Help...I'm Torn

[Not so Dumbo]

DH just booked a last minute trip to WDW for us. Since we are going in May we decided that our boys can't miss anymore school and so grandma and grandpa are going to watch them. Which leaves our DD1.5. Originally we planned on taking her, but last night DH suggested that we leave her home. That's where I'm torn between taking her or leaving her home. It would make the flight so much easier, as we didn't purchase a seat for her. Also, DH and I could actually ride things together. (ie test track, BTMR) Plus, lately she has been really showing her terrible 2 colors. Now on the other hand, DD is my absolute pride and joy ( she is my youngest and only girl ) I've never been away from her for more than 24 hours and that was only one time while we moved. After having 3 kids, just taking care of 1 really is a breeze and I keep thinking of all the things down there that she would just go crazy over.
I'm not sure that leaving her home is really even an option because my DMIL works full time and DFIL is retired and will be the only one home during the day (he's from the days were men didn't change diapers). I could possible ask my mom but she is raising my sisters kids and unless it's an emergency she usually doesn't want to babysit.
One more thing, DH and I are going back in December for a week for our 10th anniversary. ( gotta love annual passes )
Oh, what to do?

 

[karajeboo]

Personally, I would never leave my DD for that long until she was old enough to explain to someone if something were wrong. We never traveled more than 3 hours away from her for no more than 2 nights at a time. DH and I passed up a company paid trip to Spain when DD was 2.5 because we didn't feel that she was at a point where she could tell someone that she hurt or she didn't feel well. Our first week away was when she was 4.5 and we went to Jamaica and it about killed me! That's just my opinion.

 

[wilderness01]

Since you are going by yourselves in December, I would take her. It will be a special trip with the two of you doting on her. She won't remember it, but you will. Have fun.

 

[Not so Dumbo]

Thanks for your thoughts
I told DH that I asked the DIS what to do. He says, they told you to leave her home didn't they. I got to laugh and say no, actually they didn't.

 

[BeckityBobbidyBoo!]

Since you will have your trip with dh later in the year, I would definitely take her now.

 

[MomtoEmIs&Ow]

I don't think that you said how long you would be gone for???

If it was not a full week I would leave her at home. Then again DH and I have never had more than 2 nights away from our 3 kids If it is a week, I don't think that we would leave our youngest, but I think thats because like I said we have never been away without the kids that long, and I would miss him too much, and that may be hard on him for the first time. (getting a little off track here, sorry)

Our youngest DS is 2. I hope that no one is going to judge me, because I have said this. We are pretty over protective parents. But, I trust that since my parents raised me, and DH's parents raised him that they would be able to tell if my child is not feeling well..... I would only leave my children with someone that I trust and that I feel is capable. So if FIL is the only option, and you are not comfortable, then I would say no. But if you are comfortable with the arrangement you are able to make for your youngest, then I would say go for it, and have fun!!!

Even though you may be going twice in a year alone with DH, I don't think you can ever get enough time alone when you have three kids I know, we have 3 kids too, and there is never enough time for just us. So if you decide to go, have fun!!!!!

Lisa

 

[danx2plus3more]

i love disney because of my kids i enjoy having fun with them there..i could never leave them at home...thats what hawaii is for.although next trip there they will go as well...maybe mexico..i definatly will leave them home during new years trip...but anyway i would take her..what a special trip..i have 3 as well so i know some times its good to give each one some one on one time.

 

[Not so Dumbo]

I guess I didn't say how long we would be gone. We would leave on a Monday, right after lunch and be back Thursday, right about lunchtime again.
So I guess about 3 days.
I feel confident that my mom and even DMIL could handle her, but not so much DFIL. He just doesn't know much about babies. Not that he even wants to know how to take care of them. Now my boys are a different story. They are older and can take care of themselves so he loves having them around him because they are at a "fun" age now.
I guess I'm going to have to make up my mind before I ask my mom. I don't even want to bring it up if I can't bare to leave her home. It's going to be no easy task to convince my mom to take her.
Oh and now I'm thinking about where DD is going to sleep if she is at my mom's house. I don't think she will. She will only sleep in her bed or if I'm next to her.

 

[irene_dsc]

Seems to me you'd be uncomfortable with leaving her with DFIL that long, and it might be imposing on your mom - so I vote to take her along. That's a hard age to leave, imo.

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

I say leave her. We have. It is so great to get away and enjoy being a couple. 3 days isn't that big of a deal. My DDs have been staying for 5 or more days at a time with my MIL since they were babies. Run like the wind...