Heterosexuals

[DisneyGirl4188]

There are days that I think maybe I should dump DH and date a woman. My house would probably be cleaner.

However, being attracted to men was never a choice. Being gay/straight/bi is not a choice.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

Nope. I didn't choose to be heterosexual anymore than I chose to be right-handed.

You can chose that too?!?!?!?!

Next ya'll gonna be tellin' me that you can choose eye color?!?!?!

 

[U2_rocks!]

Seriously though, I think the "choice" logic for some goes something like this:

We all choose to be in relationships with others. So although you may be attracted to someone of the same sex, you CHOSE to act on that attraction. You chose to be homosexual. Therefore, because of your choice, I am entitled to look down upon you as a wayward sinner.

Whatever.

I agree with the thought process. Trouble is, what are the other choices for a homosexual? A lifetime of celibacy? A lifetime trying to live a lie with someone to whom you're really not attracted? Not much of a choice if you ask me.

 

[mrsltg]

There are days that I think maybe I should dump DH and date a woman. My house would probably be cleaner.

However, being attracted to men was never a choice. Being gay/straight/bi is not a choice.

No kidding. I joke with my mom all of the time that I should be a lesbian - at least my house would be clean and the simple concept of replacing the toilet paper (meaning, back on the roll) wouldn't escape her....

 

[U2_rocks!]

Nope. I didn't choose to be heterosexual anymore than I chose to be right-handed.

Funny thing (and there may be a lesson to be learned here) ...... DH was born left handed, and his parents and school forced him to become right handed. He was never able to be comfortable with it, and to this day his writing is some sort of strange, stilted printing! His brain was wired for him to easily write with his left and he was forced to do the opposite, and that made his whole school life so much more difficult than it ever needed to be, and the end result was that he has never learned to write well. There are times when I think trying to force something does more harm than good.

 

[sweet angel]

Hetero here....Nope, I sure didn't choose but I like the way it turned out Good grief, Woman...what are you doing? You're going to get yourself roasted

I was just pondering...sometimes, I ponder.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I'm actually a gay man living in a womans body and loving every minute of it.

I thought I was the only one!

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

I thought I was the only one!

It's time to come out of the closet...and wear those fabulous shoes while you're at it.

 

[SillyMe]

So does that mean that bi-sexual people just haven't made their choice yet?

Add me to the gay man living in a woman's body.

 

[jrmasm]

So does that mean that bi-sexual people just haven't made their choice yet?

Add me to the gay man living in a woman's body.

No it means that they have chosen not to discriminate.

 

[RunDanceSkate]

Nope. I didn't choose to be heterosexual anymore than I chose to be right-handed.

Now what does that say about me LOL. I choose to be right-handed. Actually I choose to be left-handed as a child because I wanted to be different. Until Grade 3 I used both hands (and feet/arms/legs) equally well, and a teacher insisted I choose. So I choose Left and then when DH and I started dating, he accidently slammed my hand in the sliding door of his van and I couldn't use my left hand for over 6 months (my mom says I married him to punish him ) so I became a righty. As a seamstress I find it easier to be right handed, but I still use my left more then the average person.

My kids were both the same way, it wasn't until they started figure skating that they were forced to choose, because they had to choose which direction to rotate their jumps and spins. They both choose right handed because it is easier to find right-handed dance and pairs partners. They both like to confuse visiting or fill-in coaches by jumping in one direction, spinning in the other. Or jumping one way then the other.

So maybe if some people choose to be right or left handed maybe some people can choose their sexual orientation. I think it is like that line or range that someone else mention. Extreme righty to extreme lefty and some of us are sitting on the teeter totter point.

C who just realized that her mouse is to the left of her keyboard, is that normal?

 

[korbbec]

No kidding. I joke with my mom all of the time that I should be a lesbian - at least my house would be clean and the simple concept of replacing the toilet paper (meaning, back on the roll) wouldn't escape her....

See- this is how I *know* that it is not a choice. After dating 5 years worth of losers I actually pondered turning to the other side too. I thought about my girlfriends and how easy it is to be with them and how much men stink. Wow- great idea I thought.... then I thought about being intimate and it made my skin crawl . I want a man. And that is how I know it is not a choice.

 

[Luv'sTink]

I have a friend who is Lesbian and she will tell you that she did CHOOSE to be Lesbian because she could go either way and choose women over men.

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

I was just pondering...sometimes, I ponder.

Yeah...your kind usually does.

 

[SillyMe]

No it means that they have chosen not to discriminate.

 

[JoeEpcotRocks]

I wonder how many people who "think" they are heterosexual are in fact homosexual. They just grew up thinking they should be a certain way and never explored what they were really feeling inside. I think some of the homophobes are really just afraid of what they really are.

Oh brother!

 

[Heidict]

Funny thing (and there may be a lesson to be learned here) ...... DH was born left handed, and his parents and school forced him to become right handed. He was never able to be comfortable with it, and to this day his writing is some sort of strange, stilted printing! His brain was wired for him to easily write with his left and he was forced to do the opposite, and that made his whole school life so much more difficult than it ever needed to be, and the end result was that he has never learned to write well. There are times when I think trying to force something does more harm than good.

Same thing happened to my Uncle. They used to make his stay after school so that he could learn to write right handed. I guess they made him practice to much though, because he had perfect penmanship.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Oh brother!

Hey Joe! Haven't run into you since you boinked me with the bible. How you doing Fella

 

[SillyMe]

Hey Joe! Haven't run into you since you boinked me with the bible. How you doing Fella

 

[Miss Jasmine]

No, I didn't choose, it's the way I am. Now I can believe that there are some people for whom it is a choice. For example, bisexuals may decide it is too much hassle being with someone of the same sex so they decide to be heterosexual. BTW, I don't believe sexuality is necessarily an either/or thing....I think there is a contiuum and there are some on one side, some on the other, the rest in between somewhere. So, the 'in-betweens' could easily decide to go one way or the other but for the folks on either end - no, not a choice. Hmmmm.....maybe those people who insist it is a choice are the ones in the middle.

I believe that there is a continuum as well.

I have a friend who is Lesbian and she will tell you that she did CHOOSE to be Lesbian because she could go either way and choose women over men.

That would make her bisexual, she just chose a certain partner, plus she may further on the female side of the continuum.