How old is to old??

[crashbb]

I mean this in the nicest way but i dont care about other people being uncomfortable. my sons safety is more important.

And being in the restroom is alot safer than leaving them outside.

And being inside the stall with you is safer still.

If your argument is that your son's safety surmounts the comfort of everyone else, it is only logical that you'd do whatever is the safest. In this case, taking him into the stall with you. Unless, it is only other people (and not youself) that you are willing to make uncomfortable.

 

[ccgirl]

I mean this in the nicest way but i dont care about other people being uncomfortable. my sons safety is more important.

And being in the restroom is alot safer than leaving them outside.

And here we go......

Your son is not unsafe going to the bathroom by himself. Again, your son is statistically more likely to get molested by your DH than in the bathroom. Do you leave him alone with your DH? Do you let him ride his bike alone or do you accompany him on his bike rides?

As others have said, if you feel your son is safer in the restroom with you then bring him in the stall with you. That way nobody is uncomfortable (except maybe you and/or your son but that was by your choice and the choice wasn't forced on you by anyone else).

I know we all have our own opinions on this. The way I feel is why should my "needs" and "wants" be over others? I took my son in the restroom with me (yes the same stall) until he was capable of wiping himself. He went to the men's room by himself when we were out and I stood outside the men's room and kept talking to him. He came out so proud of himself.

IMHO, It is better to teach our children what to do should something happen rather than unnecessarily projecting our fears on them or trying to overshelter them.

 

[NHdisneylover]

And being inside the stall with you is safer still.

If your argument is that your son's safety surmounts the comfort of everyone else, it is only logical that you'd do whatever is the safest. In this case, taking him into the stall with you. Unless, it is only other people (and not youself) that you are willing to make uncomfortable.

Plus, not only could people be uncomfortable with an older boy in the restroom (one old enough that you are uncomfortable being in the stall with, even though you are related to him), you are adding further to the discomfort of others by loudly talking back and forth to him while you are in a stall and he is by the sinks?! How very rude.

Given that the odds of someone harming your son while you are in the restroom are much lower than the odds of him being injured in a car ride to the grocery store, or molested or worse while at school, etc. I find this a very odd thing to justify by saying it is for "his safety"

 

[DisneyMagicMomma]

Sure, if it makes others uncomfortable I would have my son in the stall with me. Luckily we don't oversexualize in our family, so being uncomfortable because mom is peeing is not an issue.

I don't understand, however, why anyone freaks out when someone of the opposite gender (of any age) is in the bathroom. We're all doing the same things right? And IF, like so many here are saying, there really aren't that many creepers out there, what is everyone worried about? What makes having a man in the ladies room so uncomfortable?

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

There is a lot of weird sexism/gender stereotyping going on in this thread.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

There is a lot of weird sexism/gender stereotyping going on in this thread.

That's what I thought. It's like female predators don't exist. There have been many reports of a woman kidnapping a child. If you are in a stall and your child is standing outside the stall, a woman could grab your kid as easily as a man could. By the time you pull up your pants and unlatch the stall door, they could be out the door.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Sure, if it makes others uncomfortable I would have my son in the stall with me. Luckily we don't oversexualize in our family, so being uncomfortable because mom is peeing is not an issue.

I don't understand, however, why anyone freaks out when someone of the opposite gender (of any age) is in the bathroom. We're all doing the same things right? And IF, like so many here are saying, there really aren't that many creepers out there, what is everyone worried about? What makes having a man in the ladies room so uncomfortable?

Personally, the only thing that bothers me is that it makes the long lines for the ladies room even longer and/or makes the generally small and crowded areas near the sinks more crowded. I would have no issue at all with only one bathroom shared among genders.

HOWEVER, our current culture is that many people are not comfortable with doing things hat involve any level of nudity when members of the opposite sex are around. That is WHY there are different bathrooms for each sex. I totally respect that this is why such segregated bathrooms exist, and that others in those rooms would be uncomfortable with my son coming in.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

If he's too old to be in the stall with you (Mom), he's too old to be in the women's bathroom.

Or, you know, depending on the maturity level of the child, not.

 

[crashbb]

Or, you know, depending on the maturity level of the child, not.

How?

Sure, maturity level of the child might mean that they are at an older age before being in a washroom without a parent is safe for them, but the point that many are making is that if they are not mature enough to handle the appropriate bathroom alone then they are not mature enough to safely wait outside the stall either. If they are mature enough that you have issues having them in the stall with you, then they are mature enough to use the appropriate washroom on their own.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

How?

