I'm in a similar situation, only I have 2 kids, ages 6 and 16 who both have anxiety, OCD and ADHD issues, and I'm wondering how either will hold up at WDW. (We've never been before). I can't figure out what will be best for them. Initially, I thought it would be best to plan on going slow and go back to the hotel for a break. But, now Im wondering if just getting back and forth from the park will be more traumatic (anxiety-wise) than just staying at the park and finding a place to take a break. Ugh...I can't get past the planning stages because I can't figure out what we need/don't need, and we're trying to do this on a budget! I also can't figure out how to explain our needs for a GAC card.
Our situations are different, but I thought I would throw out a few ideas. My daughter has physical challenges. Its just exhausting navigating the crowds in a powered vessel, but doing it at 4 and 5 just wears her out. We don't tour Disney the way "most" families seem to, so I thought I would let you know how we tend to do it.
First, this is completely *not* for June/July/Aug (its too hot then... we did go then, but the "plan" was completely different). I find its too much to go to a park, back to the room to "rest" and back to the park. Its just more walking and more dragging kids around, I have never understood it, but surely not with an already over-tired little one navigating crowds.
We sleep in to our "normal" time, have breakfast in the room (cereal, muffins, bagels, toast, whatever you like). We dress and take our time heading out. Once we arrive at the park we usually hit a few rides and find a place to get lunch (usually by 11:30-11:45 before everyone else in the park realizes they are hungry too). Typically there will only be 3 or 4 other families at this time of day... it sure beats hunting for a table. As we finish up eating everyone else is starting to decide they are hungry and we are off to enjoy more rides. Usually by 1 we will begin riding rides going towards the first aid station. 2pm we take a 30-45 min "break" or nap in the first aid station. Its not much, but it recharges my little one and she is excited to head back out. We enjoy the rest of the day and usually finish off with fireworks or we will get reservations right before/after fireworks from a resort you can view them....
We don't do the mad sprint, try to fit everything in.... We take our time, enjoy each moment and know that whatever we miss will likely be there whenever we manage to make it back. No reason to stress over missing things.
So, thats our little "plan". If its summer... well scratch that. We sleep late, swim during the day and go to the park after dark for very very small amt of time, if at all. My daughter has a hard time regulating her body temp and it gets dangerous fast....