Floral bedding too girly?!

[tiff211]

Before DH and I got married, I always have really girly decorations in my bedroom. I love floral prints. I also had a white down comforter. I nixed the white after DH got chocolate cadbury egg all over it. DH says he can't sleep on anything with flowers! I am so tired of stripes, plaids and dark colors. I want something girly and bright and spring. I am thinking I will just order and let him get over it when I make the bed!!! Should be some fringe benefit for in charge of buying EVERYTHING for the house, right?! Anyone else have floral printed bedding ensembles?

 

[mookie]

I wish I could say i did, but instead I have to say that I sympathize with you - my DH is the same way!!

I've often thought that if I just change the room with it and when he comes home, he'll see the end result, he might like it and agree to keep it....

But I do agree, the stripes and stuff is driving me crazzzzy!!!

 

[chasbos]

I am willing to bet that if you put on the flowers - he would still sleep in it!

What is he going to do stay up all night??

I say just order it and put it on the bed - if he is like most men he probably won't even notice you changed from the old comforter.

 

[chasbos]

I just have to add - I just noticed you have 4 little princesses, so do we!

Your DH has to be used to girly things by now!

 

[mickeyboat]

We have a floral comforter and matching curtains. It is a sage greenish background with dark burgundy, green and beige flowers. The walls are painted "camoflauge," and we bought a burgundy leather chair. So we have floral, but it is a masculine looking floral - if there is such a thing. We bought the set at Kohl's.

Denae

 

[poohtown]

our bedroom has a mix that works. The furniture is dark cherry and very masculine looking (except for the cherry vanity), the windows have wood blinds also. The bedding is floral but I don't think overly "girly". It's a almost gold tan color with large flowers on it. It really is gorgeous although hard to describe. Then there are vases of flowers on the tables and I have a flower border on the walls. You can add touches to brighten it up without have everything lacey.

 

[suzannen]

I took DH with me when we started looking and lucky for me, Bloomingdale's had a magnificent Ralph Lauren bed assemble set up front and center and my DH loved it, because he could picture it. It was a dark yellow, almost gold, background with with deep dark burgundy flowers. It wasn't pink or pastel. And, all of our accessory pillows are dark burgundy. It's been 3 years and he still loves it (as does everyone else). So, maybe if you allow him to help you make a selection that doesn't seem so "girly" you could both be happy? I'd had it with stripes and solids also.

 

[NMAmy]

Well, bless his heart, DH put up with the yellow/blue floral comforter that I had when we first met for a couple of years. I'd bought it immediately after my ex and I separated because it was just so nice to buy what I wanted and not something plaid or in dark colors.

When we moved to our new house, I compromised by getting a quilt. It's in shades of white, blues, and yellows--some of the squares have flowers, some have plaids, some are plain colors, and it has a white chenille edging. It's bright and pretty without being too girly. DH is pretty easygoing so I'm pretty sure he'd be fine even if I bought a girly one.

 

[azgal81]

Floral bedding is too girly even for me. I think when you husband said he wouldn't sleep on any bedding with flowers he was imagining flowers galore. Some bedding sets are more flowery then others. Well I don't think you should redecorate your whole bedroom and then have him deal with it. There is bedding out there that is floral but not girly floral maybe take him shopping with you and decide on a set together. It's all about compromise!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I've often thought that if I just change the room with it and when he comes home, he'll see the end result, he might like it and agree to keep it....

That's basically what I did. I showed my DH the bedding and he wasn't overly crazy about it--liked the colors ok (burgandy, greens, taupe, etc), but didn't like the floral part. When it came and went on the bed he liked it.

I'd had him look through a catalog on his own and he'd picked out the stripes, etc and I told him that in the first 20+ years of our marriage we'd had that type of bedding because that's what he liked and we were getting something that I liked, also. So it did work out and as long as he gets sex that's all he cares about. Oops, I'd better work on that.

You know what, the way that some husbands don't notice when their wives get haircuts or new clothes, some might not even notice new bedding!

 

[mommytotwo]

I have several different comforters, and one of them is floral. I didn't want to get something pink, red or real girly, so it is like a hunter green, but there is a flower print all over it. DH has never said anything negative about it.

 

[gris gris]

My DH says "I don't care what it looks like, we sleep in the dark". And when we were picking out china, he said "I don't care what it looks like, I won't notice it when food is on it, and after I eat I'm not going to say oohh look how beautiful that plate is"!

Just buy whatever you want, I'm sure your bed is more comfy than the couch!

 

[beckmrk04]

We've had this argument too- so we finally found something we can agree on- It's Lauren Ralph Lauren Cold Springs collection. It's girly enough for me, manly enough for him.

 

[budbeerlady]

Dh has deer head on the wall in our family room. I love that room, stone fireplace, antique canoe shelf, ets. The whole room is done in a lodging theme and is where we spend alot of our time as it has the tv and computer in it. So our master bedroom, behind closed doors on the other side of the house is decorated how I chose. That is the only room he has had no input on (oh, and my bathroom but does that really count? ) I have floral pictures on the wall, an antique iron bed and at the moment its toile bedding, so limited flowers. But over the winter my duvet cover is full on floral. Big pink roses and the throw pillows. He complained once when we first got married, I told him he didnt have to sleep in there if he didnt want to. That was the end of the discussion 7 years ago. I keep the doors closed and I am sure his friends dont know he sleeps on roses.

 

[Maleficent13]

My DH says "I don't care what it looks like, we sleep in the dark". And when we were picking out china, he said "I don't care what it looks like, I won't notice it when food is on it, and after I eat I'm not going to say oohh look how beautiful that plate is"!

This made me . I think we may be married to the same man!!

 

[tekmom]

My husband is kind of the same way. He's not crazy about florals, but I have the Liz Claiborne "Abundance" quilt and shams set. It has a small amount of embroidered flowers and is on a patch work type background. The colors are a mixture of pale 'sea greenie'- type blues and natural linen and creams. It's feminine enough for me and okay for him. I really love it.

 

[ilovepcot]

The master bedroom in my house is about as feminine and prissy as you can get. Ivory Victorian furniture, floral wallpaper in mauves, pinks and green on a cream background AND matching bedding trimmed in lace. Lots of satin throw pillows, dolls, pearls, feather boas, Victorian hats, high top shoes sitting on fabric covered hatboxes...everything feminine. DH slept in there (snores and I kicked him out) and thought it was a beautiful room. It's like this...he said anybody that knows him also knows he didn't pick any of this stuff out. Besides, he wants me *happiest* in that particular room!

 

[disykat]

Similar to the post above - I have a fairly girly bedroom with some flowers and lace and even pink. Definately a contrast from the rest of the house.

I was watching a talk show once where some "expert" suggested having a girly bedroom - almost as if the guy is sneaking into a girls room and doesn't belong there. This was suggested to be enticing.

I relayed that conversation to my dh and I've gotten to pick whatever I wanted for the bedroom ever since.

Hmm - I wonder if I should be worrried that I've been thinking redoing the bedroom in a more tailored look for a change.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I think I could put tin foil on the bed and DH wouldn't notice.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Dh has deer head on the wall in our family room.

Ah, yes. I have a deer head, too. DH just HAD to have it up on a wall. I resisted for a while, but he put his foot down. It's in the den/library. I've got other stuff in there, too, but nobody'd ever notice, thanks to that thing. It looks like it is going to start talking, like they do in the Country Bears.

I hate deer heads.