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[Marshay]

Hmmm, going to bed early or watching your family play a fishing game...I'll take door #3, please!

 

[kaoden39]

Hey all!

Add me to the on-property snobs...but I got it even worse...now I'm a DVC snob, too...however, if I could actually live in a house near Disney that would be awesome!!!!

Yes, I'm jealous of DMM but so happy for her.

UJ -- sorry to hear about all the house problems...no a microwave should not sound like a garbage disposal!!

Our furniture issues are just unusual, I guess. No one can agree as to who owns the furniture, what costs have been incurred, who owes whom what, etc. Right now there are 3 parties involved -- me, the credit card company and the furniture company. I'm hoping to find some answers on Tuesday. Court date is set for January but I really hope we can settle it beforehand.

When we hadn't heard anything from them for 2 months, I thought it was settled...oh well, what's life without some stress in it??

I would think the credit card company would be on your side. You don't need to stress over this. I went to Barnes and Noble today and got my Kingdom Keepers books. Yes both of them. I am sure I will like them. I like Ridley Pearson. Loren and Kody both really enjoyed Peter and the Starcathers that he wrote with Dave Barry.

 

[kaoden39]

Hmmm, going to bed early or watching your family play a fishing game...I'll take door #3, please!

That's why I am here now. Scotty and Loren are now playing a WWII game. Flying planes and shooting guns. Man stuff.

 

[Marshay]

I would think the credit card company would be on your side. You don't need to stress over this. I went to Barnes and Noble today and got my Kingdom Keepers books. Yes both of them. I am sure I will like them. I like Ridley Pearson. Loren and Kody both really enjoyed Peter and the Starcathers that he wrote with Dave Barry.

Yep, the cc company is on our side ... at least verbally...but when I asked for something in writing, they sent me a note that said to "consult a lawyer"...guess they are now playing CYA.

 

[kaoden39]

Yep, the cc company is on our side ... at least verbally...but when I asked for something in writing, they sent me a note that said to "consult a lawyer"...guess they are now playing CYA.

Lovely. Isn't that nice of them. Thankfully your DH's company has that help for you.

How are DH and DD?

 

[Marshay]

That's why I am here now. Scotty and Loren are now playing a WWII game. Flying planes and shooting guns. Man stuff.

My DH would love that. He's always playing those types of games on his computer, too.

We got out all our Xmas stuff tonight and DD started decorating the lower half of the tree. It was so cool to watch and she was a huge help, too! She is sooo excited about Christmas this year.

I told DH that we are in for some really exciting Christmases these next few years -- kids will believe in Santa Claus and be all excited about it.

Today DD told me she was "both naughty and nice". I told her that Santa wants her to be nice all the time ... and yes, I did the "Santa brings presents to good little boys and girls, so you better be good"...

Somehow I really don't think this will make any difference in her behavior...

 

[Marshay]

Lovely. Isn't that nice of them. Thankfully your DH's company has that help for you.

How are DH and DD?

Yeah, just lovely (re: the CC company).

DH is starting to get stressed at work -- I take this as a good thing b/c that means he's really getting into the trenches of the job...(or at least that's the spin I told him!)

DD is having a harder time with being 3 years old than 2. I think our 2's were really pretty good but we have more temper tantrums now that she is 3. It's not like a full-blown temper but we'll tell her to do something and she'll whine and cry "help me" ... and it's something we all know she can do anyway like go up the stairs or take off her shoes. But she turns into this helpless creature and says she is a baby.

If we help her, then all is pretty good. But that just encourages her to whine and cry and continue the "I'm a baby" thing.

I figure this has something to do with baby #2?? and she isn't even here yet...what's gonna happen when #2 arrives??

 

[kaoden39]

My DH would love that. He's always playing those types of games on his computer, too.

We got out all our Xmas stuff tonight and DD started decorating the lower half of the tree. It was so cool to watch and she was a huge help, too! She is sooo excited about Christmas this year.

I told DH that we are in for some really exciting Christmases these next few years -- kids will believe in Santa Claus and be all excited about it.

Today DD told me she was "both naughty and nice". I told her that Santa wants her to be nice all the time ... and yes, I did the "Santa brings presents to good little boys and girls, so you better be good"...

Somehow I really don't think this will make any difference in her behavior...

I always tried the naughty and nice thing with the kids and it was funny because the closer to Christmas it got the more you could see them struggling to be good.

I love how excited little ones get during the holidays. Loren even at 12 gets that excited. He was ready to decorate for Christmas the day after Thanksgving.

 

[kaoden39]

Yeah, just lovely (re: the CC company).

DH is starting to get stressed at work -- I take this as a good thing b/c that means he's really getting into the trenches of the job...(or at least that's the spin I told him!)

DD is having a harder time with being 3 years old than 2. I think our 2's were really pretty good but we have more temper tantrums now that she is 3. It's not like a full-blown temper but we'll tell her to do something and she'll whine and cry "help me" ... and it's something we all know she can do anyway like go up the stairs or take off her shoes. But she turns into this helpless creature and says she is a baby.

