Help me potty train! Need support!

[horner5]

Hello all!

My 3rd and last child to go through potty training is now 2 1/3 years old and she's more than ready to do this. In fact, she is in a home daycare environment during the day and stays dry all day and always uses the bathroom at her provider's house. However, she only goes sporadically at home. I'll tell her 'Let's go potty' every half and hour and whisk her off to the bathroom and I'm totally supportive and responsive, but she only goes for us at home when she wants to. Rarely will she tell us she needs to use the toilet at home, when I know she verbally expresses it during the daytime. It's so frustrating!!

I have regular underwear for her and can try to do this cold turkey, but does it work? I also bought some 'Feel and Learn' Pampers, and I could at least just use those at night.

Any good hints or bits of advice? My daycare provider told us to just bring her tomorrow in underwear (and extra clothes ). I want to keep the continuity going at home as well.

Thanks in advance! It would be nice for her to be diaper/pull-up free by the time we hit Disney World in December!

 

[ash&abby'smom]

I did not use pull up during the day at all. To me, that's like having a diaper on and I wanted her to feel it when she wet. She did not want to wear training pants. She wanted pretty panties. So, I took her shopping and she picked out her favorite character. She only had a couple of accidents. She made up her mind that she did not want to ruin her pretty panties.

Your daughter sounds like she is ready, so I say loose the pullups and diapers except at night. Maybe try the pretty panties. Good luck.

 

[kimwim8]

I would say to try the real panties & stick to it (except nap & bedtime) She'll get the hang of it. Since your daycare provider is all for it, I say do it!

Good luck!!!

P.S. - I was hoping to have DS trained for our trip....he's not even interested in trying....so much for that!

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Another "pretty panty" proponent here.

I officially got DD2 trained this weekend. She will be three in 4 weeks (from tomorrow)! Panties (and a little good peer pressure from daycare) were the key. She loves her princess, Blues Clues and Dora panties. The only problem we have now is her wnating to show them to everyone . I expect accidents, and she still wears pull ups at nap and bedtime. But I do not have to buy diapers anymore!!!! After 6 years straight I am very excited about that!

 

[aimee11621]

We are still potting training!

We have the pee pee part down totally! She won't even wet her bed at night.

BUT, the poopy part comes out right in to her panties. She won't tell me until she is finished and its too late.

She is with grandma during the week while I'm at work. Grandma, tells her she shouldn't do this . But, she does it anyway.
Grandma cleans her up and changes her clothing.

Help any suggestions we will be taking a long plane ride soon.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I posted this a couple weeks ago...the thread is around here somewhere
Anyways...When you have a day or two at home with her...take the diaper off...put panties on...clean up any accidents! My daughter was 2 1/2 and I swear she was trained that first day!!

 

[Mimi Q]

I am potty training my 2 year old right now too. So far the only thing that has worked for me is giving her a sticker every time she uses the potty. We are on day 2- so far so good.

 

[castlegazer]

Just finished day time potty training my son who is 2 1/2. I used many methods from the time he was 18 months getting him ready for the final big haul effort four weeks ago when we went on vacation - I am a working Mom too so I needed a long vacation week to do this in. We took diapers off completely for a week straight and kept with it - went out of the house very limitedly - and by the end of the week, only one at most accident a day. We then kept it up for the past three weeks after that intensive week - he wears underwear to school - and he is accident free. We used stickers to begin with then on that week long haul we used M&M's to increase the incentive, and the final incentive has been the best, Jelly Beans - he is addicted to them as he has no other sweets in his life, but they have been working like nothing else. You need to find what really gets your child going - something they rarely get and that you can handle giving to them A LOT. He gets two jelly beans - jelly bellies - for going and three for telling us he has to go. This way he usually has about 6-8 per day.

BUT, to aimee, He also has poop issues and is just getting that down this week. I don't know what it is, but it is fairly common. I would think you'd know you were going to go poop prior to going, but for some reason this is a whole separate ball game from the pee pee part of training. Tell your MIL that its common and she will get it in time.

The methods we used prior to the full out effort were haing the potty around from 18 months on, talking about bathroom things ALL THE TIME, bringing him wiht us to sit on his potty (pants up) while we went, and using a doll to have him train (he loved this and was very proud of his doll, stickers, M&Ms, and now Jelly Beans.

 

[aquidneck]

My little one had the incentive of going to Disney. We told her you can't go to Disney in diapers or pull ups. This meant at night also. It took a few months. Her siblings cheered each trip to the party that they were going to Disney. It took the whole family. We were planning to go to Disney anyway. It's just a great reward.

 

[Serena]

Help me potty train! Need support!

Each time I saw this title, I had to laugh. My twisted sense of humor made want to ask if you wanted us to hold your hand.


But you've gotten some good advice, good luck.

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

Originally posted by Serena
Each time I saw this title, I had to laugh. My twisted sense of humor made want to ask if you wanted us to hold your hand.


But you've gotten some good advice, good luck.

Yes, I caught that too. I wonder if the Tag Fairy catches it

 

[thelittlemermaid]

We are now working on the potty training. According to DD preschool teacher, she was getting very upset when it was time for the other kids to go to the potty and she wasn't going with them.

So we agreed this would be a good time to really push it on her. Plus it really helps that there are alot more girls in her preschool class this year, then last. There was only DD and one other girl out of 10 students.

