Having a very hard time with DS going off to college

[RejoyceoverDisney]

That was really good!

Oh and isn't it funny how we go from "gee I wish I heard from him" to "Suck it up cupcake"!

I guess that's a good sign that they are fine!

 

[HERSEY]

The other day my DS asked where I put his batteries. Where did I put them? I told him he has to either look around his room in all the drawers, boxes or hop the bus and go to walmart. or maybe go to the bookstore on campus where they have all kinds of stuff.

 

[mom2travel]

If you really love him you would go fix it for him

LOL

Well I got a phone call today too. DS & another guy on his hall switched rooms. The guy he switched with goes out drinking with DS's original roommate and DS's new roommate doesn't party 'till you pass out, so all are now happy. I think the roommate situation was the only thing so far that DS hasn't been happy about. I'm glad they figured out a solution

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I have not had time to read this thread the last couple of days, I'll go back and read... but I have a VERY happy update!!!!


Remember last weekend I was sad because I felt like we were "dismissed"? WELL... I maintained radio silence until he communicated with us and I have to admit it was hard to wait, but he called last night!!!

We talked for 50 min. and all is well. THE BEST PART was when he asked how things are at home and really nothing exciting, but mentioned how we were getting used to him being gone and how much quieter it is. That surprised him because he was often out with his friends, work, workout etc during summer. BUT the best part is he said: " I wish I knew what I could do to make this easier on you guys". THAT was soooo sweet! I told him not to worry about us, his job was to get good grades and study, but that comment meant the world to me as I know he is then thinking of us and not blowing us off. He doesn't miss us, that I know, but he cares very much for the fact that we miss him!

Also, I was very impressed with something else. He told me that he has had no trouble going up to people at the commons (lunch area) and sit down with people he doesn't know to introduce himself and try to make friends. Who does that??? My son! I know that I would not have the courage to join a table full of people, but he's doing it! He met a good friend that way.

So, just had to give a happy update!

 

[marcyinPA]

I have not had time to read this thread the last couple of days, I'll go back and read... but I have a VERY happy update!!!!

Remember last weekend I was sad because I felt like we were "dismissed"? WELL... I maintained radio silence until he communicated with us and I have to admit it was hard to wait, but he called last night!!!

We talked for 50 min. and all is well. THE BEST PART was when he asked how things are at home and really nothing exciting, but mentioned how we were getting used to him being gone and how much quieter it is. That surprised him because he was often out with his friends, work, workout etc during summer. BUT the best part is he said: " I wish I knew what I could do to make this easier on you guys". THAT was soooo sweet! I told him not to worry about us, his job was to get good grades and study, but that comment meant the world to me as I know he is then thinking of us and not blowing us off. He doesn't miss us, that I know, but he cares very much for the fact that we miss him!

Also, I was very impressed with something else. He told me that he has had no trouble going up to people at the commons (lunch area) and sit down with people he doesn't know to introduce himself and try to make friends. Who does that??? My son! I know that I would not have the courage to join a table full of people, but he's doing it! He met a good friend that way.

So, just had to give a happy update!

That is awesome!!!! Great kid- for caring about your feelings and adjustment, AND for putting himself out there with new people!!!

 

[mom2travel]

I have not had time to read this thread the last couple of days, I'll go back and read... but I have a VERY happy update!!!!

Remember last weekend I was sad because I felt like we were "dismissed"? WELL... I maintained radio silence until he communicated with us and I have to admit it was hard to wait, but he called last night!!!

We talked for 50 min. and all is well. THE BEST PART was when he asked how things are at home and really nothing exciting, but mentioned how we were getting used to him being gone and how much quieter it is. That surprised him because he was often out with his friends, work, workout etc during summer. BUT the best part is he said: " I wish I knew what I could do to make this easier on you guys". THAT was soooo sweet! I told him not to worry about us, his job was to get good grades and study, but that comment meant the world to me as I know he is then thinking of us and not blowing us off. He doesn't miss us, that I know, but he cares very much for the fact that we miss him!

Also, I was very impressed with something else. He told me that he has had no trouble going up to people at the commons (lunch area) and sit down with people he doesn't know to introduce himself and try to make friends. Who does that??? My son! I know that I would not have the courage to join a table full of people, but he's doing it! He met a good friend that way.

So, just had to give a happy update!

That is a terrific update!!
Yay for you & your DS!

 

[mom2rtk]

Princess Vija..... what a great kid.

 

[HERSEY]

PRINCESS VIJA Your son sounds like a great kid. You have done a great job raising that young man. Doesn't it feel good? That does take a special courage to go out of your comfort zone. I am glad it is working out for him.

