliment...lol
I was at WDW last week with my grandson who is 7. He absolutely will not use the ladies room with me so I stand outside the door listening for every noise. I hate it but he knows to be careful. A few times he went in to use the urinal and had another "calling" and took longer than I thought he would so I asked men or teens to give a call out to him to see if he was ok. Once I heard his answer I knew he was. One time he yelled out "Poop grandma, I am ok"
He also has to stand right outside the ladies room door while I am in the ladies room and I try and speed things up so I can get out there with him as quick as possible.
On another note, when my oldest (his father) was in school a good friend of his was sexually assaulted in the Burger King bathroom while all the kids were attenting a birthday party there. All the boys friends and moms were watching the kids at the ball pit playground and no one expected such a terrible thing at Burger King.

 

[Emteach]

My brother is 7 and for the most part will use the male washroom. On our last trip he was 6 and we did not send him into the washroom by himself.
I disagree that if they cant be in the washroom alone then they should be in the stall with you. I feel having a child stand outside of the stall is very different than sending a child in a washroom, where you cant see them at all. There are some creeps out there unfortunately. I do believe that once over 8/9 though a child (unless they have specific needs) should be using their genders washroom. As it was said a boy going into the ladies room where there are stalls is harmless in my opinion and very different than a young girl using the males washroom.

 

[Lassie Lynne]

If they are taller than me and feel the need to open the door for me and call me ma'Am, then they are too old!

And yes, this has happened to me more than once....polite young men, yes, but a little disconcerting in the ladies.

 

[PizzieDuster]

Nope not just to complain, but thanks for being rude. Actually how is the statement "this has been discussed over and over and over" a complaint? Don't bother answering, I could care less what you post. There are plenty of people on this board that do nothing but complain, my statement wasn't one of them, nor have they ever been.

I had no idea what this thread was about and answered a question. By the number of my posts I have been around much longer than you and this question has been presented before. If this is all someone has to complain about, consider yourself lucky.

Oh holy thy monitor of all subjects of the Community Board and what thy shall complain of, whom has been blessed with a bountiful of postings, where art thou the correct subjects we may speak and/or complain of? Where is this most precious list located? Please lead us to exile to the Community Complaint ONLY Message Board.



Come on...ever been to the cruise boards? Every year it rotates over and over, with newbies asking questions, over and over. Ya just have to be patient. Or ignore it, skip over it. In 6 months this same subject will come up. Over and over. Some people just see the topic for the first time.

I'd say age 10. If my DD teenager was in there and heard older boys voices, she'd probably not like it and I wouldn't like it either. I've heard a mom announce that her son is coming in, he needs assistance and everyone went "that's fine!" I liked that.

 

[violetrose]

I think people get so weird about the bathroom. Arent you behind a closed door in there?
I have taken my 8 and 9 yo ds in the ladies room and i could really care less what anyone thinks about it.

I don't understand either. My two DS stopped going to the bathroom with me when they were about 7 or 8 but if I see other kids in there I really don't care. I assume there is a reason for it and even if there isn't it doesn't bother me more than a girl being in there. I just go in and shut the door and do my business.

Now any child, boy or girl, who crawls under the stall, that bugs me and I will usually say something to Mom if that happens. Almost always Mom is not responsive and couldn't care less what her children are doing.

 

[ICF]

My son would have freaked if we told him he had to go to the bathroom with his mom when he was 10 years old....my gosh, he was a 5th grader at that point. I'd say by 5 or 6 my kid was going to the bathroom all alone.

Just curious......are only guys bathrooms creepy or if your daughter was alone with your husband, would you be fine with him sending her alone at 5 into the ladies room?

 

[violetrose]

My son would have freaked if we told him he had to go to the bathroom with his mom when he was 10 years old....my gosh, he was a 5th grader at that point. I'd say by 5 or 6 my kid was going to the bathroom all alone.

Just curious......are only guys bathrooms creepy or if your daughter was alone with your husband, would you be fine with him sending her alone at 5 into the ladies room?

I have 1 DD and 2 DS, and I would be more comfortable sending my DD into the ladies room alone than I would my two DS. I think it's far more likely a creeper would be in the men's room. If alone with her my DH would have stood outside the ladies room and if she took too long he might ask another lady to check on her. I did the same thing with my sons, but at a later age. I think it also depends on where you are. If you are in a restroom that has two ways to enter/exit, no way is my little boy going in there by himself. By little boy I mean 7 or 8 and under but that was my sons. I think most Moms know when their child has the maturity level to know to sense danger and act appropriately.

Either way it wouldn't bother me if I saw a boy of 10 or even 12 in the ladies room. I would assume the child had some sort of handicap that did not allow him to go by himself. I would not insist they go find a family bathroom. Now if there were no doors on the stall I could see the complaint. I do think Mom (or Dad) have the responsibility to bring the child in the stall with them and I assume if Mom is bringing her 12 year old son in the bathroom she probably needs to bring him in the stall and help him do his business.

