Fresh Out of University and Onwards to Disney!!!An August PTR!!!(Last Update 8/26)

[jenbear123]

I also recently bought the much desired, Hey's Travel Mate!

I swear, that bag is SO HARD to find. I was almost going to order it from the website. But I FINALLY found it in Markville Mall in Markham for a better price.

I REALLY LIKE IT. On the Tips board, it was one of the best bags, besides the much-loved Baggallini.

Love the Heys TravelMate. I got mine at Zeller's. It keeps everything so organized. I can even vouch for it on my recent trip in April. My mom had a bag where she kept losing stuff and having to dig to find anything. Meanwhile, all my stuff was at my fingertips

Speaking of that bag, I can't find it ANYWHERE!!! And I refuse to buy it online from a US distributor that'll charge me over $20 for S&H and in US dollars to begin with.

I still really want it. So if anybody knows of Canadian retailers that have the Baggallini messenger sling bag, tell me and I'll devote my love to you.

I once went on this quest as well. As far as I know, Baggallini is not sold in Canada (or at least Ontario). If you really want one, you'll have to drive to Buffalo and find a store there. It really sucks, I know. We get the shaft up here in Canada

 

[TokyoDina]

Yuki I'm not attacking you in any way for making your Cup of Noodles food choice. But I would strongly warn against it just because they are so bad for you. It's not even funny. I'm not asking you to change just because I said this but I wanted to put the information out there for you that there are more healthier choices for snack foods and meals out there. But don't get mad or offended. I'm a clean eater. I try very hard not to eat what I call dirty food. I only bring fruits and veggies to snacks even to Disney. I put them in my carry on ones that don't normally go bad quickly so that they'll last a few days and if I have time I'll head to a store to get more or buy some from the parks to carry around with me for the week.

I'm just a avid clean eater and I put out the information. Regardless of if it's taken or not.

Check it! Maki knows!

http://www.justhungry.com/instant-ramen-and-cup-noodles-are-very-very-bad-you

 

[YukiPhnx]

mmmm...mac and cheese

With cut up hot dogs, yumm-o

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Love the Heys TravelMate. I got mine at Zeller's. It keeps everything so organized. I can even vouch for it on my recent trip in April. My mom had a bag where she kept losing stuff and having to dig to find anything. Meanwhile, all my stuff was at my fingertips

Sweet! Great to know! I've been wearing mine around to get used to it some more.

I once went on this quest as well. As far as I know, Baggallini is not sold in Canada (or at least Ontario). If you really want one, you'll have to drive to Buffalo and find a store there. It really sucks, I know. We get the shaft up here in Canada

I actually found some Baggallini stores in Kingston. Unfortunately, they were out of the messenger sling bags. They have a page for stores that usually carry Baggallini in Canada. I'm in the process of checking the Toronto and Waterloo/Kitchener ones.

Yuki I'm not attacking you in any way for making your Cup of Noodles food choice. But I would strongly warn against it just because they are so bad for you. It's not even funny. I'm not asking you to change just because I said this but I wanted to put the information out there for you that there are more healthier choices for snack foods and meals out there. But don't get mad or offended. I'm a clean eater. I try very hard not to eat what I call dirty food. I only bring fruits and veggies to snacks even to Disney. I put them in my carry on ones that don't normally go bad quickly so that they'll last a few days and if I have time I'll head to a store to get more or buy some from the parks to carry around with me for the week.

I'm just a avid clean eater and I put out the information. Regardless of if it's taken or not.

Check it! Maki knows!

http://www.justhungry.com/instant-ramen-and-cup-noodles-are-very-very-bad-you

Haha, it's ok Dina. As I said, I only ever eat cup noodles on vacation, and only if I get hungry at night. To me, I just love trying out all the new and diff kinds of cup noodles that are made today.

I'm a very healthy eater generally. But I believe everything in moderation. I don't eat unhealthy all the time, but one unhealthy snack here or there in a healthy diet can't really hurt me. Thanks though.

In fact, cup noodles for me are just very nostalgic. It brings me back to when I was a kid, flying to China from Canada. When it was really late and they weren't serving food anymore, the flight attendants would give me a cup noodle. They just bring me back to a very happy time with my family

 

[YukiPhnx]

A real-life rant

Right now, I'm so full of anger, I'm not sure what to do with myself.

