How do I handle this comment? Wedding related..

[redlight]

Gee, some people have no tact at all. I can't believe your friends.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

People in glass houses... how pure were your friends and relatives on their wedding days?

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

I'd find some new friends.

Same here.

I hope you have a wonderful wedding day, OP!

 

[MinnieTink]

OMG how ridiculous! You'd do well to ignore that kind of moronic comments.

If it makes you feel any better, I wore white at my wedding... and I was three months pregnant! Oh, the horror!!

Ditto..! LOL.

Seriously tell Laura Ingalls and the rest of the girls from the prairie to get real!!

 

[tonilea]

In general I think weddings are over-rated, but this is what I would do.... Once "they" start talking about how "they" are of the same opinion, quickly say, "I forgive you!" When they ask why, say you thought they were apologizing for gossiping about you! Smile sweetly!

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i was thisclose to actually wearing a red wedding dress, unfortunatly i knew family members wouldn't like it so i decided against it.

sometimes i wish i would have done it, but i still liked my pretty white dress anyway!

 

[tonilea]

Ditto..! LOL.

Seriously tell Laura Ingalls and the rest of the girls from the prairie to get real!!

Laura Ingalls Wilder wore black at her own wedding.

 

[Mary•Poppins]

They actually sound like they are being mean to you about a day that should stand out as perfect. I would really confront them in a classy way ... and just cut to the chase and say, "Your comments about my white wedding dress really hurt my feelings and I would appreciate it if you keep these comments to your self." I think you will be surprised that they will leave you alone ... and let you have some peace for your wedding. What friends!

Congrats! ... and have fun in your dress!

 

[ols386]

I would just ignore it. It's your wedding, and you can wear whatever you want.

 

[Minnie]

People in glass houses...

Exactly!

OP - Ignore this crap - suggest green to match their envy as their wedding atire...

 

[kwelch10377]

Tell them that you are planning on becoming a Born-again virgin the night before your wedding.

 

[phragmipedium]

If these are good friends, it's possible that they think they're just joking around like you maybe always have. They might not realize they're really being rude and hurting your feelings, or how easy it is to be sensitive when you're coming down to the wire and stressed about things going well. If I valued their friendship, the next time they brought it up, I wouldn't try to laugh it off. I'd tell them point-blank that I understand they think it's funny, but it's getting old and starting to hurt my feelings - that I will be supportive of whatever dress they choose when they get married because I want them to have a happy and stress-free day, not to mention a long and happy marriage, which is what it's all about. It doesn't matter what color you wear; that's an antiquated "rule" and it's really no one's business what your "purity" level is on your wedding day anyway, so I'd hope they're not trying to read it by the color of your wedding dress.

If they are really your friends, they'll get the message loud and clear and drop it; they may not realize they were going over the line. If they don't drop it after that, you might consider dropping them, because it's really inconsiderate of them to continue jabbing you after you've made it clear it's upsetting to you.

 

[Anna114]

Tell them that you are planning on becoming a Born-again virgin the night before your wedding.

They are surgeries for such things

 

[SiAmCrAzY]

Don't let the negativity of others ruin one of the happiest day's of your life
As hard as it may seem I would chalk their bad behavior up to insecurity and jealousy and not give it another thought. If they bring it up again try not to think about what they are saying or why.
I guarantee the reasoning behind their taunts has more to do with their own issues than they are willing to admit. I know it sounds cliche, but sometimes the best revenge is truly being happy for all of the right reasons and it sounds like you have allot to be happy about

Best Wishes to you and your DF!

 

[Disney Doll]

I'd probably start looking for some new friends.
Ones who aren't so "witchy".

 

[kaytieeldr]

Oh, please. One of my favorite "fluff" tv shows is Say Yes to the Dress on The Learning Channel. It takes place at Kleinfelt's in New York (apparently world-famous?). Anyway, just today, on a single show, out of four brides who purchased white dresses, at least two were 100% NOT virgins - and so, by the OP's frenemies' 'standards', not entitled to wear those dresses.

One had married quickly a year or so earlier, just before her mother passed away so her mom could be there. Now she was having the whole big wedding thing, complete with, yes, gorgeous white gown. The other had been with her fiance for nine years; their six year old son was going to be, in his own words, "the ring barrier" He was adorable - and yes, his mom was wearing, you guessed it, a white gown.

OP - pulling from a couple of the suggestions here (you both know who you are ), you could tell those twits that etiquette* states it's acceptable for ANY bride to wear a white wedding gown, provided she balances it with black or red lingerie from Frederick's of Hollywood... as you have already arranged

*I can change my name to Etiquette if it will make you feel more comfortable, i.e. you wouldn't be misleading them.

 

[Saphire]

Rora, I wish you all the best in your marriage.

I will admit some confusion when some brides insist on wearing white when it symbolizes virginity. There IS a tradition in our country of a white wedding gown reflecting innocence and purity. If you don't adhere to traditional standards and thinking, then why not choose another color? Why do you prefer white?

 

[manning]

I only read the original post but it is real simple

Your wedding, your decission and tell them to mind their own business

 

[kaytieeldr]

Saphire - with twelve days until the wedding, it's probably too late for Rora to change her dress color.

 

[remyandhollandsmommy]

I hate it when people say things like this..I mean really what do they WANT from you?? Should you say, "yes you are right, I will go right now to the dress store and tell them to dye my white gown a flaming red to announce to all that I am not pure enough..would that make you happy?" Hmm, I wonder what their faces would look like lol..

Enjoy your day and the JOY the white symbolizes..don't let others take that from you..easier said than done I know..