One thing to remember is that there's no such thing as a "perfect" trip. If you drive yourself crazy trying to make everything perfect, you'll only end up frustrated. I think you're doing a great job already (and your family is lucky to have you and your mad planning skills, whether they realize it or not!).
As others have said, you're going during a really busy time of year. Plan what you can, realizing you won't be able to do everything. Figure out your priorities, decide what you can skip, DEFINITELY use FP+ (three per day), make at least one ADR per day, get to the parks at least 30 minutes before opening so you can maximize the lower lines during the slowest time of the day, then go with the flow and enjoy the wonderful holiday atmosphere! Realize that a few glitches will happen, and keep your sense of humor! Enjoy your time with your family!
This is so true! There is no perfect trip, but there can be a perfect vacation, so that is how I would look at this.
You are going at one of the lovliest times of year. The parks are all dressed up in their Holiday Finery, the resorts are gorgeous. There are special shows and events throughout the parks, especially in Epcot. Disney is all decked out for the Holiday and you are there!
I would plan the 3 FP for each park. If you don't use them, no harm no foul, they are free. My family generally plans them earlier rather than later in the day, but that is just how we tour. When we plan a late arrival in the park, we schedule the FP for about an hour after we get there. I would suggest that you come up with a rough touring plan for each park day and then plan FP for the area you are in. This is especially helpful in MK, because the FP attractions are scattered throughout that park.
Make the most of the first days of your trip, they will be the least crowded, and you will manage to complete a lot during that time. AS your trip progresses you will notice the uptick in crowds, so if that is the time you are planning a little more downtime, that would be good. Make sure that any parks you plan to visit have your FP in place. That way you will not be wasting 90 minutes in line for Soarin' and 60 for Tower of Terror.
Take some time to resort hop. You are in the perfect spot fot that, the Epcot resorts are beautifully decorated, with spectacular displays. Also try to hit the monorail resorts as well. The Grand Floridian is especially beautiful, and WIldeness Lodge is like a Christmas movie come to life. The displays all have Hidden Mickeys and we can take so much time just searching for them! Family favorite!
If you want to attend the Candlelight Processional, consider a dining package for that. It is pricey, but the show is a event that my family does not miss on Holiday visits. ALso, if you are planning !Fantasmic, plan a dining package for that one as well. It is one credit on the
DDP, and includes an appetizer. You will avoid that long wait for the show, and can eat right in the park, so no time wasted looking for dinner.
FP+ is a mindset. You are not obligated to meet the window. It is an aid to planning your day, and can be used to help you tour effectively. Whatever you do, make your FP plans and if you want to toss them out when you arrive, you can, but you know you have your spot in place if you want it.