We were able to afford to get into a very expensive market by doing the following:
-We moved to a cheaper apartment and I took a year off of grad schol to work so that we could sock away $$ for a down payment.
-I sold my car and put the proceeds+insurance savings into the house account. Maybe about once a month I wish we still had two cars but for the most part we are making one car work (DH works from home, I am now back to finishing my thesis at home so most times we can get away with only one car).
-We only put down 5% and used some "creative" financing via a piggyback loan to avoid PMI. Would have liked to have 20% but even saving my entire salary couldn't keep pace with how much housing prices were rising.
-We started looking about a half hour or 45 minutes north of the area where we previously thought we would buy but were priced out of over the last few years.
-We expanded our price range so that we are paying more than we originally thought we'd be comfortable with and so far we're doing ok, it's just meant forgoing things like
Disney vacations for a while. Yes, we're finally going on a cruise next year (and a nice one at that!) but that's because we had so many
DVC points we hadn't used (bought into DVC back when we lived in TX in a house that we could easily afford) that I was able to rent them to pay for the trip. It could be worse but we are sure down from the 1-2 times a year we went to WDW before to a vacation once every 2-3 years.
With all of that we were able to just BARELY squeak into the market. Right after we bought, the next two houses sold for more than ours did for a lot less house, so we got very very lucky on timing as well.