Help Me to NOT "ugly cry" at Son's Wedding

[Disney Deb]

SSIA.......sigh.....

I'm blessed to have a wonderful son who is marrying a terrific woman this summer. All is very, very good.....and I couldn't be more thrilled.

However. I tend to cry at graduations, any wedding (even TLC wedding shows), airport goodbyes, in fact....most goodbyes. I don't cry sweetly..and I definately cannot talk while crying. Yes. It's the UGLY CRY. When I'm part of a crowd, I can hide from making a spectacle of myself. I sobbed so loudly at the end of "Toy Story 3" as well as this year's "Les Miserable" movies.....thank goodness for darkened theaters.

I am especially concerned about the mother/son dance at the wedding reception. I cannot hide during this moment. My son wants to dance to the closing theme of "The Land Before Time" sung by Diana Ross. It's a beautiful song. When he was super-little, I used to get down on my knees and slow dance with him as the song was played during the closing credits of our VHS tape. During a recent visit (my son now lives 3000 miles away), we gave our dance a dry run....and I was a mess. I want this moment to be a happy moment....not one that I'm dreading. I also don't want this to be an awkward moment...and if I cry the way I think I might.....it surely will be.

Please help. Oh BTW....I have teardrops rolling down my face as I type this. And one more thing......I'd cry if we danced to "Take me out to the Ballgame". The song doesn't really make THAT much of a difference.

Thanks in advance,
Deb

 

[superme80]

Unavoidable! Sorry! My dad cried through walking me down the aisle, my wedding, and the father daughter dance. I knew he would and I still lovingly tease him about it. My parents adore DH and were thrilled we were getting married. My dad just cries at everything.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

SSIA.......sigh.....

I'm blessed to have a wonderful son who is marrying a terrific woman this summer. All is very, very good.....and I couldn't be more thrilled.

However. I tend to cry at graduations, any wedding (even TLC wedding shows), airport goodbyes, in fact....most goodbyes. I don't cry sweetly..and I definately cannot talk while crying. Yes. It's the UGLY CRY. When I'm part of a crowd, I can hide from making a spectacle of myself. I sobbed so loudly at the end of "Toy Story 3" as well as this year's "Les Miserable" movies.....thank goodness for darkened theaters.

I am especially concerned about the mother/son dance at the wedding reception. I cannot hide during this moment. My son wants to dance to the closing theme of "The Land Before Time" sung by Diana Ross. It's a beautiful song. When he was super-little, I used to get down on my knees and slow dance with him as the song was played during the closing credits of our VHS tape. During a recent visit (my son now lives 3000 miles away), we gave our dance a dry run....and I was a mess. I want this moment to be a happy moment....not one that I'm dreading. I also don't want this to be an awkward moment...and if I cry the way I think I might.....it surely will be.

Please help. Oh BTW....I have teardrops rolling down my face as I type this. And one more thing......I'd cry if we danced to "Take me out to the Ballgame". The song doesn't really make THAT much of a difference.

Thanks in advance,
Deb

Is it Kim Kardashian ugly? Or like... Cute girl in a movie supposedly ugly cries but still looks cute?

Maybe you can bring a nice hanky and use it to cover the your mouth area?

 

[Bob NC]

Just think about baseball.

Babe Ruth preferably.

 

[Disney Deb]

Is it Kim Kardashian ugly? Or like... Cute girl in a movie supposedly ugly cries but still looks cute?

Maybe you can bring a nice hanky and use it to cover the your mouth area?

Definitely NOT "Cute girl in a movie supposedly ugly cries but still looks cute". I just googled Kim Kardashian's ugly cry....and that's pretty close!!

Deb

 

[Southernmiss]

I haven't had a kid get married yet. But last year oldest ds graduated from high school as valedictorian and had to give the speech. The whole time leading up to graduation was a sob fest for me. I was emotional over everything. But surprisingly I was calm and cried no tears during the speech or graduation. I even took video and it wasn't shaky at all. ((My sister and sister in laws cried, though!))

Maybe you will do the same??

I have always cried at toy story 3 too.

Good luck op and enjoy the day.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Definitely NOT "Cute girl in a movie supposedly ugly cries but still looks cute". I just googled Kim Kardashian's ugly cry....and that's pretty close!!

Deb

I wouldn't be too concerned. I'm sure it's not as bad as you think nor do I think guests will be like,"OMG did you SEE Deb's face???"
I'm sure they'll be touched with your emotion, not care about your face.

