How much $$ for a communion gift?

[jrw118]

My family, DH, DS(8), DS(5), and I have been invited to a communion for my older sons friend. He is close with her. We have been alternating weeks for play dates with this family. How much $$ should we give as a gift. It is at a nice local restaurant and all 4 of us have been invited. Thanks.

 

[shoney]

My family, DH, DS(8), DS(5), and I have been invited to a communion for my older sons friend. He is close with her. We have been alternating weeks for play dates with this family. How much $$ should we give as a gift. It is at a nice local restaurant and all 4 of us have been invited. Thanks.

I would probably give $50, maybe more, but not less.

 

[sarah4770]

first communion is usually second grade. I would not give a lot, this is probably more about the parents wishes than the child's wishes.

 

[MickeyHereWeCome!]

My youngest son just made his First Communion two weeks ago. Most people gave him $25 and a gift, or around $50-$60.

 

[jperrot1]

Well with the four of you invited for a nice meal I would go at $100, but that's just putting in my two cents. That's because I like to give at least what the meal cost the host, and then, perhaps, a little over.

 

[jrw118]

I was thinking $100 since it is the 4 of us. I do not want to look cheap ! Lol

 

[ilovemk76]

I was thinking $100 since it is the 4 of us. I do not want to look cheap ! Lol

This is what I would give.

 

[jrw118]

Thanks everyone. I will go with $100

 

[NYCDiane]

When I first saw this post, I was going to say $100 but then I thought about it. I absolutely HATE when people have their parties at a hall or restaurant and you're pretty much obligated to pay for your meal AND give a gift on top of that.

I think for an 8 year old, a gift of $25-$50 should be sufficient. Since your son is the only one who is actually her friend, that's who the gift should be from. I don't get why the entire family was invited? (to me --- and call me cynical --- it just seems like a gift grab, knowing you'll give more $$ since there are 4 of you)

 

[alice99]

I was thinking $100 since it is the 4 of us. I do not want to look cheap ! Lol

This is what I would give.

When I first saw this post, I was going to say $100 but then I thought about it. I absolutely HATE when people have their parties at a hall or restaurant and you're pretty much obligated to pay for your meal AND give a gift on top of that.

I think for an 8 year old, a gift of $25-$50 should be sufficient. Since your son is the only one who is actually her friend, that's who the gift should be from. I don't get why the entire family was invited? (to me --- and call me cynical --- it just seems like a gift grab, knowing you'll give more $$ since there are 4 of you)

If they didn't invite the entire family, that would have been a different thread talking about some rude people that invited half a family to a party.

What do you put on the invitation? Leave your husband and that other kid at home?

 

[irishsharon]

Family gave $100 and friends gave $50 no matter if it was 2 or 4 family members.I think covering the cost of a meal should be done for a wedding not this kind of party and my son's party was at a restaurant.Just my 2cents

 

[DOREEN1779]

I was thinking $100 since it is the 4 of us. I do not want to look cheap ! Lol

I would do $100 also! If it was family or a Godchild, I would do more.

 

[jrw118]

Just a little history. My son and this young lady Have been in the same class for the last 3 years. We have become closer with the family. My younger son is also very friendly with the younger brother. I would not have been offended if my entire family had not been invited I am sure they considered that my younger son would hang with their youngest too. We have decided to give $100. I do not think I feel obligated to pay for the plate ( it is a very nice restaurant and it is probably double that anyway). Thanks for all the input.

 

[MDer2FL]

Like weddings, the answer to this may depend on where you live and the customs of your area. But, as a parent who has hosted 3 communion events of my own, and attended many others, let me say that you should NOT feel obligated to "cover" the cost of the party. A $100 communion gift from the child's friend's family seems very extravagent to me. I would hardly even expect that from family members! A communion-themed gift (rosary, plaque, crucifix, etc.) is fine, perhaps a small cash gift or gift-card to go with it. That's it. Communion is a distinctly religious event, not like Christmas that can be secular as well. The gift is very secondary to the occasion.

JMHO

 

[yeahdisney]

DD was confirmed last year, she was 7 th grade. We had family only. She received necklace probably $25ish. A small nice jewelry box and $15 check from close neighbor. $20 from her other aunt. Nothing from the others. Which was fine. We had a meal at the house. Closest restaurant is 30 minutes from our church.

 

[Jewel3k]

Hosted a party last weekend and all gifts and money not from family was around $20 - $25.

 

[bettymae1121]

I don't think I gave money to either of my nephews at their 1st communion. I think I gave a religious themed gift that cost ~$25. And one of my nephews is my God son! Having everyone go to Mass to witness the 1st communion and having a party afterwards was the main event, not the gifts.

That said, I think it depends on your region and the traditions of the family in particular. $100 seems like plenty under the circumstances.

 

[wiigirl]

If its family I always try to do $100....non family its usually around $40.

 

[LynnTH]

Just had my sons Confirmation party a few weeks ago (8th grade). We had it a Catering Place and had about 100 people there. (We have a big family and they are all local). Most of the gifts he got were from $10 to $25. A few gave him $100 each but these are my Aunts/Uncles with lots of money and are very generous. I would think $20 to $25 would be sufficient especially from a friend and not family.

 

[gilby]

I think you should give what you can afford to give. Its not all about how much you give, its about celebrating with him. I feel we get to wrapped up in how much we should give, its not all about the money.