Help with a ridiculous situation? (long, sorry)

[Disney1fan2002]

Can you believe the OP being mad at the responses here? That's anger going in the wrong direction!!

Her "dear" husband should be on the couch until this gets resolved, and HE should be the one to be forced to seek counseling for being a "foolish, peer-pressure-susceptible goof."

This is just plain nutty!

....and considering the title of her OP says she needs HELP with a situation, what kind of she was she expecting? That we would all think this was somehow NORMAL and just come up with ways to fix the lie? I don't get it.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Last week my husband told me a story. It was about "somehow," at his work, word had gotten around that I am pregnant (which I am not). Either someone else started this misinformation and it spread without input from DH, or someone innocently asked if I was pregnant and he said yes, just to be "funny."

OK, from someone who had a friend who is desperately trying to get pregnant, and has not been able to, I think any man who has been "trying" for years, and knows the disappointment and heartache that goes along the hope and desire that this will be the month and it's not, then you hope it will be the next month, and it's not, that that man would "be funny" about his wife being pregnant. Not to mention EXTREMELY insensitive to your feelings, here you are trying to get pregnant, with no luck, and he is asking you to "fake" something you have not been able to do.

 

[MBeds]

Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what.

WHAT!!??? There is something seriously wrong with you two...To actually fake a tragic event is just....oh my God, i cannot even come up with something...i guess i'll just sit here with my jaw dropped shaking my head...

 

[Michie]

WHAT!!??? There is something seriously wrong with you two...To actually fake a tragic event is just....oh my God, i cannot even come up with something...i guess i'll just sit here with my jaw dropped shaking my head...

I agree with you. I do think some people will resort to anything to get attention these days.

 

[Ranatra]

]because I'm sure that the OP isn't going to come back here

Would you?

 

[BoyLovesBuzz]

All the OP has to do is find a drug addicted single mom that has just given birth. Have an criminal ex-boyfriend kill her, and steal the baby.

Last week, Law and Order on TNT. I think we have been bamboozled.

 

[Pugsley]

Well, I hope she’s at least reading the thread and it encourages her to give this situation a little bit more thought. She really doesn’t seem to grasp the seriousness of this. It is warped on the part of her husband and frankly it sounds abusive to me. This man has forced her to lie. She didn’t seem to think she had any other option, which in itself concerns me. Was she afraid of the consequences if she decided to say, “oh, he was just kidding, I’m not really pregnant”??? He forced a woman who “has tried very hard to get pregnant” to pretend that she is! And then he’ll likely make her pretend to have a miscarriage. Sick.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Or they could go Desperate Housewives

Buy a baby from a Drug Addicted Mom, move far away to Wisteria Lane so the Mom will never try to get the baby back, and hope you never get that knock on the door ---


or you might end up burying a deep dark secret beneath your new swimming pool.

 

[palmtreegirl]

All the OP has to do is find a drug addicted single mom that has just given birth. Have an criminal ex-boyfriend kill her, and steal the baby.

Last week, Law and Order on TNT. I think we have been bamboozled.

Yeh, I don't believe the story either.

 

[Tigger_Magic]

Would you?

After starting a thread like this, I'd permanently retire the screen name and start over with a new one.

 

[Snoopymom]

If this is not an isolated incident, then maybe you should take a long hard look at things and see if he's not a pathological liar and you have become somewhat of an enabler.

I know a couple in this situation. He lies about medical problems, money, possessions, you name it, all to impress, or get attention or sympathy from people. He truly does not have a clue that we all know the truth and if confronted, he verbally attacks and turns the tables on you..."how can you accuse me of...."

I've watched his wife, a kind, well educated person...great upbringing and family, gradually fall in step right along side of him. It's actually quite pathetic and almost painful to watch.

Please don't let this happen to you and seek help. I can't imagine someone without this serious type of problem casually lying about a pregnancy. Hugs!

 

[MamaLema]

Can we take bets on when this thread will be locked? I'll give it 2 more pages

 

[Poohnatic]

Your husband is messed up.

A story most people don't know about me (because I found it extremely embarassing).

Ex husband and I worked for the same employer in NY. I got laid off, he got transferred to Maryland. Me, being homesick and not making friends quick enough, gained a little bit of weight in a short time (I think 20 pounds in a few months). I got rehired in a different department, but left after a few months for a different career. However, I visited the facility often.

One of the other coworkers that had also been transferred (there were 5) was on the phone to one of their NY coworkers and mentioned that I was expecting. Imagine my surprise when a card came to me congratulating me on the 'new bundle of joy'-I hope it looks like you and not Bozo (name changed).

I called him at work, trembling. I was mortified that ANYONE would think I was pregnant. He pulled the other NY transplants into his cube and said that I was not pregnant, wasn't trying to become pregnant and let them know in uncertain terms that they shouldn't annnounce such information without confirming with the two parties who would know for sure.

THAT IS WHERE YOUR HUSBAND IS LACKING. As soon as anyone mentioned you being pregnant, he should have said, I'm sorry, she's not. He has no consideration for your feelings (whether you're ttc or not, he's put you in a very awkward situation). IMO, he should be the one to correct this mistake.

And I'm with everyone else who has question about WHY he'd allow something like this to go on. Girlfriend who IS pregnant? The fact that he keeps close tabs on OP's whereabouts screams out that he's stepping out on her and wants to ensure she doesn't catch him in the act.

Suzanne

 

[bumcat]

Your husband truly scares me.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Not to sound rude at all, but does your dh have a history of cheating? I don't know him so I can't judge him, but if it was me. One of my first thoughts would be that he told somebody he was having a baby with a gf and somehow it got around that you were pregnant. So instead of telling you somebody else is pregnant he made up this story.

I thought the same thing.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

The truth is just staring OP in the face and she is choosing not to look - as stated before, DH had an affair, his GF is pregnant and due in April. Plain and simple.

 

[minkydog]

The truth is just staring OP in the face and she is choosing not to look - as stated before, DH had an affair, his GF is pregnant and due in April. Plain and simple.

Either that or the man has a serious psychiatric disorder.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

This new screen name isn't her first. I wonder what happened to Lady Aurora.

 

[phillybeth]

The truth is just staring OP in the face and she is choosing not to look - as stated before, DH had an affair, his GF is pregnant and due in April. Plain and simple.

ITA. The whole thing is sad and pathetic.

 

[GEM]

The truth is just staring OP in the face and she is choosing not to look - as stated before, DH had an affair, his GF is pregnant and due in April. Plain and simple.

You know what's sad? I HOPE that's what's going on. I think, if I was the OP, I would prefer that scenario over finding out my DH was just totally messed up in the head, like this makes him seem. I'd probably breathe a huge sigh of relief!