 

[PizzieDuster]

I have not had time to read this thread the last couple of days, I'll go back and read... but I have a VERY happy update!!!!


Remember last weekend I was sad because I felt like we were "dismissed"? WELL... I maintained radio silence until he communicated with us and I have to admit it was hard to wait, but he called last night!!!

We talked for 50 min. and all is well. THE BEST PART was when he asked how things are at home and really nothing exciting, but mentioned how we were getting used to him being gone and how much quieter it is. That surprised him because he was often out with his friends, work, workout etc during summer. BUT the best part is he said: " I wish I knew what I could do to make this easier on you guys". THAT was soooo sweet! I told him not to worry about us, his job was to get good grades and study, but that comment meant the world to me as I know he is then thinking of us and not blowing us off. He doesn't miss us, that I know, but he cares very much for the fact that we miss him!

Also, I was very impressed with something else. He told me that he has had no trouble going up to people at the commons (lunch area) and sit down with people he doesn't know to introduce himself and try to make friends. Who does that??? My son! I know that I would not have the courage to join a table full of people, but he's doing it! He met a good friend that way.

So, just had to give a happy update!

That's awesome!

My son's graduating in May. I haven't heard from him in 2 or maybe 3 weeks? Don't count anymore. No news is good news. Get it done! I think he'd be happy to be a 6th year senior! Get it done! I booked the room. Made air arrangements. G.E.T. I.T. D.O.N.E. should be my on my license plate.

 

[marcyinPA]

My DS is home for the weekend. Well, at least for tonight, and then Sunday for a ride back to school He is going to the PSU game tomorrow.

We had a good conversation in the car- and he sounds like he is adjusting. BUT- he took two tests so far. One in Psych (which is his major)- and got a 66, and a quiz in Sociology- and got a 74. He said he really studied, went to a study group in Psych and everything. He took the Soc quiz today and thought he did really well. He said he knew most of the answers. Guess not. I really refrained from saying anything except "It's just the first test. Don't worry, there will be more" and he just said now he really knows how hard these things can be and how much harder he is going to have to work. I am trying not to worry!!!! My first year college grades were not the best ever and I graduated- but you know, it's different when it's your kid!!

 

[HERSEY]

My DS is home for the weekend. Well, at least for tonight, and then Sunday for a ride back to school He is going to the PSU game tomorrow.

We had a good conversation in the car- and he sounds like he is adjusting. BUT- he took two tests so far. One in Psych (which is his major)- and got a 66, and a quiz in Sociology- and got a 74. He said he really studied, went to a study group in Psych and everything. He took the Soc quiz today and thought he did really well. He said he knew most of the answers. Guess not. I really refrained from saying anything except "It's just the first test. Don't worry, there will be more" and he just said now he really knows how hard these things can be and how much harder he is going to have to work. I am trying not to worry!!!! My first year college grades were not the best ever and I graduated- but you know, it's different when it's your kid!!

If he is anything like my son, he is beating himself up. They are harder on themselves.

 

[mom2rtk]

I hope everyone is having a great weekend!

I'm thrilled to bits that the heatwave broke both here and where my son is at school. I hated that he was having to deal with hoofing it all over campus sick this week in the heat. He did say he was starting to feel better, and that he felt good about his chemistry exam yesterday. Not a word out of him today, so I'm hoping he found something fun to do in this cooler weather.

My DS is home for the weekend. Well, at least for tonight, and then Sunday for a ride back to school He is going to the PSU game tomorrow.

We had a good conversation in the car- and he sounds like he is adjusting. BUT- he took two tests so far. One in Psych (which is his major)- and got a 66, and a quiz in Sociology- and got a 74. He said he really studied, went to a study group in Psych and everything. He took the Soc quiz today and thought he did really well. He said he knew most of the answers. Guess not. I really refrained from saying anything except "It's just the first test. Don't worry, there will be more" and he just said now he really knows how hard these things can be and how much harder he is going to have to work. I am trying not to worry!!!! My first year college grades were not the best ever and I graduated- but you know, it's different when it's your kid!!

YIKES! I saw your post right after my son said he felt good about his chemistry exam. Sounds like your son felt pretty good about his exams too. It sounds like you handled it great and provided the right tone of encouragement without letting on that you were disappointed or anything.

Hang in there. Hopefully he'll see what happened and make sure it doesn't happen again.

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

I'm happy to report that my buddy opted to come home tonight to help me out with his brother tomorrow so Dad and I can help with the church festival tomorrow.

