Help!! I need your opinions and ideas ...

[EdiePA]

Here's my story,

I'm 48 y.o., separated from my husband for over 2 and 1/2 years with a divorce coming any day now. I haven't dated in all this time because I felt "married".

Today, an old friend (since the third grade) called to say that she had run into a mutual friend. He was my first love (first grade through jr. high!) and he, too, is divorced. He asked about me and then asked the friend if she thought I'd go out to dinner with him.

He's a great guy (or was -- I haven't seen him in 14 years!) I'd really like to do this, but I'm not sure if it's "right".

What do you think?? He sent me a short e-mail with his telephone number. I'm thinking about writing back and sending my phone number. Kind of to put the ball back into his court! I guess I'd have to write something witty, though, and I don't know what to say.

Opinions??

TIA
Edie

 

[ebaynut31]

My opinion is to go on the "date" as old friends to get re aquainted and see how that goes. There is no obligation. Enjoy the night out.

 

[TLinden16]

Have dinner with him. At the very least, it will give you the chance to catch up with him. You've been seperated over two years. There's nothing wrong with having dinner with an old friend. If something happens, great. If not, that's fine too.

Go for it

Karen

 

[TigerBear]

I say go for it!!

When my ex and I separated, we actually agreed that we were free to date other people. Our divorce was quite amicable though.

 

[kasar]

What have you got to lose? Even if nothing comes of it, it will still be fun to catch up after all these years. Good luck.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Enjoy life, Edie.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I think you should go and have fun!

 

[Nutsy]

I say go. You are as you say "old friends". So go out to dinner with your old friend & see how things pan out. If you feel you'd like to see him again sometime then do so, if you feel on the other hand that you'd rather not then as a friend just be nice & say so.

Go for it!

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Do It!

 

[CEDmom]

I'd say definitely go for it. Try to look at it a positive light. Perhaps you'll hit it off and start a relationship or you'll rekindle an old friendship. At the very least you'll be able to put to rest the "what ifs" about him and get you're feet wet about dating again.

I'd just start by ejoying it for what it is and see where it goes. Have fun.

 

[Disney Doll]

If this man were a woman, would you have any qualms about going out to dinner??? Then why would you think differently of going out with an old friend just because he's a man?

Don't turn it into more than it is right now. You're old friends, catching up. If it turns into something more, so be it. If it doesn't, isn't it still nice to catch up with an old friend and have a nice evening out?

 

[mickeyboat]

Give him a call. Maybe if you are uncomfortable going out to dinner, you could suggest meeting for lunch or coffee. I say go for it. Life is too short.

Denae

 

[powellrj]

go for it, you will always wonder "what if" if you don't!

 

[WDWLVR]

I say go for it! It's not like you are hitting the bars looking for someone. This is someone you know and have a past with. Go to dinner, share your stories of the past, share what has happened since you last saw each other (kids etc, not the ex's) and let this happen as they may. Enjoy!

 

[Mishetta]

GO!

(Don't follow Momtomootoo's advice though ~ not just yet anyway! )

 

[shep]

Go, or you'll regret it later...

 

[ibouncetoo]

When you have the choice to sit it out or dance......DANCE!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

You go girl, go for it. I remember your posts about christmas and the concert with the ds etc. Its time for you to start thinking about Yourself!! You deserve a nice meal with an old friend. If you feel uncomfortable about being alone, maybe bring the mutual friend along etc. You only live once. This might be just what you need.

 

[kild]

"If this man were a woman.." I like your thinking! Oh, you meant something else by that. oops.


Go and have a good time. There is nothing wrong with going out for a meal.


Honestly, there is nothing wrong with waking up at the Motel 6 with a headache either, but I digress.