Given up on this week!

[jenanderson]

Hello all! I am feeling really bad about how things are going at this point. I started on the WISH board about 3 weeks ago. I committed myself to doing WW again because I was very successful with it a couple of years ago. So, feeling very uncomfortable with how I look and feel I decided that everyone here was so great I could join in and do it. I started out okay but got an aweful cold and sinus infection which stopped me from exercising just as I had started. As soon as I got well, we started this huge construction project on the house (all new windows and siding - doing it ourself) and the diet seems to have gone out the window. When my husband and the other guys finish working they are hungry - and I am too since I am helping most of the day. Plus, cooking for a bunch of other people doesn't really allow for "light" cooking. To top it all off, my DH has kept saying things like "it's hot, you've worked hard all day - have some ice cream". I have found that I have totally caved in. I am not eating within my points range, in fact, I have no clue how many points I have even been eating. I have quit exercising because I feel so tired after working on the house all day. I know that I just need to tell myself to not dwell on this set back and get back on track again but right now it just seems easier to keep going with the rest of the group.

I start back to work on Monday (I work as a technology coordinator at a school) and I know it will help to get out of the house and away from all of the people eating and drinking as they work on my house. I am hoping that I spend this weekend putting together a better plan for myself. I need to set some small goals again and put it in writing.

Since no one here cares about my plan, I am writing to all of you. I feel like if I say on this board that I am going to do it, I will have to. You have all inspired me so much and I want to think that I can get on track and change my habits real soon! I hope to be able to report next week that things are really going better again. Thanks for letting me get this out and being honest about the set back. I know that by coming here I will find the support and motivation I need.

Jen

 

[pumba]

you just start over again that is all......sometimes it happens and then we feel bad and we will get over it and start again......my daughter is on ww and loves all the foods that she can have ......she basically eats the way she should and with her family too......so just say ....I will get on track next week and feel great again.....alot of companies at lunch time or their coffee break let the employees go for a walk around the block......any exercise is good exercise ......so good luck next week

 

[PartyofSix]

You have to make your life work around you. I know life seems to get in the way but is that really true? Do we just use it as an excuse to fall into the old ways and then just blame it on life? Can you really not eat healthy while working on your house? Can you really not have a ham sandwich and wow chips and fix the guys grilled burgers all the way with regular chips? Can you not pick up a bucket of chicken and fries for then and have a healthy choice piazza for yourself? Do you really have to think of a diet as having carrots while they have steak? Make a plan and don't let life get in your way you work your way thru times like this and keep on going. When your husband says have an ice cream honey get you one. I keep a gallon of low fat Old Fashion brand yogurt right beside my kids regular chocolate ice cream and we have cones handy and we all have ice cream except mine does fly on my hips. I eat one of these almost daily and i never feel i'm starving or deprived or on a diet. I'm still loosing and having a great time with it most of the time. There will be days and challenges but your just getting started with a new way of eating get prepared get going and stop making excuses.

Okay enough of the tongue lashing for you. I'm sure going back to work will help you out. Make your plan this weekend. Include plenty of great choices so that you don't feel like your deprived and dieting or hungry for that matter. Remember loosing slow is a key to staying on your plan no matter what plan your on. No need to starve yourselve or eat the same foods everyday and get bored. We are here for you and want to help you shrink to a healthier you. Why don't you take your weight right now and start again. Sit down this weekend and do 10% goals of your weight. Like 10% from todays weight. GOAL then what ever that weight is 10% of that weight GOAL and so on. Write those all down for yourself to see then tape them some where that's handy for you to peek at. Then report here every week at weight in day and let us cheer you on or help you through the rough spots and they come but remember the most important thing you can do for yourself is if you get weak at a meal or with a snack don't wait till the next day or a monday to restart start the next time you decide to put something in your mouth. Waiting only leads to excuses and then you tend to totally loose sight of your goals. I wish you the very best of luck and a swift kick in the rear all the way from GA. Have a great weekend and make your plan you can do it JEN.

 

[Mom2Princesses]

Well, I certainly hope things DO get easier and better for you! I must say though, the first thing I would do is talk to your husband. Tell him your goals, (not necessarily using numbers--LOL, I know I never would), tell him what foods you will be eating and what foods you will be avoiding at ALL costs. Let him know that his support means the world to you. And then, in the nicest tone possible, tell him to NOT offer any foods that are obviously bad choices! When I started Atkins, I told my DH that I would NOT be eating or making carb side dishes for several weeks. Period! If he wanted mashed potatoes, rice or potato salad than it would be up to him to make it. Now, 5 weeks in, I am making these dishes again, for the family--but it no longer bothers me.