Sure, maturity level of the child might mean that they are at an older age before being in a washroom without a parent is safe for them, but the point that many are making is that if they are not mature enough to handle the appropriate bathroom alone then they are not mature enough to safely wait outside the stall either. If they are mature enough that you have issues having them in the stall with you, then they are mature enough to use the appropriate washroom on their own.

Apparently you have never been in a tiny stall with another person. There simply isn’t room.

 

[crashbb]

Apparently you have never been in a tiny stall with another person. There simply isn’t room.

Apparently, you know nothing about me and what I have (or have not) done.

The size of the stall doesn't do anything to make sense of your previous comment anyway. Besides, you are the one who posted " +100" about the comment that, for safely, you should bring your child into the stall. Most people would assume that that meant that you agreed with it.

 

[lillygator]

that is who the companion rooms are for
not the mom who has to take her stroller into the room with her - thanks for taking that room since there is only one in each spot - your stroller in the room for hanicap is "very helpful" for those who really need it

really????

How often do you hear of men assaulting a young girl in a restroom? Never.

exactly - you don't "hear" about it because it isn't reported...

My kids walked to school without me at 7. The chance of a stranger abducting my child is like getting hit with lightning 19 times. I'm okay with them waiting for me. The reason the media gloms onto child abductions is because it is so rare.

Since I live in the lightning capital...hmm...but not a CHANCE I am going to willing put my kid out there, even if the odds are against it. Somer Thompson's mom and countless others, I am sure wish they could go back and have a re-do. I see small young children walking to school alone that could easily be thrown in to a car with not a sole seeing it, makes me ill.

No child has ever been assaulting, abducted, or murdered at a bathroom is Disney.

In fact, most issues I hear involving children getting assaulting occurs in the water parks, in the wave pools.

that has been reported....

I think the real problem in this thread is that we have sexualized going to the bathroom. You are in the bathroom to um, relieve yourself. No doubt Disney has cameras in every bathroom, and undercover security basically everywhere. You do not need to worry about creepers.

exactly...so horrific that a young boy knows you go pee, but can walk out of said public restroom and see ta-ta's flashed in his face from a mom breastfeeding...go figure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ccgirl]

Apparently you have never been in a tiny stall with another person. There simply isn’t room.

I have taken my son in the restroom at WDW when he was too young to wipe himself. There is plenty of room.

 

[lillygator]

you know...I've tried to think about how often I have seen an "inappropiate" age boy in a women's restroom...now, I hate to admit it, but seems like I have probably visited most every public restroom on the gulf side and all of Gainesville, lots at Disney over the years. I have no idea what the draw is, but my girls seem to always need to use them prior to just using them at home!!!!

But in thinking about it, nothing truly stands out in my mind. I am sure I have seen an older boy or two, but I can't think any that have peeked in, (some young ones maybe and girls too), maybe I am just getting too old and have forgotten.

Maybe this would be a good science project/social experiment....I know we are certainly in them enough!! lol

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

I have taken my son in the restroom at WDW when he was too young to wipe himself. There is plenty of room.

For a 7 year old, maybe. For a disabled 14 year old?

 

[ManyMinnie]

I mean this in the nicest way but i dont care about other people being uncomfortable. my sons safety is more important.

And being in the restroom is alot safer than leaving them outside.

Your son's "safety" doesn't trump my DD's right to privacy in the WOMEN'S bathroom

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

Your son's "safety" doesn't trump my DD's right to privacy in the WOMEN'S bathroom

Actually, under the ADA, it might.

 

[NHdisneylover]

For a 7 year old, maybe. For a disabled 14 year old?

at which point--the handicapped stall or better yet, companion restrooms are a 100% valid option and the proper one for all involved.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

at which point--the handicapped stall or better yet, companion restrooms are a 100% valid option and the proper one for all involved.

If you are close to one, then fine. If you are nowhere near one, and your child has to go, then he has to go.

 

[cceandme]

Your son's "safety" doesn't trump my DD's right to privacy in the WOMEN'S bathroom

that's what stalls are for.

I'm talking about a child here. not a grown man or a teenager.

all these people who talk about the risk being so low. tell the parents of abducted and murdered children how low that risk is.

Everyone thinks its not going to happen to them. and I hope it never does. but it happens to someones child