How do you get over something awful? ***UPDATES*** page 3 & 5

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I cannot imagine how traumatic this must be. Thankfully you did not panic and you were able to step up. You should be very proud of yourself.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I have to tell you that you did an amazing job, and it's a miracle that you woke up at just the right time to save him. I pray that he will be OK and he is able to make a full recovery.

 

[DisTeach1]

Okay, yeah, you saved your friends life...BUT...

Are you guys young? All in your 20's I hope, because that level of drinking seems problematic to me, and unless you're in your early 20's, I would be concerned.

Maybe this was a wake up call. When you said you had friends over drinking until early hours and you had kids, I don't have friends over partying and just "drinking".

So, I'm thinking you're really young, and that this is a life lesson, and that your friend is really lucky.

 

[jmpurdy]

you did an amazing thing. I, too, resuscitated someone at work who stopped breathing and was blue. A co-worker did the breaths and I did the compressions. EMT's arrived and took over. We did not realize how small the percentage of survival is until much later. I still don't feel like a 'hero'. Just did what we had to under the circumstances. It still shakes me to this day and this was a few years ago. I totally understand the range of emotions. It will ease for you over time. You do not need to be preached to about drinking. Not now. You need to take care of yourself and talk to someone if it will help to sort it all out. What you experienced is tragic, miraculous, and will change who you are forever. Hugs.

 

[Micca]

Stayiing at your place was the ONLY hope he had. You did everything you knew to do and did it better than a lot of people would have. You are definitely the "good guy" in this story. Sure hope your friend makes it.

 

[tinkerbell_xo]

You did an AMAZING job!
Everything happens the way it happens for a REASON!
You're going to keep replaying the night over and over and drive yourself crazy thinking about what you could have done differently, but there's nothing you could have done. You did everything you could and you saved a life! Everything worked out exactly how it was supposed to.

I'm praying for your friend to pull through and for you to find peace.

 

[mickeylove2]

First of all, thank you guys for your thoughts and prayers and words of encouragement. I spoke to his sister a little bit ago and he is doing better. Still not breathing on his own, but his stats are getting better and he is responding to stimuli. He has a punctured lung (I'm assuming that he has a broken rib and she's just not telling me to not upset me, but I don't know that for sure) and his heart is still enlarged, but his drs are much more positive about the outcome today. He is still critical though.

And, the drinking lesson, let's not go there ok. I'm 28 and my kids are 9 & 7 and I get very few free nights, I'm a single mom. I had friends over because we were eating crabs and the night wore on, we sat up and played cards, listened to music and drank beer. Everyone who was over lived within walking distance and no one got killed or killed anyone else in a drunk driving accident, since they weren't driving home from a bar. My friend is 25 so I guess you could call him a little more reckless and I'm pretty sure the people he was with were that age or younger...obviously though, he OD'ed on drugs so I'm thinking alcohol is the least of his worries! That'd be your life lesson~K?

Again, thank you all for you thoughts and prayers, please continue to pray for him.

 

[kellyg403]

I will echo the sentiments of others, you were meant to be there and so was he. I would have panicked and not known what to do. You, on the other hand, did exactly what you were supposed to do in the situation.

How were you to do know that drugs were involved? You did everything right in my book. You let him sleep over because you felt he was to intoxicated to go elsewhere. You gave CPR when you realized there was a problem.

You will travel the road of emotions but in the end I hope that you see that you did something not a lot of people (myself included) would have been able to do when faced with the situation.


Kelly

 

[Nik's Mom]

First of all, thank you guys for your thoughts and prayers and words of encouragement. I spoke to his sister a little bit ago and he is doing better. Still not breathing on his own, but his stats are getting better and he is responding to stimuli. He has a punctured lung (I'm assuming that he has a broken rib and she's just not telling me to not upset me, but I don't know that for sure) and his heart is still enlarged, but his drs are much more positive about the outcome today. He is still critical though.

And, the drinking lesson, let's not go there ok. I'm 28 and my kids are 9 & 7 and I get very few free nights, I'm a single mom. I had friends over because we were eating crabs and the night wore on, we sat up and played cards, listened to music and drank beer. Everyone who was over lived within walking distance and no one got killed or killed anyone else in a drunk driving accident, since they weren't driving home from a bar. My friend is 25 so I guess you could call him a little more reckless and I'm pretty sure the people he was with were that age or younger...obviously though, he OD'ed on drugs so I'm thinking alcohol is the least of his worries! That'd be your life lesson~K?

Again, thank you all for you thoughts and prayers, please continue to pray for him.

Wow! What an experience for you to go through. You did the best you could under the circumstances. Your friend is still alive because of your reaction. Does he have a history of depression? Was this an accidental overdose or do they think it was on purpose. Or maybe he was just too drunk and lost track of how much medication he took. That happens more than we know.

So sorry you are going through this. It does make us realize how fragile life is, doesn't it? In one split second, things can take a tragic turn. I Hope your friend makes a complete recovery.

 

[Nik's Mom]

First of all, thank you guys for your thoughts and prayers and words of encouragement. I spoke to his sister a little bit ago and he is doing better. Still not breathing on his own, but his stats are getting better and he is responding to stimuli. He has a punctured lung (I'm assuming that he has a broken rib and she's just not telling me to not upset me, but I don't know that for sure) and his heart is still enlarged, but his drs are much more positive about the outcome today. He is still critical though.

And, the drinking lesson, let's not go there ok. I'm 28 and my kids are 9 & 7 and I get very few free nights, I'm a single mom. I had friends over because we were eating crabs and the night wore on, we sat up and played cards, listened to music and drank beer. Everyone who was over lived within walking distance and no one got killed or killed anyone else in a drunk driving accident, since they weren't driving home from a bar. My friend is 25 so I guess you could call him a little more reckless and I'm pretty sure the people he was with were that age or younger...obviously though, he OD'ed on drugs so I'm thinking alcohol is the least of his worries! That'd be your life lesson~K?

