It is my understanding that with ED you can opt out if the financial aid package isn't good enough.
Also, keep in mind that you can talk to the Financial Aid office at the school if you have a change in your income from last year. If you had to report income last year, alimony, but know you won't get it this year, that is something they will take into consideration and may rework the aid package for you.
You can opt out if it is impossible for you to pay, although I don't know who gets to determine what is "impossible." In my mind, taking $20-25,000 of loans a year or re-mortgaging my house are both impossible for me financially, but colleges may not agree with me. Also, keep in mind that I have heard there is a "blacklist" of sorts if you back out of ED. Some colleges share this info with other colleges. That is why everything I have ever read suggests only applying ED if you love the school and can afford it on your own. I am just worried that this particular school, since it fills nearly half its seats with ED applicants, may not have enough aid to give out for RD applicants. (Or in any case, enough for what I consider I need.)
I was able to add in the "special circumstances" area of the financial aid form the info about alimony and child support ending. I don't expect it will help much for her freshman year, since financial aid is based on last year's income, but I have run the estimated FAFSA for next year and know my EFC will be significantly less. Unfortunately, there is no guarantee at most schools that they will meet 100% of need, so it is hard to know what the future years will bring in terms of aid.
Maybe my chief regret is really that I haven't won the lottery.
Wake me when the next four years are over!
