Green with envy...

[LeftCoaster]

Originally posted by RickinNYC
Oh... my... God.... You are a genius!

And I swear to God, I'm actually going to brainwash him into this thinking... I'll probably get a show thrown at my head but it's worth a shot!

but then you can remind him that you'll be able to tour WDW in a much more relaxed manner and you won't have to get into fights with white trash families in the middle of Norway anymore.
I vote for you to buy a DVC contract and then have a small ceremony there. Here's what I told my best friend when she was moving in with her girlfriend. "You don't have to have some big extravagant ceremony. Just have some ceremony for you to say in front of your family and friends that this is the person that you intend on spending the rest of oyu rlife with and this is the person you intend on building a future with." And then I told her that I'd tell my mom on her if they didn't have a ceremony.

 

[lenshanem]

I thought it was Skinny & Sweet... It looks just like it except for the little skull & crossbones!

Funny LeftCoaster! Love that movie!

OP, forget the ring and ceremony. Celebrate it with a DVC purchase and spend the anniversary at WDW. If you buy at SSR you can finance it.

We're not rich and had to finance our BCV. Some things are just worth the finance charge.

Good luck! (Ya'll are a good looking couple BTW!)

 

[RickinNYC]

So over the weekend, while having a nice civil, quiet dinner, I casually brought up the concept. "So... how many folks do you think will actually show up for the ceremony? About 100? That's a lot of people considering we only see about 6 of them reguarly and the other 94 we never ever see don't ya think?"

And he peers up from his plate and quietly says, "Where is this going?"

And I say, "And that's a lot of money to spend on a big party, huh? And about the ring, I only really need a nice band and they're pretty cheap. Rings are super expensive for girls, not guys."

And he chews and mutters, "And....?"

And I go on, "And it's only a coupla bucks to register in NYC as domestic partners and we're recognized officially. It's been 14 years so no big... right?"

And he chews... doesn't say anything. Just stares.

And I ramble, "So why not bag the wedding and reception, forget about doing it in Toronto, just register with the city and save a ton of money and grief andjustmaybewecanusethemoneywesavetobuyaDVCmembership?"

"No."

So I muttered and cursed under my breath and now have to find another tactic. But I tried.

 

[Luckymommyx2]

That's okay...keep trying! It's too early to resort to bribes or anything drastic, yet!!

 

[lenshanem]

DARN! Sorry to hear that OP. men can be such pains.


OK, I see you're going soon. Maybe you can sell him by going and doing the DVC tour at SSR "just for fun"? I hear the sales center is quite nice... Maybe then you can catch him in a weak moment.

It took years before my hubby gave in. Good luck!

 

[DiznyMagic]

Try making it more enchanting. Play the romantic card...instead of saying you can ditch the ceremony try we can have a smaller scale, intimate romantic ceremony in Disney and enjoy all the benefits of our new DVC contract from now to 2042! It can be our romantic getaway to celebrate our future anniversarys and so on and so on....

 

[rinkwide]

Originally posted by RickinNYC
So over the weekend, while having a nice civil, quiet dinner, I casually brought up the concept. "So... how many folks do you think will actually show up for the ceremony? About 100? That's a lot of people considering we only see about 6 of them reguarly and the other 94 we never ever see don't ya think?"

And he peers up from his plate and quietly says, "Where is this going?"

And I say, "And that's a lot of money to spend on a big party, huh? And about the ring, I only really need a nice band and they're pretty cheap. Rings are super expensive for girls, not guys."

And he chews and mutters, "And....?"

And I go on, "And it's only a coupla bucks to register in NYC as domestic partners and we're recognized officially. It's been 14 years so no big... right?"

And he chews... doesn't say anything. Just stares.

And I ramble, "So why not bag the wedding and reception, forget about doing it in Toronto, just register with the city and save a ton of money and grief andjustmaybewecanusethemoneywesavetobuyaDVCmembership?"

"No."

So I muttered and cursed under my breath and now have to find another tactic. But I tried.

Dude, if you're not a screenwriter you should seriously consider a change of profession.

 

[AZKathy]

Originally posted by RickinNYC
So over the weekend, while having a nice civil, quiet dinner, I casually brought up the concept. "So... how many folks do you think will actually show up for the ceremony? About 100? That's a lot of people considering we only see about 6 of them reguarly and the other 94 we never ever see don't ya think?"

And he peers up from his plate and quietly says, "Where is this going?"

And I say, "And that's a lot of money to spend on a big party, huh? And about the ring, I only really need a nice band and they're pretty cheap. Rings are super expensive for girls, not guys."

