Help! I need some suggestions....

[springandmac]

At Christmas, I invited my mom and sister on my annual mother daughter trip that I take with DD18. Well I invited and paid for my mom as a Christmas gift and my sister invited herself along. Since then my sister has lost her job and has shot down every idea that involves anything Disney with the exception of the one day we're going to Epcot for the Flower and Garden Festival because my mom all things gardening. So for all intensive purposes we can consider her a disney hater. She's only going to Epcot because they have a leftover day from 20 years ago. My mom has a leftover day too. And nobody want's to buy any additional days with the exception of me and DD18, we have two days.

What I'm wondering is for those that have brought disney haters what did you do to entertain them? We're going to be there 4 days, one day we're going to Epcot. One day we'll probably shop the outlets, malls, etc. and the other two I have no idea what to do. I wanted to take DD18 and go to do some our favorite things in the parks but I don't want to be rude and leave my mom and sister at OKW with nothing to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm desparate, we leave in 12 days.

 

[dbs1228]

It is not rude to do your own thing, why do you feel a need to entertain them? We travel to wdw with others and always set the ground rules before we leave - everyone is welcome to join me/us if you do not want to, that is perfectly fine, we will see you at dinner or later in the day. Having alone time with your DD is a nice thing. I would go into it telling them this is what DD and I are planning on doing if you want to join us great we would love to have you otherwise you have the pool, boats to dtd, great walking area's around OKW bus over to other resorts to check them out.

Have fun hope you have a wonderful trip!

 

[Granny]

It sounds like your mom and sister will have a car, so it's not like you're stranding them. I agree with dbs1288 that you should go do your park thing with your daughter and meet up with the others for dinner, etc.

The "title" of your trip in your signature is a "Mother/Daughter" trip. Your DD is 18 and it gets harder and harder to get those WDW trips in with the kids once they head off to college, etc.

My advice is not to let the Disney "apathetics" (I don't think they are haters, per se) ruin a great memory for you and your daughter.

As you head to the parks, you will be leaving your mom and sister in a gorgeous resort with lots of amenities. And they'll have a car, so they can go take in a movie, do more shopping or just hang out.

Enjoy your trip with your family. But don't let the Grinches spoil your daughter's trip.

 

[dzorn]

At Christmas, I invited my mom and sister on my annual mother daughter trip that I take with DD18. Well I invited and paid for my mom as a Christmas gift and my sister invited herself along. Since then my sister has lost her job and has shot down every idea that involves anything Disney with the exception of the one day we're going to Epcot for the Flower and Garden Festival because my mom all things gardening. So for all intensive purposes we can consider her a disney hater. She's only going to Epcot because they have a leftover day from 20 years ago. My mom has a leftover day too. And nobody want's to buy any additional days with the exception of me and DD18, we have two days.

What I'm wondering is for those that have brought disney haters what did you do to entertain them? We're going to be there 4 days, one day we're going to Epcot. One day we'll probably shop the outlets, malls, etc. and the other two I have no idea what to do. I wanted to take DD18 and go to do some our favorite things in the parks but I don't want to be rude and leave my mom and sister at OKW with nothing to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm desparate, we leave in 12 days.

They are not 3 years old no need to entertain them at all. Go with your DD an let them fend for themselves.

Denise in MI

 

[springandmac]

Thanks for the encouragement. I just want to make sure everyone has a good time since this is there first trip in 20 years and DD and I are always raving about what a good time we have when we go.

Your right, I am renting a car so if they don't want to do the additional park day then DD and I will take the bus and they can have the car to do whatever. And I guess I need to remember that we're all grown and they can research the area and come up with somethings they would like to do too.

 

[Chuck S]

And also remember, there are some people you simply can not please, no matter what. This is especially true if they've already made up their mind that they don't like it. Similar to people who "don't like" a particular food, even though they have never even tasted it.

 

[shell8558]

I definately think that you need to spend that time with your daughter in the parks, like you would normally do. I take girls trips every year with my mom and sister and it is perfectly fine if we split up for the day. ( We all like different things and that is fine. And it ensures that each one of us makes the most out of our trip.)

 

[Chellymouse]

We have a large family trip coming up in 90 days and as DH says "it's our vacation too" if someone doesn't want to do something...that's on that person. Leave them to their own devices and if they complain...it's their own fault!

