How Many Kids?????????

[SqueakyMouse]

One thing is certain, if you give away/sell those baby clothes, you will have another child!! We had given away nearly everything (all but the crib) when we were surprised to discover our 3rd child on the way!! (Medically-speaking, her conception was nearly impossible, too.)

 

[dismom9761]

Yep-we had gotten rid of everything after our third.We never dreamed we would have a fourth.Double outnumbered.

 

[cabmom]

We have 4 boys as well! 9, 7, 5 and 2 mths. It's a crazy house some days, but we love it!

Marilynn

 

[Desnik]

I have 2, DD will be 8 at the end of the month and DS will be 3 in March. After DD I really didn't want another. I felt so complete with just her for a long time. I got rid of all the baby stuff. Then when she was about 3, DH and I wanted another. We got pregnant right away but lost the baby when I was about 4 months. We were heart broken. We waited a while and then tried again and had DS. He was a born early, and was a very sick baby. At birth he was a great weight, 6lbs, but he was born when I was 34 weeks. At 3 months he was only 8lbs and loosing weight. He had severe reflux, he was hospitalized 3 times. We had such a hard 1.5 years with him. We were told at one point he wouldn't make it, they labeled him "failure to thrive". It was horrible. But, we all got through it. He had to have occupational and speech theropy because he has been behind in everything. He didn't walk until 18mo. Now he only needs the speech theropy and is doing really well. I am struggling with wanting another one. DH wants another really bad! I do too, but I have all these fears of another sick baby, or another miscarriage. Also the thought of being pregnant again after I am at my ideal weight. Then I think of our vacations, eating out, how much easier it is when you are not out numbered by your kids!! I am a SAHM, and I love being home with my kids and feel really lucky to be able to. I am going to give myself a year to really think it over. I look at my kids and love them so much and think they are so wonderful, even when they are driving me nuts!! Who knows what will happen! Again I got rid of all the baby stuff so another one will probably be in my future!!!LOL

 

[Tiffann4k]

We have 4...had them in all in 3 years.9,7,6, & 5 ( we are between birthdays right now, my 9 year old just turned 9 last month) That was tough...due to that I had a tubal ligation done. I feel incomplete like I was meant to have one more so we are planning a reversal and hopefully going to have one more, maybe 2.

I saved most everything from when my son was born even though I had a TL. I think for most women they just know when they are done...I thought I was done but I was so young and so overwhelmed when I had #4 that I made a horrible decision that I have regret since that day.

 

[mrsmiller]

I have 2 boys, but due to medical reasons the doctors "fix" me without my consent, I was devastated when I woke up from the c-section and the doctor told me that because the last pregnancy was so bad on me he "decided" that I was done having children. You can imagine how I felt, because in order to have my children I spent 10yrs in fertility treatments...

Linnette

 

[blessedby3]

We have 3. (DD15, DS10, and DD7). We wanted 4! Need I say more?? Number 3 is quite a handfull!! She does stuff the other two would have never thought of! (ex.- putting the cat in the downstairs fridge- luckily I found DD sitting by the fridge looking like she was in trouble. I thought maybe the cat was in the dryer, but no the fridge. A little chilly, but okay) She WEARS us out every day and has MUCH more stamina than DH or I could ever muster up. I think I would have gone on and had #4, but the thought of another like #3 was just too scary. Plus DH is a twin and I have just turned 39 and Im afraid we would have twins like #3!!! Our first two were so mild and well behaved/mannered and now I am eating all my words that I spoke about people not keeping their kids in line or disciplining them like they shoud. God has a funny way of telling you that you are through so you know for sure!!

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

I always wanted three children. My husband was content with two. It's hard to describe how, but you just know that your not complete. We now have three beautiful children and our family is done.

 

[Momma2Many]

Our crew consists of 8 children...six under the age of 4. I've thought we were on our last baby so many times, that I don't even try to guess now! We "fixed" things after #2, and were so regretful after a year! We decided we truly wanted more children. I just never guessed we would have this many more children! We are young, and have the most awesome kids...I imagine there could be more little ones in our future....maybe after we get five of the ones we have now out of diapers!

 

[katiesmom2]

OMG Mamma2Many - God bless you!!!

We have two - our daughter is almost 3 and our son just turned 1. They are sweet, easy children, but we are done - I think! I sometimes feel the urge to have one more, but I didn't handle the up-all-night-with-no-sleep thing with #2, so I am pretty sure I wouldn't do well with another. We feel blessed to have our girl and our boy. I am also approaching 37 and would worry about having a sick baby.