I'm typically not an angry person. I just don't get angry. Most things don't make my skin boil. But if we're talking about social policy and issues....that's another thing.

But in day-to-day life, I'm pretty content.

So what's got me so angry?

Well...it's an issue with Andrew's dad.

Let me start from the beginning.

Andrew and his mom immigrated to Canada a long time ago. His dad stayed in Taiwan because he didn't like Canada. His mom pretty much raised him and his older sister by herself in Canada, while his dad sent them money.

Andrew comes from a pretty wealthy family. His dad is a conglomerate in China and Taiwan, owning many factories of many different products including shoes and chinaware.

My family on the other hand, would be considered a low income family. We're not really poor, but we make do and is able to afford luxuries once in a while.

I've only ever met his dad twice. Our first meeting, Andrew I invited his mom and dad to dimsum. I thought it went pretty well. My Mandarin is not the best, but I was still able to communicate. His dad didn't seem keen on talking to me though.

After our first meeting, he told Andrew that I was ugly and poor, and that Andrew can do much better than me. So...it's obvious that his dad didn't like me very much.

Fast forward to a year and a half later. His dad once again visits Canada. He wanted to go to Muskoka, so I helped him and Andrew's mom find a place, book a hotel, and arranged activities and a map for them.

After they returned, they took Andrew on a 4 day tour to Chicago. On this trip, Andrew's dad tells him that he can't believe he's still with me. He forces Andrew to break up with me or he will disown Andrew and cut off his resources.

Being still in school and reliant on his dad, Andrew didn't have much of a choice. He breaks up with me. That was a very hard time in both our lives.

Soon after that, he returns to Taiwan with his parents, and is able to convince his dad to let him get back together with me.

Fast forward to today...

Andrew's mom just sent him an email with the following content:
-His dad does not want me at Andrew's graduation on June 1st. If I still go, then his dad won't be showing up
-Right now, Andrew is unemployed and looking for a job. His dad wants him back in Asia to work and/or study so he's far away from me. Seriously, that's what he said.
-I had the rare opportunity to go on a free tour to Shanghai that included admission to the World Expo being held there this year. My mom offered to pay for the plane tickets, but only if I went with Andrew. I won't be going anymore because his dad doesn't want him traveling with me, and his dad is the one with the money.

So....you can guess why I'm mad right now. Andrew is still unconvinced that his dad despises me. I'm pretty sure it's obvious he doesn't want me with his son. His dad is ACTIVELY trying to keep us apart.

What can I do about that? Absolutely nothing. He's already made his judgment on me. He doesn't want to see me, which means he's not willing to give me a chance either.

It might sound really harsh that he doesn't like me based on my looks and economic background, but he's a rich, traditional Chinese man. Traditional Chinese people judge people's character solely on their face. I can understand that.

But how can he hate me to this point? I never gave him a reason to really dislike me. He just plain DOESN'T LIKE ME.

*sighs* Ok, I really needed to get that off my chest. Thanks a lot you guys

 

[jenbear123]

Oh my, my, my, my, my, my, my! You poor poor poor girl!!!!

I completely understand how you must be feeling. I am in a similar situation with my DBF and his parents. Maybe not as extreme but still.... it still tugs at our relationship. Let me explain. My DBF's parents are Jewish - his mom was born Jewish, his dad converted from Catholic - but they are not Orthodox. You would think they'd be a bit more lenient, right? WRONG! When we first started dating, one day his mom approached him (when I wasn't there of course) and said "Why don't you find yourself a nice Jewish girl?" When DBF told me this, I was so distraught. I was sure his parents would break us up. I have never really felt like his mom has liked me. I even lived in their house for 2 years (which was H-E-DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS), went to Italy with DBF and his family. Nothing seemed to break the wall. To this day, I still can't talk to his parents. Thankfully my DBF thinks for himself and does not take any crap from his parents. Also, neither of us are religious AT ALL. If it wasn't for him being that way, our relationship would've ended right then and there. We've now been together 5 amazing years with no end in sight.

