??? For those who've attended your 20th high school reunion

[susy]

I'm considering attending my 20th reunion. It's in October. I really did not like high school-put up good front, though. There are some people that I cared about that I would like to catch up with and my best friend from high school is planning on going...What have been your experiences?

 

[snoopy]

I attended mine. Most of the cliques and pretenses that you would find at the 10 year reunion had gone away by the 20th, so a good time was had by all.

 

[NMAmy]

I went to mine--it was great. Oddly enough, it was the guys that had changed the most. Although one girl that had driven me crazy during high school (we were friends in jr high then she became a cheerleader and gotten kind of big for her britches)--had changed so much and was very sweet and nice. In fact, no one recognized her--but it was nice to be able to like her again.

I have a small group of friends that I still see all the time so we all went together. We had fun and it was great to see how much everyone had changed. I was voted least changed--one of my best friends says he knows I have a picture in the attic like Dorian Gray.

 

[snoopy]

It was the guys who changed most at our reunion too. I figured that is because women have the benefit of makeup and changing their hairstyles. Most of the men at my 20th were bald or pretty darned close!

 

[piratesmate]

My experience was pretty much as the others described. There were still a few who only socialized with their old group. This sounds kind of nasty, but it seemed to be the ones who never left the area & didn't go to college.

The biggest snobs from the "IN crowd" during HS had gone to college. They were extremely sweet to everyone. I wouldn't even have thought they knew my name, but they all talked to me.

The biggest shock came when I was trying to find the right room - there were 3 reunions that night. One was obviously too young & both the other 2 seemed too old. The rooms were full of OLD men! I finally saw one of my best girlfriends in the room. I couldn't believe it.

 

[missypie]

The only one I've attended was my 20th. I'll never go again. I had a huge HS graduating class (823) so most of the folks were unfamiliar. None of my "best" friends were there....it was all the type of people that were acquaintances and we'd run out of things to say after 5 minutes. Quite dull.

DH and I each have a small group of friends from college that we get together with about every 5 years. That's a lot more fun.

 

[Serena]

I had fun at my 20th.

 

[crz4mm2]

We had a fairly small class (although it was the biggest class to ever graduate from my high school) and it was a pretty close class. Most everyone talked to everyone else. I have been to every reunion (last one was our 25th) and had a good time each and every time. Sure is fun to see who has changed. I agree the guys have changed the most All us girls are still very young
Go. Have a great time.

 

[CamColt]

The last one Ive had was my 10th but I found it fun. It seemed like all the cliques were gone by then. In fact, I talked to 1 girl(very popular, cheerleader, "above me" in HS) for like 1/2 hour. I couldnt get rid of her, LOL!
We have a 15th coming up in about a month and Im looking forward to going. Of course it means a night out of dinner, drinks and dancing for DH and I with a few of my best friends,plus a night at the hotel, so it may have nothing to do with the other people from HS, LOL!

 

[SpecialK]

Went to mine. All girls H.S. reunion. Most people were friendly but some, more than I expected, were still in the clique mentality. It was pretty boring. Once I got past the "Hi. How are you?" stage there really wasn't much to say. I realized I still see the people I am truly compatible with. I wouldn't waste time on another reunion.

 

[susy]

Okay...another question....my DH doesn't want to go...will I look "weird" if I go completely alone... I mean "walking in the front door by myself"?

 

[piratesmate]

My unmarried cousin usually tries to call old friends & arrange to meet there, but only because she "feels funny." (We graduated the same year.) However, there were quite a few singles - for various reasons. It's not uncommon for husbands to feel really out of it when old girl friends get together.

My situation is kind of the opposite. DH used to work in a local grocery store & he recognized more people at my reunion than I did....so he had a good time.

 

[NMAmy]

No, I don't think you'd look weird at all going by yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, you might see if there's a friend who'd like to go with you. I'm sure you wouldn't be the only one to go on their own.

It's a weird situation for spouses--you're wandering around busy and they're kind of stuck not knowing anyone. DH came with me because we went with a group of friends and their spouses we see several times a year. The spouses sat together and had a great time while we visited around the room. If he hadn't known the other spouses in advance, I think he'd have probably stayed home.

 

[mtemm]

my 20th will be next year (gasp). that is if we have it. our class was kind of a why bother class. seriously. small school, my class had around 100 people in it, so we all know each other even if we don't know each other well.

I would like to go if there is one, but would need to make some arrangements for the kids. we'd need to fly to California for it and not sure we could find babysitters there, so thing we'd be better off leaving them here for a few days. oooh...this is starting to sound like fun! LOL! the only thing is that none of my friends from high school, some whom I am still friends with today, will go. seriously. I might be able to talk one into going. If I beg maybe a second would go. but that would be really asking a lot. I didn't think our high school was bad, personally.

hmmm...now I've got a year to lose this baby weight, and whatever was on before the baby

 

[Cebhfhionn]

I didn't like many of the people in my HS and didn't even consider my 10th. However, when my 20th rolled around, I found myself wanting to go. I saw some pictures that someone sent me and my how people have changed, looked like everyone had a great time and I'm sad that I didn't end up going. So, I think you should!

What made me decide not to go? I ended up moving here to Florida and couldn't really afford to fly up to NJ.

 

[Kae]

I have 2 to go to. I moved the middle of my junior year, so I am going to both. Last 2 weeks ago I had one,where I live we had a good time. Now this weekend I have one also I have not seen these people for 20 years they could not find me for the 10th.

going alone is fine. my girlfriend came alone to our because her boyfriend would not know anyone. This way she could talk to everyone without feeling bad,about leaving him alone.

We have something on both nights. So how much is yours?My cost are 1st one $35 pp. This weekend $60 pp.

Kae

 

[dbogen]

Its funny I came across this thread. My 20th was just this weekend, it was a family picnic style at one of the parks. I missed it however as DS11 and I were still in the hospital after he broke his leg on friday. Funny thing is I wasn't sure about going all the people I care to catch up with wern't going as we talk a few times a year anyway. I do wish it had been a night out without the kids, but since I had to miss it I don't feel that bad.

When did I get so old that I have been out of highschool for 20 years???

Deanna

 

[susy]

My reunion is $130 pp and is at the Hard Rock Hotel 10 minutes from my house. I'm thinking about getting a room for the weekend . My DH and Ds can enjoy the pool.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

Mine was OK. This was in 2001. Even people that barely gave me the time of day in HS would see me and say "you look exactly the same!" I still don't know if that's good or bad. There were a lot of bald guys. My 25th is the year of my 20th ann. and I am kind of hoping I can cruise that weekend and have that as an excuse.
Two interesting things: Although the cliques seemed to be much less active at the 20th than the 10th, a few days after the reunion someone sent out a big photo file of the reunion. Who was in the pictures? Only the popular people. I was ticked that I even momentarily wasted hard drive space on it. Also, one month after the reunion I went to the annual festival in my hometown, and the same people who said "you look exactly the same!" somehow walked right by me without even a nod.
Robin M.

 

[Pam]

It was like being in HS all over again. Somethings *NEVER* change.

My 25th HS reunion was last weekend. I pitched the invitation into the garbage can the day it arrived in the mail in the spring.