First Mother's Day - gift from the baby?

[Cruise]

This is my sister's first ever Mother's Day. Her DH is wonderful in many, many ways, but planning ahead isn't one of them. I'd like to make sure she has something from my new nephew. I've flat out told my DBIL that she requested a particular necklace as her Mother's Day gift, but I consider that to be from him. So she'll already be getting a piece of jewelry.

Does anyone have an idea for a somewhat sentimental idea of something that can be from the baby? She's already got his hand prints in plaster, or else I would have done that. She also already has a scrapbook started and a shadow box that holds his coming-home outfit and hospital band.

Thanks!

 

[navywifetill2002]

I am a photo junkie so if you can get your DN for a few hours take him to a studio and get his pic done. Places like The Picture People (there is an $18 package coupon on coupons.com) and Portrait Innovations (they have a 1 pose packcage for $9.95 with coupon) give you the pictures same day so you'd have plenty of time to get it done and not have to spend a ton.

They can do cute little thinks with signs that say "I heart mommy" or draw a <3 on his arm with lipsitck and use eyeliner to write "mom" in it like a little tatoo.

 

[Pesky]

I agree that the picture is a great idea. Also consider a little flip photo book (you can do those on any of the photo sites) that she can carry with her.

 

[clh2]

please let your sister's husband handle this...

 

[riley2008]

A Mother's Day card with your nephew's handprints.

 

[Hannathy]

please let your sister's husband handle this...

That's exactly what I was thinking. You are really overstepping your bounds doing this. It isn't your place to do this. This needs to be his choice and his decision.

This could get very messy and go over very badly............

 

[Cruise]

For those of you that posted helpful suggestions - thanks so much. I might go with a combination of all three.

For the others... honestly, you have no idea what our situation is or if I may have even already discussed this with my BIL. Remember that not every family dynamic is the same and I can almost guarantee from your responses that how your families operate is not how ours operates.

 

[Hannathy]

For those of you that posted helpful suggestions - thanks so much. I might go with a combination of all three.

For the others... honestly, you have no idea what our situation is or if I may have even already discussed this with my BIL. Remember that not every family dynamic is the same and I can almost guarantee from your responses that how your families operate is not how ours operates.

It still isn't your place to do this, it is the baby's fathers

 

[robinb]

It still isn't your place to do this, it is the baby's fathers

I have to agree. It's a Mother's Day present and not a "Nephew's Mom's Day" present. ESPECIALLY since it is the first one for your sister. Let your BIL handle this. He does not need your help.

 

[navywifetill2002]

My DH also does not think ahead! For my 1st Mother's Day he took me out to pick out a ring and charm with DD's birthstone on them. I love both of those items but it wasn't a nice "surprise" on Mother's day.

My grandma (lives 800 miles away) sent me a wonderful card and my mom (1400 miles away) sent a card and a trinket box with "1st Mother's Day 2009" engraved on it. It was nice to have something special to remember the day and it really doesn't matter who it was from just that I have special reminder's of my 1st Mother's Day.

Do what works best for your family! I'm not near my SIL but sent her a card for her 1st Mother's Day this year. If I was there I would have put something together for her with my DN's help (foot prints, pictures, something) just for fun and it wouldn't have offended anyone!

 

[shortbun]

Ya know guys, leave this woman alone...she just asked for ideas...not therapy.
I have no clue OP. I didn't get a Mother's Day gift until my son could toddle through a preschool project. I requested that my DH take care of HIS mother and just make sure I had the day to myself with my son. We made great memories when he was just a peanut. We went through all the homemade gifts, bad breakfasts in bed(I really hate fruit loops but I ate them with a smile on my face), coupon books, handprints in plastic goop, etc. Now my son is finally trying to zero in on what I really want and I heard he's getting me flowers. Should be fun! So much more meaningful for me when it comes from my son instead of his dad. Your sister has obviously told you how she wants her Mother's Day to go. Follow her lead.

