3DisneyNUTS
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OK A huge amount of stuff went down at DS preschool and it has been a stressful week for us.
First off my son teacher was on leave pending and investigation into and "incident" that happened to a child. Anyway it was cleared and she was found not to have done anything wrong. I am happy about this because I like his teacher.
While she was gone 3 days...they had a "special event" at my son's school. This is where the parents are invited in to celebrate the theme of the month with an activity. This month was a craft. This happened to be a Thursday.
When I arrived (my son is in a 12-1-1) We all paired up with our children. Only 2 parents had attended including myself . Each child was assigned an aid so they had someone to help them with the craft. Being 2 of us were there 2 "aides" were left without a child so they just helped out on a whole.
There was a little child who had a permenant one to one aid (she is there for him always everyday not just for the event). She was having a rough time getting him/her to cooperate for the craft and instead of giving her/him time to regroup, she was almost forcing her/him to participate..I say almost because it bothered me how she was dealing with the situation but it didn't cross a line yet. It just seemed she was losing control a little and losing her patience. She was almost treating her/him like a sibling would treat an annoying brother/sister.
(ok I am switching to just using a generic "him")
When the activity was finished we were able to go back to class and since it was lunch time we were able to stay with our kids. This child had a hard time sitting and was protesting when the aid tried to get him to sit. Quickly she lost control and he threw himself out of his chair onto the floor right on his back. she gets up and says in a high voice " I am done! I can't do this anymore! I quit. I can't take this anymore I quit!" and runs from the classroom without checking to see if he was ok, leaving him on the floor.
Since there were so many other staff members in the class because of the special event, they rushed to the child and immediately started damage control. The took the boy for a walk to calm him down (I am not sure if it was to the nurse) and I was trying to keep my son from getting upset (he was ready to cry) and direct him back to his linch. Two other children started to act out and throw food at each other and the other mom just looked like she was in shock. The chaos quickly was back to normal since the aide was gone and the little boy was taken for a walk. About 5 minutes later the boy came back and sat at his table to each lunch. It was like night and day for him.
So two of the administrators come into the room and walk through. Thinking they would say something about what just happened I waited with my son helping him eat lunch. One comes and goes and the other comes in and walks over to the teacher and the other staff in the room. After about 5-10 minutes she says nothing and they all act like nothing happened. So I am angry and decide I am taking my son home since I need time to think about how to approach this. I really did not want to leave him in the class with all the turmoil.
While I am leaving I cannot let this "go" until later and I ask to speak to the director in the hallway. She proceeds to tell me the aid was having a "bad day". I told her I hope so since this was completely unacceptable. I then have to leave because I could feel myself getting upset and I did not want to have this discussion infront of my son.
So I drop my son off the next day and the aid is not there. I do not see her in the class anymore and assume it is all taken care of. AND his teacher is back from leave and it seems like they took care of the situation. I calmed down immediately and thought all was well.
WELL this morning I bring my son to school and I see the aid is back in the classroom. I am shocked. My son is pushing me out of the room because he is so excited to be back with his friends. I had a PTA meeting so I went to that (in the school a few doors away). The entire time I am worried about this aid being back. So I go home (ds takes the bus) and I call the school. I needed to speak with the head director of the entire school. She has left the building and I leave a voicemail. I call DH and explain to him what is going on. He is furious.
I wait 3 hours for a call back. All the while I am worrying about if I should just go and pick him up from school. It is tearing me apart since I know he needs the therapy he receives there and if I take him out he misses it.
First off my son teacher was on leave pending and investigation into and "incident" that happened to a child. Anyway it was cleared and she was found not to have done anything wrong. I am happy about this because I like his teacher.
While she was gone 3 days...they had a "special event" at my son's school. This is where the parents are invited in to celebrate the theme of the month with an activity. This month was a craft. This happened to be a Thursday.
When I arrived (my son is in a 12-1-1) We all paired up with our children. Only 2 parents had attended including myself . Each child was assigned an aid so they had someone to help them with the craft. Being 2 of us were there 2 "aides" were left without a child so they just helped out on a whole.
There was a little child who had a permenant one to one aid (she is there for him always everyday not just for the event). She was having a rough time getting him/her to cooperate for the craft and instead of giving her/him time to regroup, she was almost forcing her/him to participate..I say almost because it bothered me how she was dealing with the situation but it didn't cross a line yet. It just seemed she was losing control a little and losing her patience. She was almost treating her/him like a sibling would treat an annoying brother/sister.
(ok I am switching to just using a generic "him")
When the activity was finished we were able to go back to class and since it was lunch time we were able to stay with our kids. This child had a hard time sitting and was protesting when the aid tried to get him to sit. Quickly she lost control and he threw himself out of his chair onto the floor right on his back. she gets up and says in a high voice " I am done! I can't do this anymore! I quit. I can't take this anymore I quit!" and runs from the classroom without checking to see if he was ok, leaving him on the floor.
Since there were so many other staff members in the class because of the special event, they rushed to the child and immediately started damage control. The took the boy for a walk to calm him down (I am not sure if it was to the nurse) and I was trying to keep my son from getting upset (he was ready to cry) and direct him back to his linch. Two other children started to act out and throw food at each other and the other mom just looked like she was in shock. The chaos quickly was back to normal since the aide was gone and the little boy was taken for a walk. About 5 minutes later the boy came back and sat at his table to each lunch. It was like night and day for him.
So two of the administrators come into the room and walk through. Thinking they would say something about what just happened I waited with my son helping him eat lunch. One comes and goes and the other comes in and walks over to the teacher and the other staff in the room. After about 5-10 minutes she says nothing and they all act like nothing happened. So I am angry and decide I am taking my son home since I need time to think about how to approach this. I really did not want to leave him in the class with all the turmoil.
While I am leaving I cannot let this "go" until later and I ask to speak to the director in the hallway. She proceeds to tell me the aid was having a "bad day". I told her I hope so since this was completely unacceptable. I then have to leave because I could feel myself getting upset and I did not want to have this discussion infront of my son.
So I drop my son off the next day and the aid is not there. I do not see her in the class anymore and assume it is all taken care of. AND his teacher is back from leave and it seems like they took care of the situation. I calmed down immediately and thought all was well.
WELL this morning I bring my son to school and I see the aid is back in the classroom. I am shocked. My son is pushing me out of the room because he is so excited to be back with his friends. I had a PTA meeting so I went to that (in the school a few doors away). The entire time I am worried about this aid being back. So I go home (ds takes the bus) and I call the school. I needed to speak with the head director of the entire school. She has left the building and I leave a voicemail. I call DH and explain to him what is going on. He is furious.
I wait 3 hours for a call back. All the while I am worrying about if I should just go and pick him up from school. It is tearing me apart since I know he needs the therapy he receives there and if I take him out he misses it.