Being the 2 resorts you speak of are
DVC I suppose you own or are renting DVC.
Not including parks as your husband does not like to go.
I like OKW for the boat rides to DS the laid back feeling and the size of the rooms... as a bonus Olivia's is a great place to eat. OKW will also offer far more area to just do nothing...
BWV the rooms are small may seem more modern but that is just the theme of each hotel... There are far less places to relax at the BW but does have a few nice areas and the halls are indoors.
Unless he likes to watch sports and will spend time at a Bar --ESPN-- I would think OKW to be the better choice as this is it is great place to blow a day doing nothing....and or be able to take a relaxing boat ride.
If I had a person who was not going to the parks coming for similar points I would consider AKL Jambo house as there are just many indoor areas to relax and watch the animals. The rooms are nicer than both the above mentioned and it is a very unique hotel in the décor and having a savannah.
However in my humble opinion none of these resorts would be classified as a place a Hotel Snob would stay -- maybe AKL as they have some amazing suites, you should be considering GF, Poly and BLT should you want a step up in service and amenities compared to the rest of the DVC hotels.