I got a melt your heart hug as soon as he came in the door. Yay! Just love this guy to pieces. Isn't it amazing how we have this love in our hearts that just never seems to run out?

Wishing you all a Pixiedust weekend!
hugs!

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm happy to report that my buddy opted to come home tonight to help me out with his brother tomorrow so Dad and I can help with the church festival tomorrow.

I got a melt your heart hug as soon as he came in the door. Yay! Just love this guy to pieces. Isn't it amazing how we have this love in our hearts that just never seems to run out?

Wishing you all a Pixiedust weekend!
hugs!

I'm jealous.

Enjoy your weekend!

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

I'm jealous.

Enjoy your weekend!

First time ever he said "Before you take me back tomorrow, do you think we can go to the store and pick up more snacks cause I ate my way through what you gave me already." LOL last year he came home or I at least saw him every couple weeks, but he has been gone almost a month and "didn't need many snacks" when he left.

Guess things are different this year.

sorry you are jealous! Didn't post to make you feel that way. Just wanted to share my yay!

 

[mom2rtk]

First time ever he said "Before you take me back tomorrow, do you think we can go to the store and pick up more snacks cause I ate my way through what you gave me already." LOL last year he came home or I at least saw him every couple weeks, but he has been gone almost a month and "didn't need many snacks" when he left.

Guess things are different this year.

sorry you are jealous! Didn't post to make you feel that way. Just wanted to share my yay!

No, it's ok. We'll get our turn to see him again. We just don't have that set up yet. We're hoping the friend from the area decides to come home again. If not, we'll make the drive to go see him at some point.

LOL on the snacks. I feel like I've been sending too many snacks. But he won't ask for anything. So I just have to guess and send some stuff. I have no idea whether there's a big stack of snacks in the corner of his room or if he's really eating the stuff. OK, I know that's unlikely.

 

[Katy Belle]

We are going to see our Big Guy tomorrow! Its parents weekend, but he had friends coming today, so we opted to show up tomorrow. He's not interested in any of the festivities anyway, but I didn't want him to be the only one without parents around! Unfortunately, his best friend that was coming, got sick and wasn't able to go! She was super sad. She and her mom had tickets for the football game, so they sent them with the other friends and DS got to go to the game with them! I'm happy he went. He's not into football at all!

As for grades....its scary, isn't it??? So few grades, so far between! DS took a 2 question quiz in Calc. Got one right and one wrong. But it said, +5 on the top of the paper, not 50%, so hopefully that is a good sign. His major is Computer Science and he took his first test Friday. He felt it went really well...after seeing your posts, I'm not so sure! He also had to turn in his first big essay in English Comp II. He thinks he did really well, of course! Time will tell. I don't think he's had any other tests yet.

A funny for you...he asked what time we would be there tomorrow. I told him 11:30 OR 12. He said 12 would be better because he would be staying up late tonight. Child can't drag his behind out of bed at 11a.m.???? Sheesh!
Good thing I'm not there to witness the late hours he's keeping!

Happy weekend to all!

 

[LisaR]

DH and I are both missing DD tonight! I wish we could have gone to see her this weekend, but DS had a weekend full of activities that we needed to be at and the same goes for the following weekend. We will head down the weekend after!

DD did say her sleep schedule is totally screwed up. She said one guy commented that just over a month ago he went to bed most nights around 9pm and now his night doesn't even start until 10pm!

I know DD is having fun most nights, but she really is studying. She has two tests coming up this week, and she said she didn't leave her room at all today so she could study. Of course, it is 11pm so now she is heading out!

I think DH and I are just marveling at how quickly she has adjusted and how we haven't!! Her life changed drastically a month ago, but it was for the better. It wasn't that her life sucked at home; she had great friends and she really does love her family. But things have been changing for her. Two very good friends left for the military. Two other good friends went to college out of state. Another friend got married because her husband is military and they shipped off to another state. It really was the perfect time for her to move on and create this new life and enjoy the ride. She has and we are thrilled for her, but it really has left a hole in our family. We play a game at dinner multiple nights a week and have since our kids were toddlers. I can't tell you how many times we have dealt her in at her spot at the table out of habit. Ugh! We are so happy for her and love to hear her voice when she calls and love all the weird pictures she sends us, but we still miss her like crazy. DS has promised me he will live at home until he is 30. I hug him and tell him he is a good boy, but then I tell him that while we will miss him just as much, he needs to have his butt out of the house long before the age of 30. Dad and I will survive!

Thanks for letting me ramble. This thread is therapeutic!

