How are your relationships with your parents?

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Lindy -

We're quite a bunch, aren't we? On the flip side, I guess most of us turned out pretty well in spite of the parenting horrors.

 

[bubie2.5]

Both my parents are dead now. I got along great with my father but he died the week before my 16th birthday. With my mother it was more complicated, I lived my life trying to please her, and although I pretty much succeeded at it, my self esteem was destroyed in the process. When I fell in love with my partner I had just turned 30 and she didn’t seemed that shocked when I told her that DP and I were an item, even though I had never been with a woman before. I have a gay stepbrother that my father disowned when I was 2 and he 18. Although my father never mentioned him again, I grew up hearing beautiful stories of him told by my mother, and when my father died we were able to reconnect. I guess that having seeing what homophobia can do to a family, she decided to support me, no matter what.

The 9th will be the first year since my mother passed away; I learned she had less than 5 years to live three days after I told her I was gay. She lived less than 2 years, but during that time we grew closer in a more profound way. I felt she finally loved me for who I was, and she knew that there wasn’t anything I wouldn’t do for her.

 

[NikkiPants]

My relationship with my father was good. He passed away a year ago, though. My dad told me he knew that I wasn't into guys since I was younger just by my disposition, even though I'm quite girly. He actually convinced my mother to talk to me when I first came out. She was very upset and said she felt like her best friend died or something equally as odd. But now...it's really odd. She jokes around with me and is nice to me on an average basis, but when she's in a bad mood or upset she takes it out on me. I'm not the only one who notices. Everyone does. It's so odd. I can get along with her, but I am still her target. And she treats my sister like gold. I didn't think about the logic, but I suppose I'm not the "daughter she always wanted to have." Though I find it funny because I am the first of her children to graduate college, I graduated with honors, which used to be a big deal to her, and I'm the first to get into a serious relationship and start a new life outside of my house. You'd think she'd be proud!

My stepfather has a gay son and another lesbian daughter....so he and I have no guffs in that area.

It's interesting to read everyones stories.

 

[rosiep]

Welcome to the boards Nikkipants!
Thanks for sharing your story too.

-Rosie

 

[TinkerChelle]

PLUS

and you get my MOM

DAD

Mom - you never know who you'll be talking to Piper laurie or Sue Anne Nivens
Dad - He's a little ecentric.

Priceless!!!

My family situation is mostly good. I have no relationship with my father but that has nothing to do with my sexuality. He left my mother and I when I was an infant and had minimal contact with me after that. Needless to say, I have no idea where he is at right now. My mother was very accepting of my lesbianism-almost from the start. She was shocked, but never angry or anything like that. In the years before she passed away she was probably closer to my DP than to me.
My closest family members are actually my aunt and uncle and their son, Gordie (whom I refer to as nephew). They are great and Gordie considers DP to be his Auntie, too. My DPs family is good, too. Not quite as accepting in that there is an underlying embarrassment at large family gatherings...you can feel it. But, mother in law and dad in law are great as is her sister. In fact, her sister is expecting a baby due on 5/8!!! This week we will be Aunties again!! We are all very excited.

 

[RemixBoyNJ]

Hmm.. this is a tough one...

My relationship with Mom is a pretty good one, we speak about once a week or so. For a while we didn't speak cause we are both pretty stubborn and strong headed but we both grew up a bit. As for the gay issue it really isn't one. I was already living on my own for a while before I came out, and when we started talking again she just accepted it (actually everyone said they already knew, wish they could have clued me in and saved me some time and probably had a bit more fun). My stepfather is pretty cool.. he can be a bit much to handle for me sometimes, but my mom loves him and he treats my mom great and that is what is really important.

I haven't spoken to my biological father since I was 13 or 14 so at least 20 years now. We always had a rocky relationship and he was generally abusive to me. So when my parents divorced it was a good thing for me. I still have my moments of self doubt and all that go's along with verbal abuse but I have a great support system from my boyfriend and friends.

wow this is one of those deep conversations..LOL



Adam

 

[wallyb]

wow this is one of those deep conversations..LOL Adam

I know... We should get Dr. Phil over here to sort us all out -
(in a facetious tone) oh and Robin - she's so helpful too.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

If Dr. Phil butts in I am leaving.

 

[rpmdfw]

If Dr. Phil butts in I am leaving.

You'll have to race me to the door.

 

[wallyb]

Oooo! He's not going to like this.

 

[RemixBoyNJ]

AHHH!!!! DR. PHILL MAKES ME BREAK OUT IN HIVES

 

[wallyb]

If Dr. Phil butts in I am leaving.

You'll have to race me to the door.

AHHH!!!! DR. PHILL MAKES ME BREAK OUT IN HIVES

You all seem to have "issues".
Let the good Dr. into your head.

 

[rosiep]

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh...make him stop...Mommy make him stop!!!!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Dr. PHIL?!?! TandS'mom has inserted her finger down her throat and is now making gagging noises. (...why she is also talking like Bob Dole eludes her at the moment but it just feels right!)

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Mods - Please ban Wally for posting inappropriate content!

 

[paigevz]

I've never watched Dr. Phil.

 

[OrlandoMike]

Mods - Please ban Wally for posting inappropriate content!

Wally, go sit in the corner!

Don't let me have to tell Rick that you live in the South End of Boston!

(Rick, Friday nights at Fritz is a good bet! They have a large dumpster!)

 

[ridraggamuffin]

I am so lucky. My parents are great. They were always doing things with me and my brother when we were younger, like bike rides and camping trips. I had a fantastic childhood.
I desperately tried to come out to them, but I wasn’t brave enough. I thought it might change the way they were with me. I went away travelling for a year and spent hours on my mums bed before I went just talking. I so wanted to say “I’m Gay”, but it just wouldn’t come out. All I wanted was for her to ask me.
My year away was the most amazing time of my life and I well and truly came out to myself. When I returned home my parents had booked a family holiday to Disney and it coincided with Gay Days (they didn’t know).
It turned into the best holiday ever as I was in Pleasure Island with my brother, surrounded by gay people and I turned to him and said “ask me”, he knew exactly what I was referring to and asked me if I was Gay. It was such a relief to finally tell a family member and he gave me a big hug and bought a shot of raspberry vodka for us to celebrate! I told him not to tell my parents as I would do it the next day.
I was woken up the next morning with my father waking me up by saying “so I hear your gay” and he gave me a big hug and told me to hurry up as we were running late. My mum didn’t have a chance to talk to me right there, but we had a good chat in Animal Kingdom and she gave me a big hug as well.
Both my parents have been so great and we all laugh now about how I wanted to come out before I went away. My mother wanted to ask me, but was afraid I would have been offended if she had.
Since then I have found my partner and they adore him as if he was their own son. They have been so accepting and I couldn’t have wished for better.
My mum is already planning my wedding in Disney, even though I’m not engaged yet!

 

[wallyb]

Wally, go sit in the corner!
Don't let me have to tell Rick that you live in the South End of Boston!
(Rick, Friday nights at Fritz is a good bet! They have a large dumpster!)

I've never been in Fritz ... but I have been in that dumpster!

As for the rest of you -
Stop being babies - I could have called in the big guns!

Dr. Laura
She would "fix" our rainbow wagons!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

I've never been in Fritz ... but I have been in that dumpster!

As for the rest of you -
Stop being babies - I could have called in the big guns!

She would "fix" our rainbow wagons!

OMG! <runs fer the hills...>​