 

[Mkrop]

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/03/sex-offender-charged-in-bathroom-assaults.html

The above is for those who say it is more likely people that you know who molest....maybe true but it is situations like this that make me think twice


There are also plenty of stories of WDW workers who were found with child porn etc so WDW is not safer than any other place


I say it is the parents decision...they know their child best. I support the parent to make that decision, not a group of strangers


For my kids it was the age of 10, but that was my decision based on their maturity.

And if my child gave me grief ove a decision I made for their safety, they would be getting a earful from me. That would fall into disrespectful talk and I do not tolerate it. And if I had a DD and she whined about a boy being in the bathroom, I would tell her to get over as well, that it is about safety and for some reason that mom wants her child safe.


And yes if you are on the Theme Park Boards you will have seen this topic discussed to death, as well as the Family Board.

 

[mhsjax]

Yes, it is different. The world is less violent and safer than it has ever been throughout history. Bad things are publicised more by media agencies desperate to make money, but in actual fact your children are safer now than you and your parents were as a kids

People keep saying that and I am not sure if I believe it or not, but I would love to see actual facts. Not articles or opinions but facts. Not sure how you can get those. A lot of abuse wasn't reported back in the day so I personally don't believe that you can really judge this to be true or untrue.

Also where I live, as another poster pointed out, we see bathroom molestations fairly often. Now at WDW I really don't worry, but there is no way I would send in a 4 or 5 year old into just any old bathroom, that isn't happening and I don't care who did or didn't like it. Luckily I am over that stage in life.

 

[mhsjax]

Exactly! If they are to young to be left outside then they should be IN the stall with the parent! To old to be in stall with mom then to old to be in ladies room !!!!

Sorry but at 4 I didn't want my kid in the stall with me and at 4 he wasn't going to the men's room alone.

 

[ICF]

I think it's far more likely a creeper would be in the men's room.

Why?

 

[mhsjax]

Why?

I can't think of a time when I heard of a creeper being in the ladies room, yet every so often I do hear about them being in the mens' room.

 

[DebbieB]

Why?

How often do you hear of a woman sexually assaulting a young child? You hear of women "assaulting" teenage boys who willingly go along and it doesn't happen in a restroom.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

How often do you hear of a woman sexually assaulting a young child? You hear of women "assaulting" teenage boys who willingly go along and it doesn't happen in a restroom.

How often do you hear of men assaulting a young girl in a restroom? Never.

 

[Heidict]

I started letting my DD go alone to the bathroom when she was 6 when we were in restaurants and other places that she was familiar with. If she didn't know where the bathroom, then I would go with her.

In all honesty, do people really think that molesters are just going to jump on your children the minute they come in the bathroom or drag them off? There are generally a lot of men in and out of the bathrooms. I'm sure if something were to happen that the other visitors would jump in.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My brother was in a public bathroom by himself when he was about 8 and a man exposed himself (in a sexual way) to him, so it can and does happen.

I really don't see the big deal about boys going in to women's restrooms. For me and my kids, by 8 they were going into the men's room alone (or if there were a family or companion bathroom we'd use that). My youngest is now 10 and usually I wait outside the men's room for him. He never goes into the women's room with me anymore.

Something to keep in mind, you cannot tell whether someone is disabled or not by just looking at them. Unless a boy is looking under stalls or making inappropriate remarks, it doesn't bother me how old they are, as long as someone is with them.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

My brother was in a public bathroom by himself when he was about 8 and a man exposed himself (in a sexual way) to him, so it can and does happen.

...which is exactly the point. Most likely, if a young girl is in the men's room, she is with her dad, and not unsupervised like your brother was.

 

[descovy]

I never lived in fear of Disney restrooms and my kids started using them alone at a very young age.
I also do not live in fear of public restrooms in general and sent my kids to their respective gender restrooms probably starting around 4/5. I know DH would never have taken DD into a mens room under any circumstances, he just would not do it so we taught her to use the restroom from a very early age.
DH would stand right outside the door where she could call to him if needed just as I did when DS was young.

Taking a 12/13 year old into the opposite gender restroom is ridiculous IMO

Thank you! It seems that the moms afraid to send boys to the bathroom alone don't ever consider that there are dads who go anywhere with their daughters!

My dh is a very hands on dad. We have 3 girls, and he takes them all kinds of places w/o mommy. Guess what happens at bathroom breaks? He goes in the mens room, girls go in the ladies room. No worries. No sweat! He even did Disney for a day without me and they survived a trip to the potty alone!

So I dont get why moms with boys can't let them go to their own bathrooms. Dads with girls do!