I know he means well, but it is a horrible dilemna when someone is putting you on the spot. Get his support, and ask him what low cal, no fat type dishes HE would enjoy. Also, try to plan out your meals in advance, even on the hectic home project days. Have an alternative to the pizza, fast food etc waiting for you--and don't watch them all eat their food--it will be like torture.

I wish you lots of luck--it IS a choice! You can do something...or not!

 

[goofy4wdw59]

I feel for you! We are in the middle of a room addition and sometimes, the mess around here can really throw me off. I've had a rough couple of weeks but I'm re-focusing and getting back on track again.
I too find it's motivating for me to come here and read/post on the WISH board.
Hang in there and cheering you on!
Margaret

 

[cinmell]

I know it's difficult but you can start over. I've done it three times now and it seems to be working for me! One tip that may help involves icecream. You mentioned your husband will suggest if for you. I'm not a big icecream eater but my husband and daughter like to have it for dessert most nights. It's tempting. But instead of the regular icecream I have WW chocolate mousse (they are like fugciles) and they are only 1 point and they are very good. I also bought skinny cow icecream sandwiches which are 2 points. May not sound like a great tip but it can really cut down on points and satisfy the need for dessert, in particular icecream.

I also have the WATP dvd's and they are great. It has the 1, 2 and 3 miles walks on it. If you have a day where you don't feel like doing any exercise you can do the 1 mile which is only 15 minutes but at least it gets you moving and you feel good about yourself because you did some type of exercise, at least that's how it is for me. I have a 2 year old who wants all of my attention which made it hard for me to do the WATP. Now she likes to do them with me, well more like dance but at least we are together and I get my exercise. I also just like to go out and walk. It gets you out of the house, gives you a break from whatever is going on at home and you get exercise at the same time.

This board has been very helpful. People here have fantastic tips and suggestions and you will receive plenty of support. Good luck!

 

[cleo]

There's always a reason why a new diet 'doesn't work right now', so you have to take the bull by the horns and MAKE it work right now. The main thing I have to do when I find I'm not on track is change the way I'm shopping and what comes into the house. If it's there, I'll eat it, so I have to be sure what's there is what I CAN eat.

You can do it!!

Another thing that helps me is to realize I'm the sort who wants to 'show love and acceptance' by being in tune with other people....which translates to eating what they're eating. Obviously, I'm not going to put my 10 year old on a diet, so it's tempting to eat what I fix for him. I've learned to fix chicken (or pasta, or whatever) in ways he enjoys it, and make a small portion for myself in a way that's 'legal' for my diet. And frankly, I'm the only one who cares if we're all eating the same thing! It's the act of sharing the time, not the food, that really binds us as family.

You CAN do this! I'll bet every one of us here has been in exactly the same place you are right now. And one day soon (when you're 10 lbs lighter!) you'll read a post from someone who's struggling to start and you'll be able to tell them how YOU overcame the reasons and encourage them to stick with it! The very best of luck, and don't beat yourself up over it. Be kind and loving to YOU, too!

 

[jenanderson]

I did talk with my DH last night about all of this. He had been so supportive of me when I started and really seemed to feel bad that things got off track. He had not realized that he was offering a lot of foods that I should not have. I know that I should be strong enough to say no, but when they are offered over and over with many people telling me to "just go ahead and eat it" I don't have the will power yet to say no. I am happy that I talked with him though because even if I still have to cook for all of the people working on the house at least he will not be pushing me towards things that I do not want to eat.

I also got out a notebook last night and today I am going to weigh in, write goals and start journaling. I think it will help me see what I need to see and actually putting it in writing me hold me accountable to myself.

There are always obstacles and excuses and I will get by them despite having a bad week. I am so thankful for being able to come here and vent about it when I need the support and I am really thankful for all of you telling me to get back on track. I know that I need to but I am just thankful that you guys motivate me to get going again!

Back on track, stronger than before, motivated by my friends here and will loose the weight,
Jen

 

[Mom2Princesses]

Jen--

I am so glad you talked to your DH, now that he has a full understanding he can assist you in your choices and make it easier for you to make the right ones! You seem like you are really on the right track! Small goals are a great way to start ---
I KNOW you can do it! If you can, take your measurements too, that will help you when you don't see a weight loss for a week, you can at least see if you lost an inch or two!