Now, in your case, it's a bit more difficult. Especially since the father financially supports the family. If Andrew is strong and truly wants to be with you, he will do everything in his power to stay with you. I know you said Andrew's father is very traditional and set in his ways, but he needs to realize that things are very different now. Parents no longer get to choose who you are with and/or marry (at least in North America). I hope everything turns out okay for you. Hang in there girl!

 

[Dizneydawn]

HI! So glad I am getting a bit more time to myself so I can catch up on reading I want to do!!! I am through chapter 6...will get the rest done this weekend!

Love reading about your upcoming journey and can't wait for the fun photo's!!!

 

[YukiPhnx]

Oh my, my, my, my, my, my, my! You poor poor poor girl!!!!

I completely understand how you must be feeling. I am in a similar situation with my DBF and his parents. Maybe not as extreme but still.... it still tugs at our relationship. Let me explain. My DBF's parents are Jewish - his mom was born Jewish, his dad converted from Catholic - but they are not Orthodox. You would think they'd be a bit more lenient, right? WRONG! When we first started dating, one day his mom approached him (when I wasn't there of course) and said "Why don't you find yourself a nice Jewish girl?" When DBF told me this, I was so distraught. I was sure his parents would break us up. I have never really felt like his mom has liked me. I even lived in their house for 2 years (which was H-E-DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS), went to Italy with DBF and his family. Nothing seemed to break the wall. To this day, I still can't talk to his parents. Thankfully my DBF thinks for himself and does not take any crap from his parents. Also, neither of us are religious AT ALL. If it wasn't for him being that way, our relationship would've ended right then and there. We've now been together 5 amazing years with no end in sight.

Now, in your case, it's a bit more difficult. Especially since the father financially supports the family. If Andrew is strong and truly wants to be with you, he will do everything in his power to stay with you. I know you said Andrew's father is very traditional and set in his ways, but he needs to realize that things are very different now. Parents no longer get to choose who you are with and/or marry (at least in North America). I hope everything turns out okay for you. Hang in there girl!

;_; Yeah, he made sure to let his dad know that he can't control him. He had to work very hard just to be able to get back together with me.

Well...the thing with being in north america is that....he's not. That's how it is back in China and Taiwan, so he doesn't really have any reason to "change his ways".

I know we'll stay together for sure. His mom and sister both love me. It's just his dad. I'm hoping that when Andrew becomes more financially able, he'll finally be able to break away from the hold his dad has on him.

At least in your case, his mom didn't say you were ugly and that he could do better

HI! So glad I am getting a bit more time to myself so I can catch up on reading I want to do!!! I am through chapter 6...will get the rest done this weekend!

Love reading about your upcoming journey and can't wait for the fun photo's!!!

Hey Dawn! It's great to see that you have more time now, what with all that's going on with Carsyn and Treynor. I can't wait to see photos of Carsyn's prom!

 

[dizneeat]

Yuki, I can't believe what I have just read!

Your DBF's father really is unbelieveable!! And this is the moment I wish English was my first language and I would be able to communicate better! But NO I am still sitting here in disbelieve!

The good thing is that your DBF seems to understand what gem he has found in you and likes you the way you are!
Don't let what your DBFs father says get to you! I know it is easier said than done! But you are a wonderful person - inside AND out!

Can't wait to do that in person - Aug 20!!!

 

[ZeroToHero]

Ugh... I am so sorry you have to go through with that. I can't believe that sort of thing still happens!

I for one think you're adorable, haha... I can't believe he doesn't! >.<

I am so glad Andrew cares about you enough to stand up to his dad - even though it's not as much as you probably would like, it takes a lot of guts to tell your parents they're wrong.

I also have a few similar stories like that, but nothing to the level yours is - there was no money involved, or anything like that, so it wasn't as much of an issue (and one time it actually turned out for the best, because the guy was a jerk, but that's besides the point - let's just say I'm glad I wasn't a Muslim, and therefore did not meet his dad's expectations).

Does Andrew have to take the job in Taiwan soon? Or can he say no and keep trying to find something there? I hope he talks to his dad and explains that he has to get used to having you around, because you're staying.