I loved being pregnant and felt kind of sad with #2 that it would be my last time pregnant. When I see pregnant women, I still get the urge! DH definitely feels DONE.

I suppose it could always happen, but we are content with the two beautiful children we already have.

 

[fofinia]

I have two DD's. 4 and 1 yrs old. Not sure how I feel about having more. Husband wants to have a third. He started talking about it before the last one was even a week old.

Oh and DH is convinced if we go for #3 it will definitely be a boy, which he really wants. Even though the chance is only 50%. And my mom has 7 granddaughters and no grandsons. We are convinced we only make girls!!!!!

 

[jennifer293]

You know you have too many kids when you catch yourself in the middle of a fight saying "CALGON take me AWAY!!!".

I think I say this daily and I only have 2 girls...DD5 and DD 20mths. They are like oil and water and they fight like cats and dogs.

A friend of mine asked me how I knew I was done having kids and I told her, " You just KNOW".

I had 2 terrible pregnancies, 2 c-sections and I had gestational diabetes only to develop Type 2 diabetes 19 months after DD#2. I have gone through hell and back for these girls and I am not doing it again.

 

[Chris]

I have 5 and while we would have loved another, it just wasn't in the cards.
A few weeks ago, I was watching my 7 month old nephew. When he went home I was exhausted!!!!!!!! That was my Oh I'm done moment! :-D

 

[belle&beast]

We have 2- DD4 and DS almost 2 . I have heard so many people say they just felt complete after they brought their last baby home, and I never felt that because I LOVE the newborn baby time, nursing and cuddles- but it doesn't last long!!!! I think I knew we are done when a colleague of mine asked if we were planning any more children and I told her that I was not sure. Her reply was, "If you are willing to have 3, be ready for 4!" Her third turned out to be twins. I really had always though twins would be so wonderful, but not at this stage in my life. This happened to another friend of mine recently and I know we could not handle this now.

The confirmation was at Christmas: My neice is 5 months and is a beautiful and happy baby and I love to spend time with her. At Christmas I watched my SIL and BIL stress about her sleeping and eating habits and I realized that soon my DS will be potty trained, he eats independently and I can have an adult conversation while my children play! It was a big revelation for me. As much as I love the "baby stage" my kids are so much fun and I am having fun spoiling other people's babies now!

 

[DawnaJean]

One thing is certain, if you give away/sell those baby clothes, you will have another child!! We had given away nearly everything (all but the crib) when we were surprised to discover our 3rd child on the way!! (Medically-speaking, her conception was nearly impossible, too.)

hee hee hee

Isn't that the case! If you want one more, then sell or give away all that baby stuff.....

I think you do know when you are "done".....sometimes though just holding a friend's sleeping baby just makes me think....what about one more????

Dawna

 

[MamaLema]

We have 3 boys ages 2, 7, and 9.

I know for sure we're done as I think it's abnormal to have this many grey hairs at 30.

 

[mask_w03]

Dh is happy with just our DD and I'm happy with just her too, but I feel part of me has more love to give and would love 1 more child. I'm hoping in 2-3 yrs when we talk about another Dh's mind change. He wasn't even sure about having one, but he is so in love with her and can't imagine her not being around now.

But I think it has to be a personal choice on this one. For some 1 is just perfect and for others 5 might be perfect.

 

[gabbysmom04]

I am so glad I started this thread. It is great to read about how other people feel about this. I keep looking at DDs old clothes and thinking I should sell them, then I start to think I want another little girl to put them on. Maybe I just like the clothes?

 

[kfeuer]

We have 2 boys, DS 5 and DS almost 3. DH and I both got the baby urge a couple months ago, but after hard deliberation we decided we really need to stop where we are. If somebody could guarantee us a girl, we'd go for it but since obviously there are no guarantees it doesn't make sense to have another just trying for a girl. Plus, I'm 35 and had difficult pregnancies/deliveries. I'd hate to add "advanced maternal age " to my already long list of risk factors!

This is just my opinion, but I think you're way too close to the birth of your last child to make this decision right now. If you have the room, hold onto your stuff for awhile and eventually you'll know what you want to do. Congrats on the new baby!

 

[gabbysmom04]

I know it is very early to really be thinking about another baby. My DH has been talking about selling our DDs old stuff and I am trying to decide if I should do it. Has anyone wanted to keep things even if they are sure they do not want more kids? I am scared at the thought of another sick baby and the heartache that goes along with that. But I feel that there is another baby I am meant to have. I just don't feel complete, problem is that DH sure does! I also don't want the two DC I have to miss out on anything if I have another. I want to give them everything I can!