But like I said, you could use a hanky. A nice silk one to match your dress?

 

[Handbag Lady]

Apply waterproof make-up and smile during the flood waters.

I am also a crying person and it just happens. Go with it instead of trying to hide it.

I wonder if we are just wired funny? You'll see a few criers time and again on The Price is Right and I have no idea why I notice them more than others.

 

[minkydog]

Oh, brother! I'm a crier. I cry at movies, fireworks, when certain songs play on the radio, at my kids' graduations, reading poetry. Heck, I cry every time I hear The Star Spangled Banner! There would be no stopping the waterworks during a mother-son dance.

Carry some pretty tissues and plan to bury your face in his shoulder while swaying to the beat of the music. Set up a "rescue signal" with your DH so if things just get too out of hand he can come get you.

Believe me, you won't be the first mom to bawl her eyes out at her child's wedding.

 

[kathie859]

Oh can I ever sympathize. I had my TV on as I worked in the kitchen today and a program came on about the Spanish Riding School and those gorgeous Lipazzan stallions. I was a little misty eyed watching the youngsters when they were first brought into the arena area to be trained. They just whinnied and whinnied. Broke my heart.

OP...Just go with it and have an attractive hanky on hand.

 

[Nolcrest]

You may surprise yourself.

I to cry at many sentimental things/movies.

In September when my son got married we danced to Puff the Magic Dragon. That song has always made me cry & I knew when my son was about 7 that I wanted to dance to that song.

Surprisingly, I didn't cry during the dance. My son was prepared and I think he tried to keep my mind off all the sentiment during the dance. The funny thing is once the song started to play you could hear an audible sigh from the guests when they realized what song it was and they all were singing the chorus throughout the song.

To this day, I play the song Puff & always cry but for some reason I didn't on his wedding day.

And anyway.....it's okay to cry...you're the mom.

 

[minniecarousel]

Def water proof mascara and a lovely hankie. And I agree - keep smiling. Surely you won't cry every minute! Hopefully, you'll just have "moments".

 

[Disney Deb]

Thank you all for your encouraging words.

I really like the idea of a fancy hanky to match my dress. I'm just expecting it to be very hard to look at my son's face. If I look into the crowd and see my mom.....let's just say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

I just don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable.

Deb

 

[superme80]

I just don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable.

Deb

They won't! Everyone will know how much you love your son. Crying, even ugly crying, at your son's wedding is ok.

 

[LiveYourLife]

OP, don't stress about this, please. No one says you have to look into your Son's eyes, or those of your Guests while dancing with him. Just bury your head on his shoulder, hold on tight, and enjoy every nano-second of the moment. If you cry, it's OK - it's an emotional day.

One other bit of advice: Big Fatty Mascara (I swear I need a pressure washer to get it off)

To me there is nothing more sweet than the emotions shown on the Wedding Day (except when the emotions are negative, dinner rolls and punches are being thrown, the police need to be called, yeah. Not good. But that's a story for another day!)

Enjoy your Son and Future Daughter-in-Law's upcoming Wedding! Stop to enjoy the little things - the day will go by in the blink of an eye!

 

[LiveYourLife]

Is it Kim Kardashian ugly??

Not to hijack, but Cassie, you crack me up!!!

KK is the ugliest crier on the planet! Lol!!!!

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Not to hijack, but Cassie, you crack me up!!!

KK is the ugliest crier on the planet! Lol!!!!

My mind immediately goes to Kim K when I hear the words "ugly crier".

 

[njmom47]

Another crier here.
I can't imagine how hard I will cry when my ds gets married (he is my baby!).

 

[indygirl99]

OP you are a cryer and your family knows this. I think they would expect it and think something was wrong if you didn't cry.

My siblings and I all teased my mom that she had better cry at our weddings like she did at everything else. And she did not disappoint us.

My stepdaughter is getting married in July and told her dad who cries at kleenx commercials that she expects him to cry at her wedding.

Get a fancy hanky waterproof mascara and enjoy. Oh and congrats on a great son and soon to be daughter in law.

 

[minkydog]

Thank you all for your encouraging words.

I really like the idea of a fancy hanky to match my dress. I'm just expecting it to be very hard to look at my son's face. If I look into the crowd and see my mom.....let's just say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

I just don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable.

Deb

Aww, hunny, nobody's going to feel uncomfortable seeing a mother cry at her child's wedding. Well, that is, if you aren't wailing, tearing your clothes and rolling on the floor.