 

[Crazie4daMouse]

My DS left for college a month ago. I am having such a hard time with it. It's 6 hours away so not convenient to just pop over for lunch. He's a wrestler and the only time his coach is giving them off is few days at Thanksgiving and a week at Christmas. I have missed him terribly! Being an athlete, he's gone a lot in the summer to out of state camps, but I guess that wasn't so bad because it was always no more than 2 weeks at a time and then he was home for a few days before he had the next camp. I just can't adjust to this! He seems to be doing well, though. I'm so thankful for that! His grades are good, workouts and practices are good, he's making friends. He's adjusting.

This past Friday was his birthday so my DH, his best friend, went up to see him for the day today and go to the game, his gf went up to spend the weekend with him. He was really happy to have us there and it was SO good to see him! I was getting the impression over the past few days that he was missing home. While I'm glad he misses us, it makes me so sad for him. I hate the thought of him being there and missing his family.

He is very excited about his team, workouts and practices so that tells me we made the right choice in schools. He likes his coaches and they seem to think highly of him. He was very fortunate to be offered a nice scholarship at the school he really wanted to go to. That's what I keep telling myself. I know that we have prepared him for this, but we forgot to prepare ourselves. Mainly me. I just cried and cried when we left him tonight. I did wait until I got in the car so he wouldn't see me upset. My poor DH has been so sweet and supportive about it. Without him I would really be a basket case!

I miss my baby!! I know that this is the beginning of an incredibly exciting future for him and I couldn't be happier for him, but I'm having such a hard time letting go! I'm the mom who has been there for absolutely everything. I was the team mom for his high school wrestling team the past 4 years and before that I was the team mom for his baseball team since he was 5. Our house has always been the hang out for all the kids and with my DS gone, my house is so quiet...What do I do now? I have a 4 year old at home still and he is gonna keep us busy, but for now the silence is deafening.

 

[LisaR]

My DS left for college a month ago. I am having such a hard time with it. It's 6 hours away so not convenient to just pop over for lunch. He's a wrestler and the only time his coach is giving them off is few days at Thanksgiving and a week at Christmas. I have missed him terribly! Being an athlete, he's gone a lot in the summer to out of state camps, but I guess that wasn't so bad because it was always no more than 2 weeks at a time and then he was home for a few days before he had the next camp. I just can't adjust to this! He seems to be doing well, though. I'm so thankful for that! His grades are good, workouts and practices are good, he's making friends. He's adjusting.

This past Friday was his birthday so my DH, his best friend, went up to see him for the day today and go to the game, his gf went up to spend the weekend with him. He was really happy to have us there and it was SO good to see him! I was getting the impression over the past few days that he was missing home. While I'm glad he misses us, it makes me so sad for him. I hate the thought of him being there and missing his family.

He is very excited about his team, workouts and practices so that tells me we made the right choice in schools. He likes his coaches and they seem to think highly of him. He was very fortunate to be offered a nice scholarship at the school he really wanted to go to. That's what I keep telling myself. I know that we have prepared him for this, but we forgot to prepare ourselves. Mainly me. I just cried and cried when we left him tonight. I did wait until I got in the car so he wouldn't see me upset. My poor DH has been so sweet and supportive about it. Without him I would really be a basket case!

I miss my baby!! I know that this is the beginning of an incredibly exciting future for him and I couldn't be happier for him, but I'm having such a hard time letting go! I'm the mom who has been there for absolutely everything. I was the team mom for his high school wrestling team the past 4 years and before that I was the team mom for his baseball team since he was 5. Our house has always been the hang out for all the kids and with my DS gone, my house is so quiet...What do I do now? I have a 4 year old at home still and he is gonna keep us busy, but for now the silence is deafening.

And I can so relate to the part I put in bold! I miss the houseful of kids. I miss DD's friends hanging around, eating all my food, playing games, laughing, and just being kids. We miss the activity around here. She had some really good friends and now they are gone, too. And I worry so much about the ones that went off into the military. It has just been such a huge change. I know we will adjust, and we have started to already, but DH and I still miss her so much!

On a funny note, DD is NOT into scary movies. I got a text tonight saying, "Mom, I have bad news. I have finally succumbed to the peer pressure of college. I am at the movies seeing Incidious 2. We brought blankets and all of the girls are under the blankets texting because we are scared to death!" I have spent the entire movie texting her. I am sending her pictures of things like Figment, Stitch (her favorite character) and shirtless pictures of people like Channing Tatum. It has been fun and she said it has help so much. My big college girl still needs her mommy from time to time. The movie should be ending in the next 15 minutes and she said the girls will be heading straight back to the dorm to watch Disney movies for the rest of the night in hopes that they will be able to sleep again at some point in time.