luvsJack
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I have been lucky enough not to have to struggle to clothe my children. However, I have a very good understanding of the situation. I WAS the child who was wearing non-name-brand and inexpensive clothing amid those who were wearing much, MUCH better than I. I went to a 'rich' suburban high school...And was the youngest of 5 children between the ages of 10 and 17 when my father passed away. A few years later we learned that our accountant (and 'friend') embezzeled all of my dad's life insurance money. My mom worked her butt off...I distinctly remember her going to work when she was very sick...just to make sure she didn't miss time. And we did NOT go on food stamps. Nor did we buy anything expensive. I had very basic, but clean, clothing. Got a job myself when I was 15 and bought all my own clothes after that (and on min wage - nothing name brand among them I assure you).
And what did I learn? That hard work is invaluable. That you can be a good person and have integrity and hold your head high even without a name on your jean pocket.
My mom made sure we got our teeth cleaned every 6 months (ok - likely missed a couple times but usually that often) - THIS was more important than spending money on luxuries. How many people do you know (or do you think) that do not have health insurance or go to dental appointments but DO have really nice cell phones and Tommy jeans not bought at a thrift store? I only know a few personally...but I know for sure there are a lot more.
Oh and even though I CAN afford (via the hard work learned from my mother) to buy my kids expensive jeans...they have never once had a pair. And they too are learning that it just isn't as important as other things.
Just to be clear. I worked my tail off for those years that me and my boys were on food stamps. I worked at least two jobs and sometimes 3. You have no clue what I did or what any other mother on assistance does. Do not even begin to hint to me that someone is not working hard enough if they are receiving food stamps.
As for the rest--good for you. The fact still remains that these brands can be bought for the same price as the non-brands at WalMart or KMart; you just have to know where to look. I am in no way condoning purchasing luxuries over a child's needs. I am simply saying that if it is important to someone to have certain things, they can find them at a price they can pay.