How fast it all changed.

[vicwishes]

No words - so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers throughout each day, sending you strength and positive energies.

 

[gillep]

I am so sorry for everything that you are going through, that ended up being my MIL's ultimate diagnosis as well. No words of wisdom, just lots of love and support being sent your way.

 

[mjkacmom]

Just read your update, I’m so sorry. I don’t want to sound like a broken record, but I hear your frustration and desperation- find some pot he can smoke. It’s a game changer, send out a text to your friends and family. I would’ve asked my teens if I had to, but my mom was hooked up the first time by her hairdresser, and after people found out she had cancer, the offers were endless. Apparently you can vape it now, I wish I lived closer, I’d find some for you.

I’m hoping his pain lessens, I’m glad he has agreed to narcotics. They get a bad rap today for obvious reasons, but there is still a real need for them. I pray you all ge5 some peaceful sleep tonight.

 

[Cruisin]

I'm so sorry and sad to read this.

 

[lifesavacation]

I am so very sorry you are going through this

 

[runwad]

So sorry for this path you are on, I was on it too with my dad 22 years ago. I really feel for you all, especially the kids.

 

[anniemae]

I am so sorry. You are handling this with a great deal of grace and strength. Remember to take care of yourself. Will send up some prayers tonight. Thank you for keeping us updated and feel free to post here as much as you need. We all may not know each other in real life, but we are here for you just the same.

 

[Iya]

Rodeo, I am so so sorry. I was hoping you'd hear something positive today.
Good thoughts for all of you.

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm so sorry @rodeo65 . I just watched a very close friend go through this with her husband in the fall. Please take care of yourself. Please accept all offers of help. Please know so many of us are praying for your family.

 

[mamamary]

I’m sorry to hear the news. I think about you and your family every day.

 

[Eureka]

Worst possible day today. Hmm. I think I said that before, so guess I was wrong.

Diagnosis: Stage Four - Pancreatic Adenocarcinoma with metastisization to the liver. (As the oncologist put it - it's the Patrick Swayze as opposed to the Steve Jobs)

Prognosis: Incurable. With chemo he might have two years. Maybe within that time more treatments are uncovered.

However, he is currently not in condition to receive chemotherapy. He is too sick, and weak. He has poor pain management, has started throwing up - once yesterday and once this morning before we left for the appointment. It took about ten minutes for him to finish being sick to leave for the appointment, it takes about ten minutes to drive there, another five to get the wheelchair and get him upstairs and he managed to sit for about another ten in the wheelchair before saying he needed a gurney; had to lie down. So out of bed for 35 minutes did him in for the day. To start chemo, she wants him to be up and functional for about half the day. He is currently bedridden.

The oncologist sent us down to emergency for triage and re-admittance. Further testing to determine what is going on. If this is a situation where poor pain management is leading to nausea is leading to anxiety and back again, then he has agreed to narcotic pain relief and they will adjust his anti-nausea meds to try and get him stable. Then if we can get his appetite back and get some food into him maybe he can get strong enough for chemo. That is the hope.

If this is the cancer taking over - his prognosis is weeks to a short number of months.

He had a morphine drip in the ER and slept for the afternoon. He woke around 5 and was starting to feel the pain coming back so they switched to I believe she said hydromorphone but not quite sure that was right. In any case - stronger at a lower dose but also longer lasting. I had to pick DD up from work at 6 and he said to just go home for the night and get some rest - he'd be asleep also. Still waiting for him to be moved up to a room - currently in ER still. He was pretty upset. Said when he woke up "well, I'm fu***d" I told him to take tonight to be pissed and cry and get out all the toxic energy he's entitled to feel but that won't help him - dump it all. Tomorrow we fight. He needs to eat, gain strength, sleep and be ready for chemo.

I've just told the kids.

Oh no. I’m so sorry. Is there any comfort in now knowing what you’re dealing with and putting together a plan? Hang in there....and vent whenever you need to.

 

[Allison]

My heart hurts for you and your family.

 

[Feralpeg]

So sorry.

 

[Mickeynutty]

Rodeo, I Just looked back and your first post was 3 weeks ago. I think you are handling things so well. I don’t think I would be as strong. Rest when you can, try to concentrate on the one day you are in and please know MANY of us are praying for you.

 

[maxaroni]

I am so so sorry to here of your DH’s diagnosis. No words of wisdom but am echoing others of how sorry I am and my heart is breaking for you.
Sending tons of (((HUGS))), prayers and support.

 

[Mokat76]

Oh, Rodeo, no. Sorry isn’t a strong enough word to convey how I feel. Everyone, every family who goes through this has to pick how and what to fight. I pray your husband and you find the best path for you. No one else, except maybe the kids a little, gets a say. Again, all the bad words in absolute fury at this horrible thing and what it’s doing to you. Then some tears and some prayers. And lots and lots of PMA (positive mental attitude). You’re in for a helluva a fight. Your Dis friends here have your back, even if only on line. Well take your rants and frustrations and tears. We’re here.

 

[sk!mom]

I'm so very sorry! There really are no other words. You and your family are in my prayers.

 

[bellebud]

I'm so very sorry. We're all here for you. Please come and vent, cry to us, yell, whatever you need.

 

[J'aime Paris]

I don't even know what to say...
you are an incredible lady!

Wishing you all strength!

 

[ols386]

I’m so sorry. Sending prayers for your husband and you and your family.