 

[luvmy3]

Well my suggestion was going to be a piece of Mother's Jewelry that she can add to if they have more kids.
As far as something fom the baby, is it understood that it is really from you, or will your Sis think it is from her dh? I think that would make a difference in what I would suggest. If its from you, a cute pic of the baby in a Mother's frame. If its from the dh then I would suggest something a little more sentimental and meaningful for her first Mother's Day, from him. Sorry OP, I do think its odd that you want to make sure she has something from their baby, and that you flat out told him what she wanted from him. Its his first Mother's Day too, maybe you should just give him a chance to do something for his wife, it is between them

 

[auralia]

Hand prints or 3d hand molds the kits are at craft stores. I really love my 3d ones of my daughter now that she is 5 to see how tiny her hand was I can hardly remember when she was so small. Dh never does anything for me for any special day so I made myself garden stepping stones last night with the kids names and their hand prints.

 

[momto2inKC]

Well my suggestion was going to be a piece of Mother's Jewelry that she can add to if they have more kids.
As far as something fom the baby, is it understood that it is really from you, or will your Sis think it is from her dh? I think that would make a difference in what I would suggest. If its from you, a cute pic of the baby in a Mother's frame. If its from the dh then I would suggest something a little more sentimental and meaningful for her first Mother's Day, from him. Sorry OP, I do think its odd that you want to make sure she has something from their baby, and that you flat out told him what she wanted from him. Its his first Mother's Day too, maybe you should just give him a chance to do something for his wife, it is between them

I totally agree

 

[Cruise]

Well my suggestion was going to be a piece of Mother's Jewelry that she can add to if they have more kids.
As far as something fom the baby, is it understood that it is really from you, or will your Sis think it is from her dh?

She will know it's from me. I've also been their live-in nanny since the baby was 3 weeks old to help out while his father finishes a residency and works long hours. This would be like a child bringing home a gift from day care or preschool that his teacher has helped him with. But I guess some of the other posters never got one of those either.

I think that would make a difference in what I would suggest. If its from you, a cute pic of the baby in a Mother's frame. If its from the dh then I would suggest something a little more sentimental and meaningful for her first Mother's Day, from him. Sorry OP, I do think its odd that you want to make sure she has something from their baby, and that you flat out told him what she wanted from him.

Uhm, yeah... when he flat out asked me if she'd mentioned anything in particular she wanted, I flat out told him what she'd said when we'd been out shopping the weekend before.

 

[luvmy3]

She will know it's from me. I've also been their live-in nanny since the baby was 3 weeks old to help out while his father finishes a residency and works long hours. This would be like a child bringing home a gift from day care or preschool that his teacher has helped him with. But I guess some of the other posters never got one of those either.



Uhm, yeah... when he flat out asked me if she'd mentioned anything in particular she wanted, I flat out told him what she'd said when we'd been out shopping the weekend before.

You didn't mention in your OP that he asked, you only mentioned he isn't good at planning ahead and that you flat out told him....... It comes across as you wanting to be in control of their Mother's Day, if that isn't the case that is fine, but that is how it appears in your OP.

 

[cm8]

You didn't mention in your OP that he asked, you only mentioned he isn't good at planning ahead and that you flat out told him....... It comes across as you wanting to be in control of their Mother's Day, if that isn't the case that is fine, but that is how it appears in your OP.

I would just get a card from the baby and then some pictures

 

[marthachick]

DH got me a pink dogwood tree that he set out for me. It was the only thing I regretted that I couldn't take when we moved almost 9 years ago.

 

[Tommys Mommy]

This is what I received on my first Mother's Day: a bike & a personalized bath mat. My DH bought one of those mats that is white & more towel-like, rectangular. He used bright paint (maybe acrylic?) and hand lettered "Happy Mother's Day 2000" across the top. Then, he painted his feet yellow & added those footprints on the left. He painted our DS's feet red & added his footprints on the right. When he gave it to me, the middle section was blank so we could add my footprints; added in blue.

Realistically, we have never used this as a bath mat, but it is a neat keepsake that I really enjoyed. I enjoyed the fact that it was different/unique & that he did it without me knowing anything about it!

 

[LJSquishy]

I don't think there is anything wrong with giving your brother-in-law ideas on a gift from the baby, but it definitely should not come from you. I love the idea of a beautiful flowering tree.