 

[com_op_2000]

As far as what they can do?
Let them drive over to:
AKL and watch the animals.
TnTC and take a monirail tour of Poly, CR, and GF.
Walking tour of BWV, BC, YC, Swan and Dolphin.
DTD.
Gaylord Palms Resort.

 

[gdrj]

As all have said keep the focus on your Daughter.

It's been so long since we had old tickets...can they add on without it costing as much as a single day ticket? Also maybe Mom is just saying she doesn't want more than 1 Day so sis doesn't feel bad?

I would drop them at the monorail and encourage them to visit the monorail hotels and shops. Have Fun with DD

 

[LSchrow]

i agree.: enjoy your time with your DD. you have given them options, and shouldn't make yourself feel bad because they might not like the one they picked
just make sure that you add one of them as an additional driver on the rental car; with some companies/codes it is free.

enjoy

 

[bobbiwoz]

There's the boat from OKW to DTD, and even if they didn't have a car, they could get to any of the resorts from DTD, and I agree with suggesting AKV. If they're there around 4 they could even do the Boma and Jiko tour. There's so much to do without going to any parks!

Bobbi

 

[dzorn]

As all have said keep the focus on your Daughter.

It's been so long since we had old tickets...can they add on without it costing as much as a single day ticket? Also maybe Mom is just saying she doesn't want more than 1 Day so sis doesn't feel bad?

I would drop them at the monorail and encourage them to visit the monorail hotels and shops. Have Fun with DD

No old tickets cannot be added on too. If your sister is unemployed is she really going to want to spend the day shopping?

Denise in MI

 

[Mokat76]

I hope all four of you enjoy Epcot. As for the rest of it, you're not being rude. They are. Your sister invited herself along on a Disney trip but doesn't want to do Disney?!

As the others said, enjoy your time with your DD and let them muddle about on their own. There's plenty of time to reconnect when you're not in the parks. Hey, maybe they'll cook dinner for you!!

 

[Tamar]

I agree with everyone else. It is not up to you to entertain your mom and sister if they don't want to do Disney while you're at Disney. I like the idea of sending them to AKV to watch the animals, or they can pool hop. HOpe you get nice weather!!

 

[drakester]

I go on a girls trip w/my friends every year w/out husbands and children. Our # one rule is that everybody can go an do what they want. I like to get up early to hit the parks one of my friends doesn't get to the parks until 3. Some days the only time we see each other is at dinner. Just set up clear expections be for you go.

 

[Donna M]

Why is your sister still going if she doesn't want to be there? If she does say she wants to go, why? When you get that answer, then you'll know what she can do while there.

I agree with all the other pp, don't let her ruin your trip.

 

[kdzgon]

Thanks for the encouragement. I just want to make sure everyone has a good time since this is there first trip in 20 years and DD and I are always raving about what a good time we have when we go.

Your right, I am renting a car so if they don't want to do the additional park day then DD and I will take the bus and they can have the car to do whatever. And I guess I need to remember that we're all grown and they can research the area and come up with somethings they would like to do too.

Am I the only one confused here? You invited your mom/mom & sister on a recurring mother/daughter trip. The thought is they want to come along because of how you rave about the great time you have, yet you (and/or they) are looking to change the trip agenda?? I can see modifying slightly (meeting for a special dinner or maybe some spa time) but I don't get why you would skip the parks if that is an integral part of tour trip tradition(s). Maybe you should encourage your mom to give it a try, for at least one if not both of the additional park days. I am neither a Harry Potter nor a thrill ride rider, but you can be sure I have spent more than one day traipsing through Universal as I was there with people special to me, especially my grandkid(s). There is something much more magical than Disney awaiting your mom & sister; hopefully they recognize that and won't miss out! Maybe some gentle reminders will help them see some benefits in joining you and your DD at the parks a bit more?

 

[kdzgon]

I agree with everyone else. It is not up to you to entertain your mom and sister if they don't want to do Disney while you're at Disney. ...!

I don't know - the OP invited her mom as a Christmas gift - I do think there is some obligation to "entertain". What I don't think it is is necessary to completely change the trip traditions to appease mom & sis. And, I suspect the mom might feel in a tough spot between one DD that loves Disney (& goes regularly) and another DD that may not really be able to afford a trip to which she has committed.

 

[disneymomjcs]

Go and have a wonderful time and do your schedule as planned you're treating your Mom and will have a special day at Epcot with her and your sister. Give them the check in sheet with all the resort activities on it. Tell them to have a wonderful day!