But we are going with pull ups. Since DD has speical needs and a speech delay , we thought it would be better to do pull ups first since she is just starting.

 

[decker96]

I totally agree with those that have said just put her in underwear. It can be messy, but I think that it helps them train faster. Pull-ups are just like diapers, they can't feel if they're wet. My two oldest only used them at night. They hadn't come out with the feel-n-learns when my DS was training, so I'm not sure if they are good or not. My youngest just turned 1, so I'm interested to know if they do work.

 

[G&J's Mom]

I am in the process of training my 2 1/2 year old DS as well. He has the potty part down, but still is not consistent. I find him sitting on the toilet "after" he has pee peed in his underwear or diaper. I keep him in underwear when we are at home at night and most of the weekend and take him frequently to the potty. Daycare said they would work with him when I am ready and so is he.

When DD was training, I only put pull ups on her at night. She treated them as a diaper almost always. You could explain that they were big girl pants all you wanted to, but if it looks like a diaper, feels like a diaper then I guess to her it was a diaper.

aimee: It took my DD so much longer to get the poopy thing down. She had numerous accidents. It was exasperating. When she went for the first time on the toilet, I cheered, hooted and hollered. I think she finally went more on her own so she could see mommy act like a nut. Now DD and I cheer for my DS.

I was so happy when at 3 1/2 DD announced that she would no longer need the pull ups at night cause she would get up and go. She never had a night time accident after that See there is something to look forward to.

Denise

 

[castlegazer]

pull ups are the bane of existence in my very humble opinion. Each child is different, but let me put it this way - I have trouble getting my son out of them after nap time. They are super comfy and feel like his underwear and he KNOWS that he can slack off on going to the potty when they are on - saves having to take time out of playing to go sit on the potty - a pretty good deal in his mind. And Oh, those feel and learn don't bother him one bit to be on for extended periods of time.

I have come to the conclusion that pull ups are better for the parents, not for the child. If they are going to "feel and learn" they should feel wet pants - trust me, they all hate it and will do everything not to have it happen.

 

[frannn]

My DD will turn 2 this Thurs. Twice in the past few weeks, she said "PU" and held her nose before she did poop. I have never pushed to potty train her because she is only now beginning to walk on her own (due to massive spoiling). Should I push the potty training at this point due to her recognizing she had to poop (only twice), or should I let it go till she is better at walking and speaking (she can say anything that rhymes with Da Da, and Dino-saur, uh-oh, and a few other smaller words).

 

[oogieboogie]

I've done this with both boys and they've all been potty trained in one week. DS1 at 21 mo and DS2 at 27 mo.

1. No pull-ups
2. Give them lots to drink. I mean lots. Then take them potty every hour on the hour. No slacking. Don't care if they don't want to, make them go. Be firm on this.
3. Nothing but water 2 hours before bed time.
4. Nothing to drink at all 1 hour before bed time.
5. Right before bed time, take them one last potty
6. In the middle of the night, without turning on the lights, get them up and take them potty. I know this is hard, but it helps them stay dry thru the night.
7. Lots and lots of praises. Don't yell at them, don't make a big fuss if they have accidents. Just clean up the mess, take it to the potty and flush it. If the accidents happen in the underpants, just change the underpants, clean them up, dump the #2 in the toilet and tell them that's where it belongs.
8. Reinforce the idea of potty by letting them watch you use the potty. Kids want to do grown up things. Tell them this is the grown up way of potty.
9. No pull-ups (did I mention this?)
10. Lots and lots of hugs and praises. Rewards and bribes are good too!

Lots of luck to you all.

 

[decker96]

Originally posted by frannn
My DD will turn 2 this Thurs. Twice in the past few weeks, she said "PU" and held her nose before she did poop. I have never pushed to potty train her because she is only now beginning to walk on her own (due to massive spoiling). Should I push the potty training at this point due to her recognizing she had to poop (only twice), or should I let it go till she is better at walking and speaking (she can say anything that rhymes with Da Da, and Dino-saur, uh-oh, and a few other smaller words).

There's nothing wrong with trying if you think she might be ready. If she doesn't seem to be interested or doesn't understand what is going on, then just quit.
My oldest started sitting on the potty chair and peeing before we would put her in the bath when she was 22 months. She did this on her own with no prompting from DH or I. I didn't pursue it because everyone told me she was too young to start potty-training and it was just a fluke that she went in the potty chair. I wish I would have at least tried because it might have worked and when I did train her at 2 1/2 she had developed her stubborn streak and it took a while. At 22 months she was still in the "pleasing mom and dad" phase and it might have been easier.
We started trying to train DS and 2 1/2, he just didn't get it. We quit and tried 3 months later. It only took a week.

 

[horner5]

Thanks so much everyone! What great responses! OK, so I consider this day 1 of the journey. We've been home for 4 hours now and she's gone twice in the bathroom and has had on underwear since her bath before dinner. We'll see what tomorrow brings since her daycare provider wants us to bring her in her underwear....brave woman! God bless all of those wonderful daycare providers, they are truly a special lot.

It's been so long since I've initiated potty training (my other children are 13 and 9), that I've forgotten the routine. I think that it helps that she has her older brother and sister for motivation.

Thanks again....it's just what I needed!

Amy