Funeral Attire, have you always worn black/dark colors?

[Lovely2CU]

Apart from one funeral, where the wife of the deceased requested we all wore anything but just black, as that is what he would of wanted, I always wear black or dark attire.

The same thing applied at my wife's uncles funeral, his niece wore red as that was his favorite color.

They can wear any color they want at mine.

 

[suzimar57]

yes, black - coming from an italian family, is there any other color to wear at a funeral?????

 

[Beth76]

I wore a springy flowery dress to my great aunt's funeral. She died during finals week of my freshman year of college. I had to take my last final, finish packing my entire room into my car, drive home 2 hours, then drive with my family 5 hours to Chicago to get there in time for the wake. All in the same day. That was the only nice thing I had to wear. No time to get anything else. My mom said it was just fine because my aunt really loved flowers.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

I wore a springy flowery dress to my great aunt's funeral. She died during finals week of my freshman year of college. I had to take my last final, finish packing my entire room into my car, drive home 2 hours, then drive with my family 5 hours to Chicago to get there in time for the wake. All in the same day. That was the only nice thing I had to wear. No time to get anything else. My mom said it was just fine because my aunt really loved flowers.

I wore a springy dress to a relative's funeral because I was young and very broke and that was all I had. I was the ONLY person at the funeral not wearing a dark color and I do think I got some odd looks.

 

[Evil Genius]

I wore black and red to my dh's funeral and violet to my moms. People came in whatever they had. It didn't matter to me what they had on, I was just happy to see them.

 

[Chattyaholic]

While I wouldn't dress like a hooker for a funeral, I don't see anything wrong with wearing clothes that have color. Especially during the summer when it's hot. My Dad passed away in January, and I wore black slacks with a dark burgundy sweater.

 

[lulugirl]

I always dress conservatively when attending a funeral but not always black.

I don't think it really matters what you wear to a funeral as long as you're there.

 

[WDWLVR]

While I would normally wear black or dark colors I wore a very bright outfit last Spring. Our HR managers son had died at a very young age (22) and she requested that everyone wear bright colors to the memorial service. It was meant to be a celebration of life and I think it really helped her get through a very difficult time.

 

[KelNottAt]

I usually wear black.

However, I've heard that white is also proper in summer. I've only seen that once. Never worn it myself.

 

[HunnyPots]

I never really think about the color but since much of my wardrobe is black anyway there's a pretty good chance...

 

[OceanAnnie]

While I wouldn't dress like a hooker for a funeral, I don't see anything wrong with wearing clothes that have color. Especially during the summer when it's hot. My Dad passed away in January, and I wore black slacks with a dark burgundy sweater.

Sorry to hear about your dad.

I generally wear black or a dark color.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I was just wondering myself what was appropriate these days. I'm planning to attend a memorial next weekend, and I just went shopping yesterday. I used to have a closetful of conservative suits and heels, but after 2 years as a SAHM, my uniform is now t-shirts and jeans.

Both my grandmothers died while I was in college, and I honestly don't remember what I wore to each, but I'm sure it wasn't black. I think each time I wore a dress, but maybe with a dark sweater or jacket over it. Like everyone else, funds (and access to a shopping mall) were limited back then.

 

[TerriP]

My mom wore a yellow dress that was my dad's favorite to his funeral and she looked lovely. I will always remember that.

 

[Lovely2CU]

I do believe Hindus wear white.

 

[GeorgeG]

Anything conservative and respectful would be appropriate.

 

[crzyred]

It depends on the person. For an older person that I didn't know (friends family, extended family, things like that) I try to just be subdued. Usually black pants and a darker top.

If it's a friend (I've had 4 in the past 4 yrs.) It's usually something with some color. It's still not like hot pink or lime green, but it isn't all black.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I usually wear black to a funeral with some nice or pretty jewelry/scarf thing thing to make it look like I tried. (even when I was young and broke, my mom made sure we had dark clothes. Yes, we'd have to borrow hers if we didn't have any )

Upon request of the deceased, I will wear anything. A clown suit, fine. Hooker, clothes, fine. Whatever makes them happy if it is their wish at the end.

My uncle wanted us drinking and playing poker the night before. We oblidged, and I was 12.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

The last funeral that I went to was my ex-husband's uncle, in the middle of summer 2002. At the time, I didn't own dark dress clothes that were weather-appropriate. The best I could do was a greyish-blue "dress" t-shirt and a black skirt with beige flowers. My ex said it was fine, but the rest of the family wore black, dark grey, or navy, so I felt I really stuck out.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

My mom wore a teal dress my dad liked to his funeral. I usually stick to the somber colors however. But if there was special meaning in a color or certain dress I would not be oppose to wearing it.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I attend a lot of funerals. I always wear a black suit (either skirt or pants, depending upon weather and if I want to shave my legs!) with a dark color top underneath.