I just wanted to add my 2 cents worth here. If I were still married to my ex, I would probably be dealing with similar issues. Not to the degree of not being able to come home afterwards or anything, but he was anti-social...never paid me a compliment, even when I fished for one, and rarely told me that he loved me unless I initiated it. I always felt it was just a response...not a genuine feeling. We had hit the point of taking separate lives...he was a workaholic while I was more of a social butterfly, so to speak. I realized that I needed certain things from my spouse towards the end that I just wasn't getting...it kinda sucked.
In steps Matthew. I hit the jackpot with him...we've known each other since high school and even with a 10 year gap in our relationship, we picked right back up where we left off. He knows that I need to hear that he loves me...and that he thinks i'm beautiful...he knows right when I need a little boost in the self-esteem.

He is just amazing...don't get me wrong though...he used to give me a hard time about DISing so much, but he hasn't said much since I found the podcast forum. Now he just teases me...lol...he's done the online community life before so he understands my addiction...
And to this day...I REFUSE to say I love you too...and he remembers what I had told him about my previous marriage and the I love you toos...he won't say it either!
He's a keeper and I hope that anyone who's looking for their perfect match finds someone as amazing as my DH.

You just can't have mine...

You guys will love him when you meet him...just don't LOVE him
And for the difficult husbands...I wouldn't worry about them too much...shove 'em into a deck chair and come play with us!