Help!!! Is my vacation ruined?!

[discookiemonsta]

I'm sorry, but I would not sound as 'casual' about this situation as you seem to be. I would be furious and wound not have my dad in the room with us. If he is determined to go with you, then let him pay for his own room. End of story! So, how old will you have to be before you can go on vacation alone?

 

[greenpea89]

What about just taking a twin size air mattress and using it at POP? I checked on the search engine and lots of people have done it. It's crowded at night but they manage to get the air mattress in by moving the table and chairs when the mattress is on the floor (table and chairs in front of the door or table in front of the window and chairs in the bathroom) and then they prop the mattress up in the bathroom or against the wall during the day. It isn't ideal and it would definitely be "cozy" but it's doable. This way you may only need to pay a small nominal fee for the third adult which I think you have to do at any of the WDW resorts. If you want to have a little more room you could take an air mattress to one of the moderate resorts. Just trying to keep you on site and help you find a workable solution.
My response is a little different from others. Your dad is your dad and you aren't going to change him also you live at home so I can understand your need/desire to respect his wishes. Your BF has traveled with your family before and while this will be close quarters, as you said, you will be out most of the day and your Dad will be at the resort. So, you will have some alone time with your BF. You will be out all day and late into the night having a great time at the parks. I don't think your vacation is ruined and I think you will still have fun. Maybe not as much fun as you originally hoped but it will still be fun! Wishing you a wonderful stay and the best of luck!

 

[Harambe]

Boy, that's a tough one.

My only advice would be to not have a big blow-up with your dad, then storm off to Florida. You'll have a horrible time, then every time you think of Disney, that's what you'll remember.

None of us here on the DIS knows you, your dad, or the situation, so NO ONE should be saying anything about that, but you've been given a few good solutions to the extra guest thing.

Good luck!

 

[bgirl29]

Well said greenpea!!! I had exactly the same idea. About the mattress and trying to get along with dad.

 

[liftn]

Old enough to drink, old enough to smoke, old enough to go to war, but not old enough to go to Disney alone! Either you can't be trusted, or your dad has some issues that need to be worked out.

I think the issues need to be resolved rather then worrying about your trip. Doesn't he know that if you were going to do something, that you could do it anywhere, not just wait for Disney?

 

[eliza61]

You might as well go and cancel the trip. When your bF finds out the new plans, he is going to be looking for a new gf.

Can't say I would blame him. I know I'd dump a guy who suddenly sprang his mom on my vacation. Sorry Op, at 22 I think some ground rules need to be established. Daddy needs his own room. How long does he plan on sharing a room with his adult daughter? When you're 30? 40?.

 

[cindyfan]

I give you a lot of credit for respecting your dad's wishes.

Here's what my thought was.......
get 2 rooms at Pop!
Ask for connecting rooms. (may not get it, since you are all adults, but they will try!!)
Put it on the reservation that you and DBF are in one room. Dad in the other. That way you can reserve the room under you and DBF's names with the free PH.
and Dad's room is just for the room.
May actually need 2 seperate reservations.
Let dad know about the Free PH so he understands that the reservations need to be this way.
And if he insists... DBF can still sleep in the room with Dad. Then you have a bathroom all to yourself!!!!!!!!!!
I think that would be awesome, not to worry about anyone else using the bathroom.
Also, since you are on a tight budget..... let dad know you really want him to go, but he will need to pay for it..... and say it with lots of love and
Good Luck

 

[cheerforchelsea]

A single air mattress at the POP or the POR will work out fine....after all how much time are you really going to spend in the room. We taken an air mattress several times and it really does work out well. I hope that everything works out well and that you have a GREAT trip!!

 

[DisneyWorldOct08]

At 22 my younger brother was married with a baby. I can't stop thinking what would your dad say to that? He needs to let you go be an adult. I would have a long talk with him and if he still refuses to let you be an adult, honestly, I would probably look into moving out on your own.

 

[jadedbeauty14304]

I have an overprotective father too. I can understand your plight!
I agree with the PP, book a room only ressie at POP for dad. You keep your ticket upgrades with your package, etc... And dad can hang out by the pool all day, or drink to his hearts content at Classic Concoctions, or Petals. At the end of the day, you and your BF will not be able to sleep together. Big Deal, you can have a nice vacation, Daddy will be not having a heart attack, and if BF and you have a good relationship, don't worry about being dumped. If he does dump you, that is for the best, because you don't want a guy like that.

BF and Daddy can get to know one another well as they sleep in the same room and share a bathroom. I would love to have a room to myself at Disney!

 

[twinspluscade]

Under no circumstances, at the age of 22 (??!!) would I be letting my Dad dictate how I spent my vacation. Nor would I be including him in my plans.

What does your boyfriend think about this? I can't imagine he'd be thrilled about it. Doesn't he think it's wierd?

I'd calmly tell Dad that this vacation is for you and boyfriend only. If Dad really wants to go (and it sounds like he doesn't....sounds like he's just coming with because he doesn't want you and boyfriend share a room...), Dad can book his own (separate) package in his own (separate) room.

