Help I feel guilty

[WOW]

To make a long story short......My cousin and I were to go to WDW with my Aunt(cousin's Mom) in April (we were going to surprise her).....since then she became ill and won't be able to go.....our son also just relocated to Florida. My cousin could not commit to going for sure because of her Mom's illness. Now I made plans for Us (DH DD and myself) to go a little earlier and visit with our son and then all 4 of us would go to WDW for the Weekend and then we would stay at WDW and our son would come the following weekend also. Well, suddenly my cousin feels she can now commit to the reservation, and is making plans to join us. Quite frankly I would like this to be a vacation for the 4 of us, rather that have my cousin and husband be there also......I am trying to think of something to tell her, but I honestly don't know how to handle this. The only thing I can come with is a lie, and I really don't want to that. I also don't want to hurt her feelings as we are very close. She loves the parks (her husband hates tham) and she will want me to go with her every day, which I really don't want to do this trip......I need to relax. Any suggestion????? I don't want to start a family fued over this.

 

[Cruelladeville]

Why not tell her a version of the truth? Tell her that since she had indicated that she might not be going, you made plans for your family, but you would just LOVE to make reservations for her at one of the hotels there. Does she have a preference? Make ressies for some other place than your's, or if this might be too blunt for your tastes, make ressies at your hotel, but specifically ask that they be put on a DIFFERENT floor than your's! Then, once you are at WDW, try to not answer the phone when you want quiet time, and just make sure you spend dinners together every few days.

 

[Alexander]

Can you tell her that since you didn't think she would be able to go that you are really planning a relaxing vacation and probably won't be spending much time in the parks. You could say that and then say, but of course you are still welcome to join us for days of relaxation by the pool.

You wouldn't be lying, in fact, you'd be telling the truth, but making it sound less appealing to her. You may not deter her from coming, but you would be telling her up front that you won't be spending a lot of time in the parks.

 

[CarolA]

Well, did you ever tell her that you assumed she wasn't going and had rebooked this trip? If not, it sounds like you "uninvited her" and I don't know a good way around that.
There may not be a good way out of this one.