If we help her, then all is pretty good. But that just encourages her to whine and cry and continue the "I'm a baby" thing.

I figure this has something to do with baby #2?? and she isn't even here yet...what's gonna happen when #2 arrives??

I thought with all three kids that three was worse than two. I never really understood the terrible two's thing. It was a case of the horrible three's for all three of mine. But I will tell you that when Loren was born Kacy was three and it was like an instant grow up when he was born becuase she didn't want to be a baby like he was.

 

[Marshay]

I thought with all three kids that three was worse than two. I never really understood the terrible two's thing. It was a case of the horrible three's for all three of mine. But I will tell you that when Loren was born Kacy was three and it was like an instant grow up when he was born becuase she didn't want to be a baby like he was.

Oh, this is a good thing to hear!

Did Kacy like to help you take care of Loren? I'm hoping DD turns into a little mommy's helper!

 

[kaoden39]

Oh, this is a good thing to hear!

Did Kacy like to help you take care of Loren? I'm hoping DD turns into a little mommy's helper!

I think she actually started mothering everyone. Now she doesn't want kids. She stopped playing with baby dolls after he was born too. It was like she didn't need the dolls anymore she had her own baby.

 

[Marshay]

So over Thanksgiving, I'm sitting down with my mom and she asks, "Do you want me to come down for a few days when Baby #2 is born?"

Now when DD was born, my mom stayed at least a week but I think it was more like 2 weeks....I honestly can't remember ...those days were just a blur.

So I said, "well, I actually was hoping that you'd stay for at least a week if not more. I'll need more help with DD3 and baby #2 this time than I needed with just one baby before."

And she said that my dad doesn't want her gone that long and he doesn't want to stay that long at our house either.

Now you have to remember that my dad is healthy, self-sufficient and works part-time as a substitute teacher and then when he is home, he goes straight down to the basement and works there all night (he's trying to convert it from just cement to a finished basement). So my mom is basically left by herself all day.

They have a "traditional" home where mom does all the cooking, cleaning and taking care of dad while he does all the hard-labor work and controls the money.

Oh, and when DD was born, we gave my mom a generous gift of $$ which she used for Disney (she doesn't really have an income outside my dad and we wanted to let her know that we really appreciated her help).

So I'm feeling a little bit miffed at my dad now...the time I really could use some help -- not just a visit to see the baby -- and he doesn't want to have to cook/clean for himself. OH boo hoo!

We ended the conversation with me saying I'd really like her to stay more than 3 days since I'll need the help and she said, well your dad won't like that.

<Sigh>

What to do ...

 

[Marshay]

Ok, heading out for a quick snack -- Honeycrisp Apples! My new craving food with this baby.

If anyone wants to add their input to my mom dilemma (including telling me I'm being a brat), please do. I guess I'm not thinking straight on this one and being a bit emotional ... maybe it's the hormones.

Oh, and I didn't mention we live 3 hours away by car from each other. So easily travelled in one day.

 

[kaoden39]

I think it is something about that age of male. Sorry UJ your day will come. My dad went through it, my Mom was always a great help but then he would get the whiny attitude. My Mom worked out of town and he was retired. Now as my daughters started school my Dad took a bigger role. He would take them to school every day and then pick them up. That was their alone time with Papa. Then when Kody was at the end of Kindergarten my Dad died and school became a hardship for her. It was rough. SOrry got side tracked but I think maybe they start to go back to their helpless needing a Mommy stage. And maybe they think that if their wives think they don't need them then their wives will find work elsewhere? Jealousy?

 

[kaoden39]

Ok, heading out for a quick snack -- Honeycrisp Apples! My new craving food with this baby.

If anyone wants to add their input to my mom dilemma (including telling me I'm being a brat), please do. I guess I'm not thinking straight on this one and being a bit emotional ... maybe it's the hormones.

Oh, and I didn't mention we live 3 hours away by car from each other. So easily travelled in one day.

Mmm Honeycrisp Apples sound good. Kacy is making brownies as we speak.

 

[1gr8mouse]

Honeycrisp......mmmm gooood.....and expensive here in Mi, more expensive than steak???

Marshay, your dad is being selfish and a big baby. Your mom should want to be with you and kids incl. newborn for at least a week. Tell mom to woman up......make some meals in advance for dad....or tell him to eat out....tell him to come for 3 days then go home, tell him mom will be home 4 days later !!!!

It might happen to me, I dont know.......DW is away right now for the weekend with girls, shopping & casino.....Yep, I miss her...she is my best friend, my girlfriend and my wife.......But I will survive.....she is having fun, I go on my mancave with the guy weekends too......but we always look forward to seeing eachother........then after a week we go back to wanting to choke eachother out !!!!!! LOL, Hey, I was getting too mushie!!!!

I dont think you are being a brat, lots of emotions going on right now.....understandable !!!

 

[Tat2ddisneymom]

Hey all!

Add me to the on-property snobs...but I got it even worse...now I'm a DVC snob, too...however, if I could actually live in a house near Disney that would be awesome!!!!

Yes, I'm jealous of DMM but so happy for her.