I'd also show Dad the responses you've received here on Dis, so he understands just how inappropriate it is to treat a 22 year old that way. He does realize many ADULTS (and at 22 you are an adult, no longer a child) your age are living on their own, some married and even with kids, right?!

 

[jadedbeauty14304]

I don't understand why so many people are flaming the dad. We don't know these people's situation. I don't think OP posted her original post to get a bunch of people who don't know her to tell her to move out, or tell her father off. Maybe the dad doesn't trust the boyfriend? Anyone think of that?

Her questions were Disney resort related.

I gave her my opinion in a previous post, but I would like to add one thing. Stay on property, get dad to pay for as much as he will pay for, and if you end up sharing one room for all three of you, just try to make the best out of it. Disney is magical, you have your mornings, afternoons, and evenings with your BF until you go to sleep.

 

[Frankiesmom]

I was also going to say; keep your package and then add a room only reservation for dad. That way everyone wins.

 

[twinspluscade]

I don't understand why so many people are flaming the dad. We don't know these people's situation. I don't think OP posted her original post to get a bunch of people who don't know her to tell her to move out, or tell her father off. Maybe the dad doesn't trust the boyfriend? Anyone think of that?

Her questions were Disney resort related.

I gave her my opinion in a previous post, but I would like to add one thing. Stay on property, get dad to pay for as much as he will pay for, and if you end up sharing one room for all three of you, just try to make the best out of it. Disney is magical, you have your mornings, afternoons, and evenings with your BF until you go to sleep.

IMO, the only situation where it would be acceptable for Dad to come with would be if OP is special needs, and needs some extra help.

Whether Dad trusts the boyfriend or not is a moot point when OP is 22 years old....Dad's not the one dating the guy (although after this vacation, boyfriend may feel that way )

 

[lilyv]

IMO, the only situation where it would be acceptable for Dad to come with would be if OP is special needs, and needs some extra help.

Whether Dad trusts the boyfriend or not is a moot point when OP is 22 years old....Dad's not the one dating the guy (although after this vacation, boyfriend may feel that way )

Exactly. My guess is OP is probably about a junior in college...That Dad feels he needs to control/keep an eye on/monitor/be in the same room with a 22 year old woman and her boyfriend leaves me with a very uncomfortable feeling.

 

[annie1995]

If it were me, I would keep my package and book a room only ressie for your Dad.

 

[DiznEeyore]

Wow, this thread is giving me flashbacks. When I was 22 and engaged, I was at the apartment my future dh and I were moving into (he was already living there; I would live at home 'til after the wedding a couple weeks later) and got very sick. My mother pitched a fit until my fiance drove me home (45 minutes away) in my car and had my brother drive my fiance *back* to the apartment so I didn't have any potential to spend the night there.

Now, when my brother was engaged (at the same age I was), *he* went away on vacation with his girlfriend all the time. My mom's view was that it was *her* parents' problem to worry about their daughter's "virtue".

So, OP, do you feel better now? There are parents out there who are even weirder than your dad, LOL!!!

EDITED TO ADD: To everyone who just says to tell her dad no, you have no idea how difficult things might get for her at home if she pushes this. That's the *only* reason I ever capitulated to my mother's ridiculousness. I didn't want to come home and find my belongings out on the lawn.

 

[BabyPiglet]

If he insists on going, make him pay for and plan out his part of the trip. You shouldn't have to scrambled to plan out these things when you're so close to the vacation, that's ridiculous.

 

[PilotWife]

What about just taking a twin size air mattress and using it at POP? I checked on the search engine and lots of people have done it. It's crowded at night but they manage to get the air mattress in by moving the table and chairs when the mattress is on the floor (table and chairs in front of the door or table in front of the window and chairs in the bathroom) and then they prop the mattress up in the bathroom or against the wall during the day. It isn't ideal and it would definitely be "cozy" but it's doable. This way you may only need to pay a small nominal fee for the third adult which I think you have to do at any of the WDW resorts. If you want to have a little more room you could take an air mattress to one of the moderate resorts. Just trying to keep you on site and help you find a workable solution.
My response is a little different from others. Your dad is your dad and you aren't going to change him also you live at home so I can understand your need/desire to respect his wishes. Your BF has traveled with your family before and while this will be close quarters, as you said, you will be out most of the day and your Dad will be at the resort. So, you will have some alone time with your BF. You will be out all day and late into the night having a great time at the parks. I don't think your vacation is ruined and I think you will still have fun. Maybe not as much fun as you originally hoped but it will still be fun! Wishing you a wonderful stay and the best of luck!

I was going to suggest the air mattress. or you could have dad reserve a room only and YOU stay in that room, and BF and him share a room. That way you still get your dining plan and tickets, and dad gets his way also with no dining plan and tickets.

Jennifer

Jennifer

 

[Dopey420]

Oh man this is funny stuff.

Here's what you do.... Be really romantic, lovey-dovey, all over each other the whole trip. Sneak back to the room often, etc.

Dad won't want to be around that for long!