ITA! I cook one meal, trying to keep everyone's preferences in mind and also being mindful of serving a healthy, well-balanced meal. I don't force anyone to eat, but I also don't cook anything separate for anyone else. You're always welcome to make yourself a pb&j sandwich, though, and clean up after it yourself.
Same here - I won't force a child to eat something he doesn't like, but I'm not making special meals. If you only like the salad, eat the salad. I have a couple of very adventurous eaters (dd12 and ds5 feasted on grilled clams this weekend), and some very picky eaters. One of my picky eaters, though is now 10, and likes a lot more foods. I will not give food the opportunity to be a power struggle - either for me, or my kids. I will not make a child go hungry just because he/she doesn't like anything I've made - grab yourself a yogurt!