UJ -- sorry to hear about all the house problems...no a microwave should not sound like a garbage disposal!!

Our furniture issues are just unusual, I guess. No one can agree as to who owns the furniture, what costs have been incurred, who owes whom what, etc. Right now there are 3 parties involved -- me, the credit card company and the furniture company. I'm hoping to find some answers on Tuesday. Court date is set for January but I really hope we can settle it beforehand.

When we hadn't heard anything from them for 2 months, I thought it was settled...oh well, what's life without some stress in it??

I agree with Michele. You don't need to be stressing over this right now.

Yeah, just lovely (re: the CC company).

DH is starting to get stressed at work -- I take this as a good thing b/c that means he's really getting into the trenches of the job...(or at least that's the spin I told him!)

DD is having a harder time with being 3 years old than 2. I think our 2's were really pretty good but we have more temper tantrums now that she is 3. It's not like a full-blown temper but we'll tell her to do something and she'll whine and cry "help me" ... and it's something we all know she can do anyway like go up the stairs or take off her shoes. But she turns into this helpless creature and says she is a baby.

If we help her, then all is pretty good. But that just encourages her to whine and cry and continue the "I'm a baby" thing.

I figure this has something to do with baby #2?? and she isn't even here yet...what's gonna happen when #2 arrives??

I was worried about that with both the boys, but they seemed to both be fine with the birth of their younger siblings.

Ok, heading out for a quick snack -- Honeycrisp Apples! My new craving food with this baby.

If anyone wants to add their input to my mom dilemma (including telling me I'm being a brat), please do. I guess I'm not thinking straight on this one and being a bit emotional ... maybe it's the hormones.

Oh, and I didn't mention we live 3 hours away by car from each other. So easily travelled in one day.

You're not being a brat. Sometimes I don't know what I'd do without having my mom around. My husband was not much of a help at all with any of the surgeries I had. If it hadn't have been for my mom, I don't know what I would have done. I know you're not in that same spot, but everybody needs help for different reasons. I don't think you're asking too much.

And oh, yeah, I didn't make it to bed. My son decided he wanted to go to my SIL's house to play poker.

 

[kaoden39]

Honeycrisp......mmmm gooood.....and expensive here in Mi, more expensive than steak???

Marshay, your dad is being selfish and a big baby. Your mom should want to be with you and kids incl. newborn for at least a week. Tell mom to woman up......make some meals in advance for dad....or tell him to eat out....tell him to come for 3 days then go home, tell him mom will be home 4 days later !!!!

It might happen to me, I dont know.......DW is away right now for the weekend with girls, shopping & casino.....Yep, I miss her...she is my best friend, my girlfriend and my wife.......But I will survive.....she is having fun, I go on my mancave with the guy weekends too......but we always look forward to seeing eachother........then after a week we go back to wanting to choke eachother out !!!!!! LOL, Hey, I was getting too mushie!!!!

I dont think you are being a brat, lots of emotions going on right now.....understandable !!!

That sounds like Scotty. He is self sufficient, and he can take care of the kids without me. Now last year when I was in the hospital for so long i was really hard on him. He swears he doen't sleep well without me. I know the feeling. It's okay to be mushy.

I am so glad to be in California where we still have Farmers Markets until January.

 

[Tat2ddisneymom]

Honeycrisp......mmmm gooood.....and expensive here in Mi, more expensive than steak???

Marshay, your dad is being selfish and a big baby. Your mom should want to be with you and kids incl. newborn for at least a week. Tell mom to woman up......make some meals in advance for dad....or tell him to eat out....tell him to come for 3 days then go home, tell him mom will be home 4 days later !!!!

It might happen to me, I dont know.......DW is away right now for the weekend with girls, shopping & casino.....Yep, I miss her...she is my best friend, my girlfriend and my wife.......But I will survive.....she is having fun, I go on my mancave with the guy weekends too......but we always look forward to seeing eachother........then after a week we go back to wanting to choke eachother out !!!!!! LOL, Hey, I was getting too mushie!!!!

I dont think you are being a brat, lots of emotions going on right now.....understandable !!!

Tell it like it is, UJ.

And AWWWWWWW. I think I need to go watch a chick flick now.

 

[1gr8mouse]

Our furniture issues are just unusual, I guess. No one can agree as to who owns the furniture, what costs have been incurred, who owes whom what, etc. Right now there are 3 parties involved -- me, the credit card company and the furniture company. I'm hoping to find some answers on Tuesday. Court date is set for January but I really hope we can settle it beforehand.

When we hadn't heard anything from them for 2 months, I thought it was settled...oh well, what's life without some stress in it??

FYI, all attorneys like to settle things out of court, judges like that too!!! No body really likes to have trial for civil stuff......criminal stuff is much more fun. Most attorneys try to negotiate outside the courtroom on a figure all parties can agree on....then they take their cut and go to the countryclub for lunch with eachother and laugh about everyone they just screwed !!!!! SERIOUS...Dont be intimidated or impressed with attorneys......BELIEVE ME
Its all just negotiating.......Nobody really wants to hear your case, just get it settled.