 

[YukiPhnx]

You guys are really great! Thanks for your support

Yuki, I can't believe what I have just read!

Your DBF's father really is unbelieveable!! And this is the moment I wish English was my first language and I would be able to communicate better! But NO I am still sitting here in disbelieve!

The good thing is that your DBF seems to understand what gem he has found in you and likes you the way you are!
Don't let what your DBFs father says get to you! I know it is easier said than done! But you are a wonderful person - inside AND out!

Can't wait to do that in person - Aug 20!!!

It's REALLY hard to not let him get to me. I'm sick right now and need to rest, but can't sleep because of what he said! It's so hard to just turn it off

I can't wait to in real life too!

Ugh... I am so sorry you have to go through with that. I can't believe that sort of thing still happens!

I for one think you're adorable, haha... I can't believe he doesn't! >.<

I am so glad Andrew cares about you enough to stand up to his dad - even though it's not as much as you probably would like, it takes a lot of guts to tell your parents they're wrong.

I also have a few similar stories like that, but nothing to the level yours is - there was no money involved, or anything like that, so it wasn't as much of an issue (and one time it actually turned out for the best, because the guy was a jerk, but that's besides the point - let's just say I'm glad I wasn't a Muslim, and therefore did not meet his dad's expectations).

Does Andrew have to take the job in Taiwan soon? Or can he say no and keep trying to find something there? I hope he talks to his dad and explains that he has to get used to having you around, because you're staying.

Yeah....my life is such a drama and I don't even like dramas! Except for House and Desperate Housewives...

(side-note:Our getting together and what we've experienced so far has been dubbed a shojo manga by my friends, hehe.)

I'm glad Andrew tried to fight for me. But you're absolutely right about me thinking it isn't enough. To me, it feels like he could be doing more. But it's better to let him take his own time. He already knows he wants to be with me. No point in nagging him.

He doesn't have a job lined up for him. His dad just wants him back in China. He wants to stay in Canada because of course, he wants to work in Canada now that he's graduated.

 

[TokyoDina]

I would totally dub your life as of now a Shoujo Manga. I can see the flower randomly flying in the wind! Ha!~

But on a real note. I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I can't pretend to understand what your going through because well I deal with other things because we're an inter-racial couple. But I truly believe that if Andrew really 100% wants to be with you, you guys will work it out. I'm sure he does by the way you wrote about it and I know it sucks and it's hard! But someone once told me if everything was easy it wouldn't be worth doing. So, hold on and be strong! I know you can do it! And you guys are going to Disney soon-ish!

 

[Kellybelly777]

Thats absolutly awful!!! Your not the slightest bit ugly or not worth it!!! Andrew can see it too!!! You've got lots of support here at Disboards!!!

 

[YukiPhnx]

Thanks so much you guys! You've really made me feel a lot better. Even Andrew has noticed that I've cheered up after I talked to you guys. I've got some great friends here

I would totally dub your life as of now a Shoujo Manga. I can see the flower randomly flying in the wind! Ha!~

But on a real note. I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I can't pretend to understand what your going through because well I deal with other things because we're an inter-racial couple. But I truly believe that if Andrew really 100% wants to be with you, you guys will work it out. I'm sure he does by the way you wrote about it and I know it sucks and it's hard! But someone once told me if everything was easy it wouldn't be worth doing. So, hold on and be strong! I know you can do it! And you guys are going to Disney soon-ish!

Definitely. How can we know the good without the bad, right?

I'm so glad I have Disney to look forward to at the end of summer. Andrew's future is so uncertain right now...

Thats absolutly awful!!! Your not the slightest bit ugly or not worth it!!! Andrew can see it too!!! You've got lots of support here at Disboards!!!

Awwww, thanks Kelly! You guys are really great. I'm so lucky!

 

[YukiPhnx]

Chapter 17. Summer has arrived!

With my first trip to Centre Island, one of the Toronto Islands found in the south end of Toronto.

I LOVE that island. Seriously, they have some of the best beaches.

With this first trip to the Island, my summer can begin! It's finally warm enough to go.

It won't be too too warm tomorrow, but it'll be sunny all day with low winds! Good enough for me!