And he chews and mutters, "And....?"

And I go on, "And it's only a coupla bucks to register in NYC as domestic partners and we're recognized officially. It's been 14 years so no big... right?"

And he chews... doesn't say anything. Just stares.

And I ramble, "So why not bag the wedding and reception, forget about doing it in Toronto, just register with the city and save a ton of money and grief andjustmaybewecanusethemoneywesavetobuyaDVCmembership?"

"No."

So I muttered and cursed under my breath and now have to find another tactic. But I tried.

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[calypso*a*go-go]

How 'bout a very dramatic: I don't want to give you a ring...I WANT TO GIVE YOU THE WORLD!!!".

And if that doesn't work -- try crying.

 

[DVCTiff]

Come over to the dark side ....quick! Our payment is less than $200/month and worth every penny! You will not regret it!

Listen to your NY neighbor.

 

[dan and scott]

There are more gay people that own DVC than you think.
Dan and I have been memebers at BW since 98 and own 525 points.
We have met alot of other gay members/couples who own DVC from all over the country. DVC is an extension of our personalities as well as owning our own home together.

We have rings, but personally don't see the need to have the ceremony since we have had so many memories made as a family at WDW,the Cruise line and Disneyland. We are also fortunate enough to be going to Disneyland Paris in less than 2 weeks. All of this possible through DVC. It just forces us to take a vacation.

DVC has enhanced our lives so much more than a ceremony.

---But you will have to make a decision on your own needs.

Hope this helps!
Scott

 

[lillasmom]

I love this thread!

Don't give up! Keep trying! And make him read this thread. If that doesn't work, try guilt! That is usually a good tactic.

:thewave:

 

[geffric]

Okay here's another idea..

register for a DVC contract.. and buy a resale at the resort of your choice..

after all , you have been together all these years so you don't need another toaster or china that you will only use once every 3 years or so.. but a DVC contract THAT you will use each and every year..

so with 100 guests..giving you $$$ each = enough to buy a small contract for a resale... and if you pre buy it , you will lock in a GREAT price..

 

[DiznyMagic]

"I want to give you the world" WOW!!
If he doesn't fall for that....heck I wouldn't marry him! LOL

Can you tell I'm a romantic...

Keep us posted...this is like a tv soap opera!

 

[DisFam95]

"I want to give you the WORLD!!" That was great!!! We pay like $225 including dues per month for 170pts. There's never going to be a good time. You're always going to have reunions and wedding and saving to buy a house or saving to 'fix' the house!!! There's always something and the prices are only going up.

Do you have a honeymoon planned? Put the money towards DVC. Do it..do it..do it!!! Have him come on a read all this.

Oh oh oh...maybe....oh...no...maybe he's planning to surprise you with a contract!!!! Oh the suspense is killing me!! You can do it!!!

 

[crisi]

Yep, that's the real problem with gay marriage - you now need to afford gay weddings, meaning less money for things like DVC..... see, if we'd left the status quo in place, there wouldn't be any need for a fabulous committment ceremony.

How about "just the downpayment can be your wedding gift to me?"

Best of luck on your nuptials.....

 

[Chim Chiminy]

Congrats on your 15 years together!

And I go on, "And it's only a coupla bucks to register in NYC as domestic partners and we're recognized officially. It's been 14 years so no big... right?"

Go ahead and do it.

My BILs just did two weeks ago, they have been together six years now. They were ecstatic.
Not quite marriage, but a step in the right direction.......Now I need to get them a gift. What do you get two fabulous guys who have everything???

 

[AZKathy]

Originally posted by dan and scott
There are more gay people that own DVC than you think.
Dan and I have been memebers at BW since 98 and own 525 points.
We have met alot of other gay members/couples who own DVC from all over the country. DVC is an extension of our personalities as well as owning our own home together.

We have rings, but personally don't see the need to have the ceremony since we have had so many memories made as a family at WDW,the Cruise line and Disneyland. We are also fortunate enough to be going to Disneyland Paris in less than 2 weeks. All of this possible through DVC. It just forces us to take a vacation.

DVC has enhanced our lives so much more than a ceremony.

---But you will have to make a decision on your own needs.

Hope this helps!
Scott

Great thoughts! Pass this on to your significant other (sorry I forgot his name!), Rick!

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

If you haven't before, you have got to read RickinNYC's (unfinished) trip report where he proposed!

Complete in Prince Charming outfit.

And Rick, are you EVER going to finish that report?????

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

Found it!!!


Rick in NYC's trip report