Help with a ridiculous situation? (long, sorry)

[Disney Doll]

We actually have tried very hard to get pregnant for a long time, and no go. I suggested that it should be a false alarm, and he said no, I'm "too far along." And I've had "morning sickness." I think he has his head in the sand about the results of this tale he's told.

With all due respect, if you guys are having difficulty getting pregnant, and now your DH has concocted this story, and you can't get out of it because "you're too far along", then it speaks to a problem with him, IMHO.

DH & I went through years of infertilty...multiple IVFs, lots of money, lots of heartache...all to no avail. It can be very difficult to go through it, and it wouldn't be out of the realm of possibility for it to be emotionally/psychologically affecting your DH somewhat. Think of it from a man's perspective...they can't get their wife pregnant because they're not "virile" enough, "man" enough, "whatever" enough. So make up a little story that she's pregnant. He's not hinking it through though...what happens in 9 months when there's no baby??????? His colleagues are going to find that a lot more strange than if you "lose" the baby now.

I wouldn't ignore this behavior from DH...this is beyond a practical joke,especially with your extenuating circumstances.

 

[Fanci]

I would be asking DH so many questions about this whole situation...

 

[tekmom]

There is NO way I would have EVER gone along with a story like that. My husband would have just had to be made to look like the fool that he was, if it were me. That the OP went along says alot about her dynamics as well. Where are they planning on getting a baby, should that man o hers decide he doesn't want a "tragic" occurance come spring?? I would have told the truth....just ask my husband. I'm always getting the "you're always out to get me". Too bad. Sorry but I think you and your husband are nutbars.

 

[NMAmy]

You know, I told DH about this, and then got to thinking - What if the OP's hubby lied about his wife being pregnant to cover up for needing some time off - coming in late, leaving early - that sort of thing. And now he needs his wife to go along with it, but he can't tell HER what started the lie cuz she doesn't know about the time off........

Yikes! My mind's working overtime on this one!

You know, this was my thought, too. If it was just something like he said she was pregnant to "be funny" then why are the co-workers mentioning morning sickness? He's obviously been elaborating on the original story of her just being pregnant. It sounds as though there's a LOT going on here and my mind is working overtime, as well, as to what the OP's husband is REALLY up to.

 

[phorsenuf]

The whole thing is sickening. I'd love to say what I feel, but if I do, I wouldn't be here anymore.
You both need some serious help.

 

[airhead]

...that the op is young and not very assertive when it comes to
making mature choices. Honey,tell hubby the games is over. Tell him to come clean with his co-workers and not to EVER put you in this kind of situation again. See,when one tells just a little lie,one must keep on lying to cover the previos told lie!
You made a bad choice to cover for your hubby. You can stop it right now! Good luck!

 

[phorsenuf]

My guess is if the hubby fesses up he'll lose his job. I doubt the bosses will take to kndly an employee being so deceptive, never mind immoral and untrustworthy.

 

[allicat]

At work, people usualy lie about why they need time off or being sick or why they came in late, not that their wife is pregnat when she really isnt.

To me, its a very odd thing to make up, especially for a man to make up this story at work. I wouldnt really consider it a practical joke because those are usually funny. If he tells his coworkers you arent pregnant, they will this he's wierd for making it up-not funny.
If you couldnt even figure out a reply when the boss asked about your morning sickness, how will you respond when coworkers expres their sympathies about your miscarriage and send flowers to the house. If I was you, it would make me feel terrible and angry towards my husband.

 

[minkydog]

Well all I can think of is all those HORRIFIC situations where the women astart with a little bitty white lie about being prego -
and it results in them killing a nine month prego woman and stealing the baby

I for one Hope that the two of you are NEVER really blessed with a pregnancy.

That's something of a leap, doncha think? What a terrible thing to wish on someone

 

[Tigger_Magic]

Just when I thought there was no way a thread on the CB could shock me, along comes this one. This just reeks of a "Twilight Zone" episode...

 

[Marseeya]

There is NO way I would have EVER gone along with a story like that. My husband would have just had to be made to look like the fool that he was, if it were me. That the OP went along says alot about her dynamics as well. Where are they planning on getting a baby, should that man o hers decide he doesn't want a "tragic" occurance come spring?? I would have told the truth....just ask my husband. I'm always getting the "you're always out to get me". Too bad. Sorry but I think you and your husband are nutbars.

Same here!

My DH has a history of lying (saying things to make himself look better). I've made it very clear that he won't lie about me, or he'd be facing some embarrassing consequences. I think he only did it once and learned the hard way (I believe he told someone I was in law school).

Lying is such a hard habit to break! I can't help but wonder if it's some kind of mental disorder (probably is).

 

[momo3hods]

What a horrible story, here's to hoping that is all it is.....

 

[Maleficent13]

Wow. Just, wow.

I can't even think of a response.

I do think some are harshly judging the OP, though. She didn't create the lie...and as someone said, hubby may lose his job if she called him out. Perhaps they can't afford for him to be unemployed (and who can, really?). I agree the husband has some serious issues...and I agree that I too thought he was using this as an excuse to miss work...or there is someone else pregnant...

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Wow. Just, wow.

I can't even think of a response.

me too.

I'm just like HUH?

I don't understand this one at all. Why in the world would your DH ever start this and then continue it with tales of morning sickness or whatever?

 

[mickeysgal]

Your title of this being a "ridiculous" situation just doesn't begin to cover it. That a husband would create a story like this does not sound like rational behavior. There is no good enough explaination to explain this behavior. Does he crave/need attention so much that he's willing to lie like this? As a wife, I wouldn't even consider going along with this "story". Period. Its not even an option.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Wow, this is bizarre, to put it nicely. I'm hoping that you and your husband have learned a lesson. I doubt that he has since he hasn't told you exactly how this happened. There have been a bunch of mistakes, but what is done is done and now you two need to figure out how to get out of it.

I'm all for telling the truth since lies are too hard to remember, but in this case I don't know how he can get out of it without telling one more lie, especially if he's worried about his reputation if the truth is found out. I would keep it as simple as possible, but either say that you miscarried or simply that you went for your first drs visit and there was no baby, so a pseudo pregnancy. Maybe brought on by your strong desire to get pregnant. That's not a total lie, perhaps.

As to why he did this and won't tell you the details, maybe this is totally farfetched, but maybe someone at work came on to him and he told her that his wife was pregnant. I can't think of what else could have started that lie. Or I can but then it paints him as even more unstable.

 

[tiff211]

WOw my husband would know better because I would hit the bar before I took my coat off.

My thoughts exactly. A Christmas party and I can't drink a few glasses of wine?!!! Oh no, honey, you 'd better come clean and they will be really talking about you on Monday morning, and your "pregnant" drunk wife. I might puff on a cigarette just to really make it look good!!! That'll teach him!!!

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Wow, I am speechless.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Okay I was not going to post anything because this is just off the wall.

Okay so you say the DH can't tell the truth because he might lose his job.
Wouldn't it be better to get out of it early on? Like Oh we thought she was pregnant but it was a false alarm. WHY continue on with this? What good can come out of it. NONE!!!! Like any lie it is only going to get worse. What happens when they bosses want to send something to the hospital or whatever, what than. A lie is a snowball, it just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

Somebody needs to seek help. Because I don't care how you look at the OP's story there is no getting around there is a problem. And there is NO way in Heck I would have gone along with that kind of story for any reason.

 

[4cruisin]

You have a major problem either way...either your husband is a pathological liar or he got someone pregnant and is trying to cover his tracks. I would be investigating much more about his whereabouts to see what he has been up to.