Keep coming back here--this board is the ultimate reality check!

 

[mowsie dreamer]

Good for you, Jen!!! You can do this!! And you have taking some very positive steps for getting on track!

I find that it helps me sooooo much to journal. I am glad that you are going to do this! It's easy to lose track of what you are eating if you don't write it down.

The thing I like about WW is the flexibility! I find that I usually can just eat the same things I am fixing for my family, maybe a smaller portion, but the same things. So if we are grilling burgers, I will make my HBpatty smaller and eat it on a light bun instead of a regular one.

Also, I have been fixing lower fat versions of things my family likes and they haven't really noticed the difference. I use low fat things in cooking (like low fat cheese or margarine). They don't know they are getting healthier right along with me! And what they don't know is GOOD for them!

Good luck this week!! We are all behind you!!!

 

[Poly Pal]

Keep your chin up! It has taken me over 15 years to get back to my "wedding weight". You have to want to lose weight for your self and your own reasons not anybody elses. So, keep trying!

The "Skinny Cow" idea is what we do in my house. So while the kids have ice cream or an ice cream sandwich, Dad has a Skinny Cow or low fat frozen yogurt carefully measured! I noticed that there are more kinds low fat ice cream sandwiches in the freezer section lately too, so if your market does not have Skinny Cow, you might find something similar.

Also, if you are doing the cooking for the guys working on the house, maybe you could plan to serve something that fits within your diet / plan? I know when its just burgers and hot dogs on the grill, I make myself a Boca Burger and a Morningstar Farms soy hotdog while the rest of the family is eating the higher calorie stuff. (I do the grocery shopping in my family, so I can control what is in the house!)

Good luck. Remember you are doing this for yourself and your health. Treat yourself right! Keep plugging away at it!!

 

[lmhall2000]

Okay, the way I see it is- it's just a WEEK! I started my weight loss journey April 1st. I did great the first month- those first pounds always seem to come off readily when you're overweight by 90 pounds!!! The second month I could see it slowing down so I uppppped the exercise- but this made me HUNGRY!! So I told myself- hey- get your exercise going for 3 weeks then worry about what you're eating. So for those 3 weeks I really didn't pay much attention to what I ate- but I did establish a habit of walking 20+ miles a week. The next month I was ready to take it on- so I started watching my food more closely and it the weight came off. When I have a month (like this one) where I've done GREAT at both exercising and dieting- I think I just need a break- but when I see those scales dipping to regions I haven't seen in years- I feel motivated to just take it a day at a time.

And surprisingly I've kept pushing forward- mini-goals really help- try to stick to goals you can accomplish in 2-4 weeks- then set another one. We are taking a trip to Disney in late September- and my mindset now says I want to not be so diligent with slimfasting 2 meals- instead of aiming for 10 pounds a month I'll aim for 5. But when that time comes I may change my mind. That said- each week is different and your situation will change (i.e. work/house stuff) that will affect how you want to attack it.

If you need a week off like last week- then take it- just make the next weeks a priority to exercise and choose good foods to give you energy. I used to crave Wendy's fries and Chick-Fil-A nuggets- but they really don't give me much energy- but a handful of nuts or fruit do!

You can do this!!!
Tara

 

[SnackyStacky]

Jen -

LIFE HAPPENS!

Weight Watchers is a great program. I've had tremendous success with it, but it's been over the course of almost a year and a half! There were weeks where I cheated, gained, didn't care....but I had to continually remind myself that it was a lifestyle change and not just something to lose weight. And once I had those periods of not caring, I just had to get right back on. You can do the same. Don't let one week of life mess up your goals. You can do it. You really can.

 

[bsnyder]

We all have bad weeks. Don't beat yourself up, just start over! Sounds like you're on the right track now!!

 

[TigH]

Jen,

I just wanted to say that you can do it! I know you can! Hang in there. One week doesn't mean the end of the world. I had a horrible eating week last week and I am pretty upset with myself, but today is a new day and I will stick to my program and wake up feeling better tomorrow. I know you can do the same thing!

C'mon, you are a very positive person! Start surfing around for inspirational stories to read. I am my own worst enemy when I get feeling like Eeyore, but that never lasts too long because Tigger always wants to bounce back out to play. So take your Eeyore tail off and put your Tigger tail on and bounce around this morning and tell me that you don't feel 100% better after that!