Again, thank you all for you thoughts and prayers, please continue to pray for him.

Sorry, double post. Darn computer! Anyway, prayers sent your way again.

 

[LuvOrlando]

It's horrible this happened in your home and in your presence but he sure is lucky he ended up on your couch. You did an amazing job, you didn't freeze and saved his life

 

[dispor]

And, the drinking lesson, let's not go there ok. I'm 28 and my kids are 9 & 7 and I get very few free nights, I'm a single mom. I had friends over because we were eating crabs and the night wore on, we sat up and played cards, listened to music and drank beer. Everyone who was over lived within walking distance and no one got killed or killed anyone else in a drunk driving accident, since they weren't driving home from a bar. My friend is 25 so I guess you could call him a little more reckless and I'm pretty sure the people he was with were that age or younger...obviously though, he OD'ed on drugs so I'm thinking alcohol is the least of his worries! That'd be your life lesson~K?

Again, thank you all for you thoughts and prayers, please continue to pray for him.

I'll be blunt. Your attitude towards drinking alarms me.

As for your kids, thankfully they did not need to come home during the night.

I'm sure you reacted better than MOST people would have if they were in the same situation. Having more life experience, I can say that I would have called the ambulance the minute an unconscious person was left at my house.

I'm very glad to hear that your friend is showing some signs of improvement. My nephew died of an overdose at age 39. He was with "friends" also, and they peformed CPR on him. He was in the hospital for about 15 hours before he passed away. I hope your friend recovers completely, changes his ways, and gets a new lease on life.

 

[Heidict]

I'll be blunt. Your attitude towards drinking alarms me.

As for your kids, thankfully they did not need to come home during the night.

What attitude about drinking are you talking about and why is it any of your business if she wants to have friends over and have alcohol? You aren't her mother.

What the heck is so alarming about having some friends over, eating, having some beer and playing cards? Are adults not allowed to do that? My goodness, it's not like they were doing keg stands and raving. The cops didn't get called because of some out of control party. She is a responsible adult, not some teenager at college.

This thread is not about her drinking habits, not that you could tell what those where from one evening in her life, it's about a horrible and tragic event. She has no control over what her friends do. I'm just glad that things did work out the way they did and that he ended up on her couch and not home alone where he would have aspirated on his own vomit and died.

 

[alliecats]

What attitude about drinking are you talking about and why is it any of your business if she wants to have friends over and have alcohol? You aren't her mother.

What the heck is so alarming about having some friends over, eating, having some beer and playing cards? Are adults not allowed to do that? My goodness, it's not like they were doing keg stands and raving. The cops didn't get called because of some out of control party. She is a responsible adult, not some teenager at college.

This thread is not about her drinking habits, not that you could tell what those where from one evening in her life, it's about a horrible and tragic event. She has no control over what her friends do. I'm just glad that things did work out the way they did and that he ended up on her couch and not home alone where he would have aspirated on his own vomit and died.

Well said. She certainly is not in control of anyone's actions or choices but her own and I think it is really harsh to kick her while she is down.

OP, I am sorry you and your friend are going through this. I hope he comes through this ok and won't get anywhere near this happening again. Sending good thoughts your way!!

 

[doxdogy]

OP I am so sorry you are going through this right now. Also sorry that some posters are jumping to conclusions and assuming you and your friend have drinking problems. Do we really need to kick someone while they are down?

 

[Planogirl]

Some people will lecture if you have any alcohol of any kind. Don't let that get to you.

I'm glad that your friend seems to be making progress. That's what's important right now.

 

[Drew Sailbum]

... He has a punctured lung (I'm assuming that he has a broken rib and she's just not telling me to not upset me, but I don't know that for sure) ...

Broken ribs are basically unavoidable if you are doing CPR correctly. It is MUCH better than the alternative of not doing CPR when it is necessary.

Again, you did great!

 

[jmpurdy]

OMG, this person has just had a life-altering experience and getting a 'talking to' about drinking some beers! It was a tragic accident! No one got in a car and it looks like precautions were taken for safety. The OP didn't know the extent of the overdose. OP, don't let these people influence how you recover from this.

 

[mickeylove2]

I spent the day at the hospital yesterday, he is getting better! He is still on the vent and in a coma but he is stable. He was trying to wake up but his lungs are not strong enough so they sedated him even more, they are giving him steroids to help his lungs and the drs. were really surprised at his progress. The nurse came in yesterday morning and he was trying to get out of bed and pull all the tubes out. Then, later on, we were watching the NFL network and his BIL said something bad about the Ravens and he lifted his arm completely up almost like he was trying to tell him to shut it.

They took the chest tube out last night, I guess the lung collapsed from being punctured. He looks great, has all of his color back. I was talking to his 2 sisters and his BIL and they were saying how good he looked compared to Sunday afternoon when they were allowed to see him the 1st time because he looked so bad, all I could think was, well you're lucky that you didn't have to see him before he got to the hospital. He was 10 shades of gray when I 1st found him and pretty much looked dead, I'm so thankful that none of his family had to see him like that.

I was finally able to sleep Monday night, I had to take some Unisom but then I slept for about 10 hours, I woke up and got something to eat and couldn't keep it down, but after I left the hospital last night I was able to eat and keep down dinner. I took some more medicine last night and got some sleep, hopefully this passes.

Thanks for all the kind words and prayers.

 

[minniebeth]

So glad to hear he is getting better! I will continue to pray that he gets stronger and better each day. Glad you are getting some sleep, take care of yourself!