...but I really do appreciate your input. Thanks, y'all. You are all very kind to take the time to try to help me.
So...basicallly...it's a toss up. LOL. You realize I am right back where I started, because you all wrote pretty much *exactly* what I was thinking. Great minds, and all that.
I hadn't thought about the constricting arms thing, although I do see how that could be a problem. I am athletic and active, and although no one will be expecting me to serve a tennis ball in the dress ( I hope) I need to think about how I am going to feel if I do feel constricted.
V necks do look nice on me; I am not particularly busty or anything, but the neckline just seems to flatter my face shape, or something. I get more compliments with v necks, it seems, but then, it's not like I wear off the shoulder lace tops o a regular basis. OTOH <here I go again> I would hate for all that &^%$#! weightlifting to go to waste by not baring my shoulders. The overhead military presses, the dumb bell shoulder flies, etc.etc. etc. ad nauseam.
I know, I know. I am being ridiculous. This wedding has made me a little

I am always saying to everyone else, "there are no bad choices, just different choices...so pick a direction and go with it!"
I'm such a little hypocrite.
Anyway, my "real world" friends (as opposed to you all, my "cyber friends") like the first dress about 3 to 1. I'd like to ask my DF because he actually has great taste but he refuses to help, because he wants to be surprised.
In the meantime, I still can't make up my mind.