I always try to take at least one or two trips a year to the Island. It's just so nice over there. Large parks, serene pockets of the Island, quadricycles, and a kids' amusement park with a pretty cool ride that spins you very fast around in the dark with flashy strobe lights and cool music.

Here are some pictures from last year's fun!

This is me, just lounging and falling asleep on the beach. Andrew found rocks and sticks and did this.

Then he did this. Awww, isn't he sweet? This is AFTER he covered my back with rocks. He didn't take pictures of that.

This is Andrew's bestfriend, Steve, doing a "boyband cd cover" pose

This is the one in my signature!

Group silhouette! Cause we're cool like that. Ohhhh yeaaaaah

I'm not sure why Andrew took this picture....

Cruising on the quadricycle! Weee! (This was taken after MANY failed attempts) And yes, it WAS moving. Who was steering???

We couldn't help ourselves. Yes, that's my hand.

Me, trying not to laugh...

Andrew, trying not to laugh...

Last one. I have a habit of taking pictures of my bigger bruises. I bruise EXTREMELY easily, often having no idea where it came from. This was a bruise right below one of my knees.

I'll try to post some nicer pictures of the Island to show you guys. Beautiful place really.

BTW, just wanted to say You guys are awesome. Thanks so much for making me feel better about Andrew's dad.

 

[ZeroToHero]

Alright, so I just woke up - and that's my excuse for the following:

I saw the picture of Andrew trying not to laugh, and saw the maple leaf banners.. and went "Oh, now they're in Epcot?"

..Then I realized... you live in Canada.

Fail.

 

[YukiPhnx]

Alright, so I just woke up - and that's my excuse for the following:

I saw the picture of Andrew trying not to laugh, and saw the maple leaf banners.. and went "Oh, now they're in Epcot?"

..Then I realized... you live in Canada.

Fail.

That's so funny! Hahahaha. You're too cute

 

[lovealldisney]

Traditional Chinese people judge people's character solely on their face.

I work with a women from China and she told me this very same thing! I find this appalling! To base your judgement on someone solely on the way they look!!! This really makes me angry.

She also told me that is why young ladies in China like American men because they don't judge them by there looks. She told me of a friend, whose daughter married an American, but said that was good for her because (then she made this face of like ewww...) because she wasn't that nice looking! I didn't know what to say I just sat there dumbfounded!


Ok rant over. I hope Andrew sticks to his guns, finds a job and can live solely on his own without his fathers money.

 

[YukiPhnx]

I work with a women from China and she told me this very same thing! I find this appalling! To base your judgement on someone solely on the way they look!!! This really makes me angry.

She also told me that is why young ladies in China like American men because they don't judge them by there looks. She told me of a friend, whose daughter married an American, but said that was good for her because (then she made this face of like ewww...) because she wasn't that nice looking! I didn't know what to say I just sat there dumbfounded!


Ok rant over. I hope Andrew sticks to his guns, finds a job and can live solely on his own without his fathers money.

Yeah, there's actually some method in face-reading though. It's not always about beauty, but it's about what the face tells us. Like palm-reading. Chinese people are pretty superstitious, so they take face reading pretty seriously.

Haha, there are TOO MANY REASONS why Chinese girls like white men...but let's not go there.

I don't take it too seriously though. It seems horrible at first, but many people from other cultures do just this, without even realizing. They just don't do it so blatantly as us Chinese, or any other Asian for that matter.

Also, to my PTR!

 

[ZeroToHero]

Crazy story - my mom's friend's brother married a woman he met in China (they go over there multiple times a year for business trips).

Then my mom's friend married wife #1's sister.

Then my mom's friend's other brother married wife #1's friend.

....And now they all live in the same house.

I could not imagine doing that - I love my sister and friends, but would not want to live with them for the rest of my life.

 

[YukiPhnx]

Omg, that is so funny!!!!

With Chinese people, we tend to live with our families and just stay close. My two uncles live in houses right next to each other.

And before our families got bigger, we all lived in one house. My family, my grandparents, my aunt and her kids, and my not-yet-married uncles.

It's a family reunion everyday!

But wow, that is very funny.