Found out 2 8th graders at DD's middle school are pregnant

[bjgrazi]

This is sad, so sad.

Every parent that thinks it's okay for their 13/14/15 y/o dating should see the teenage girls that get pregnant. Hopefully that would change thier minds about dating.

 

[MELSMICE]

I don't think the approach of telling the studens via assembly was tactful. If I was in the situation I would not want my business broadcast like that.

And if I was the parent, I would be talking to the school about that as well.

The assembly wasn't scheduled to make this "announcement". I think they used it as an example.

I could be jumping to conclusions on this one, but it doesn't seem as though the parents talked with their kids, what would make you think they would call the school & talk to them?

 

[Castlebound]

It was the summer after my 8th grade year when I had my first kiss. I would like to tell you that it was that way for all the kids in my school, but it wasn't. Kids were making out or more under some stairs at the grade school in 5th and 6th grades. It got to be such a big problem that they had a teacher watch the stairs. By junior high kids were having sex.

My junior year of high school I was on the school newspaper, and we wanted to do an issue that talked about teen sex. How many were doing it, at what age, and the ones that weren't what made them decide to wait. It would also have information on abstinence, safe sex, and an article on a week in the life of a teenage parent. We got the ok from our teacher and the principal. We spent a month working on this issue of the paper. We did surveys, interviewed students, the school nurse, and a doctor. What we found out was that the kids who felt like they could talk to their parents openly about sex were more likely to be older when they had sex if they had had it at all in high school. We had the paper ready for the printer when members of the school board came into the class and said that we could not publish the paper. The paper was due out the next day and they decided at the very last minute that we could not have a paper talking about sex. They felt that too many parents would be upset that their kids could buy this paper ($.25) and read about sex. So we printed a paper that had the title "THIS IS WHAT THE SCHOOL BOARD WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO KNOW ABOUT SEX" and the rest of the paper was blank. All 8 pages were blank! It caused a big uproar in the school. In the end our "sex paper" was never published but the teacher that taught the sex ed class used all of our information in her class. She told us that it helped her know what she really needed to talk about in her class.

 

[septbride2002]

So very sad. And I hope a huge wake up call to those girls and the boy!
I am happy that they will be giving up their babies for adoption - and pray they have healthy pregnancies and easy deliverys. May the adoptive parents be receptive to their new children and rejoice in the extra special gifts these girls are giving them.

~Amanda

 

[Sherrypooh]

Skipping to the bottom. I hate to say this but.. My 7th grader (13) his buddy actually asked my son to purchase condoms for his friend as his friend was not able to get to the store and was to chicken to get them. And we are small town... nothing surprises me anymore.. just makes me sad these kids just aren't ready.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Skipping to the bottom. I hate to say this but.. My 7th grader (13) his buddy actually asked my son to purchase condoms for his friend as his friend was not able to get to the store and was to chicken to get them. And we are small town... nothing surprises me anymore.. just makes me sad these kids just aren't ready.

if they aren't mature enough to buy them...they aren't mature enough to USE them IMO

 

[wuv tigger]

Supposedly they are giving the babies up for adoption.

There are SO many waiting families who will love both of those little ones! I KNOW this from personal experience 2x's over!

Our prayers go out to both of the girls & their families.

Judy

 

[grinningghost]

That's sad. I can't even imagine myself as a parent at that age. There were so many other important things to do - hang out with friends, drool over teen idols, wander around the mall - anything but having a baby!

 

[bananiem]

if they aren't mature enough to buy them...they aren't mature enough to USE them IMO

I agree, but they do it anyway and that's why situations like this occur.

 

[RadioNate]

This is sad, so sad.

Every parent that thinks it's okay for their 13/14/15 y/o dating should see the teenage girls that get pregnant. Hopefully that would change thier minds about dating.

Hey now - not every 13-15 year old dating is having sex. Dating doesn't always equate to having sex.

My SIL is 17 and started dating in Jr High and I know she hasn't had sex. Forbidding a child from dating isn't going to stop them from doing it if they want to.

 

[simpilotswife]

I'll bet the parents of both of those girls thought that their girls weren't into boys yet or were too young for "that" talk.

 

[nativetxn]

This is just so sad. When I was 13 years old I hadn't even been kissed, or when I was 14 or 15 either.

Babies having babies

 

[bjgrazi]

Hey now - not every 13-15 year old dating is having sex. Dating doesn't always equate to having sex.

You're right, but it sure does lead to the opportunity. If they're not allowed to date, they don't have an opportunity to get into a sexual situation. Given the opportunity they will test the waters.

 

[cats7494]

Oh, that is just so very sad!

My dd is 11 and is going into Middle School next year (6th grade). Scary!
She and I have talked often about sex, periods...etc. It is the responsibility of a parent to talk with their children and to know where they are.
I know that sometimes things happen - but as a parent you just have to stay involved in your kid's lives!

 

[meandtheguys2]

I'll bet the parents of both of those girls thought that their girls weren't into boys yet or were too young for "that" talk.

You know, the kids probably had been well educated re. sex, but they just don't care about the ramificatios. The maturity is just nnot there.

 

[MrsKreamer]

Good heavens. If it were my 8th grader - quiet abortion, and the school district would never have known a thing, and I hope that it would be a terrifying wake-up call for my daughter. Those two girls are now outcasts for the rest of high school - they will never be pursued by quality guys, they will never have "good girl" friends - the stigma is so strong.

See I would make her give birth and put the child up for adoption. It isn't b/c I am against abortion, but b/c I believe every bad action has a consequence. She had unprotected sex. She was having sex at all and is only 13/14. Sorry sex can lead to pregnancy. Pregnacy leads to giving birth and having to deal with a child. I wouldn't want to see my 13/14 y/o go through that, no of course not. That's why I intend on being a better parent then those of those 2 girls I do think that my child should understnad the real consequences of sex.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

There was a girl I went to shool with who had a baby at 14. I keep thinking how now her kid must be almost 22. WOW! I can't imagine myself with a 22 year old right now.

I remember when I was in 4th grade, during health we were talking about teen pregnancy, and my teacher was telling us a story of when she taught in a different town. She was at a parent/teacher conference, and the mom of one of her 4th graders was 24 years old. 4th grade is 10 years old. The teacher made it clear that the woman was only 14 when she had the child. It really impacted me, I remember the lesson clear as day, 27 years later.

 

[chadfromdallas]

See I would make her give birth and put the child up for adoption.

Wouldn't you just feel terrible if there were complications and she ended up dying?

 

[caitycaity]

See I would make her give birth and put the child up for adoption. It isn't b/c I am against abortion, but b/c I believe every bad action has a consequence.

i'm assuming you wouldn't take the same action of the sex was not consentual?

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Those two girls are now outcasts for the rest of high school - they will never be pursued by quality guys, they will never have "good girl" friends - the stigma is so strong.

Not around here. People would barely even blink an eye.