Final uodate first post - Unexpected death - WWYD

[nw6675]

Sometimes FB message alerts from people not in your friends list aren’t very obvious. I would definitely mail the card and include your info. Have your daughter message the friend to look for the card in the mail. I have to believe the family will want this girl to keep her friends.

My DD was able to send the message about the card coming so that is good. I agree on FB messenger. I always check even my spam, but I know a lot of people don't. It doesn't help that I have zero friends on there by choice so I'm probably definitely going to spam!

 

[monsterkitty]

Leave them alone. They are grieving.

The daughter is 10. She needs her friends. Leaving a 10-year-old alone to grieve the death of her mother is the worst thing to do.

 

[Marrila]

The daughter is 10. She needs her friends. Leaving a 10-year-old alone to grieve the death of her mother is the worst thing to do.

There might be a kind middle ground. Give the family a bit of time to get through the immediate shock, then effort to get in touch.

 

[nw6675]

I was trying not to put too much detail (which I probably already have anyway), but when I say just happened - it has been almost 2 weeks, but the news for whatever reason didn't report until now. The family is definitely still grieving, but a bit of time has past.

That being said, I'm going to mail the card tomorrow and then send her friend (via the grandmother) her Christmas gift with a few extra items in it plus a direct message from DD to her. I'll send that the box a little later on.

Thank you for those with kind words and suggestions. While this isn't about my family, I still lost a friend and my DD lost her best friend. Sympathy and empathy goes a long way in life - and on these boards.

 

[Disneylover99]

I was trying not to put too much detail (which I probably already have anyway), but when I say just happened - it has been almost 2 weeks, but the news for whatever reason didn't report until now. The family is definitely still grieving, but a bit of time has past.

That being said, I'm going to mail the card tomorrow and then send her friend (via the grandmother) her Christmas gift with a few extra items in it plus a direct message from DD to her. I'll send that the box a little later on.

Thank you for those with kind words and suggestions. While this isn't about my family, I still lost a friend and my DD lost her best friend. Sympathy and empathy goes a long way in life - and on these boards.

No advice. Such a sad situation.
I just wanted to say, I sure hope you can get the girls connected soon. I bet she needs her friend.

 

[focusondisney]

If you know the friend’s address, you can send her a snail mail card or the package you have for her. Even if there is no other parent at that address, whoever is executor is still receiving the mail for that address, even if they are just forwarding it somewhere.

If not, but you know the grandmother’s address, you can send it to
Friend Name
C/O Grandmother

 

[luvthatduke]

Prayers for all involved.
I especially pray for your daughter & friend
to have a way to continue contact.
As others have said it will be very important for the other girl.

 

[disykat]

Adding in my prayers for this situation. You're doing all the right things helping your dd to find ways to communicate with and support her friend. I've never thought about the possibility of that - the adult you communicate with is gone so your dd has no way to get in touch with her friend. Hopefully they'll get in contact soon because I'm sure the daughter would appreciate a friend.

 

[Karin1984]

Send a card, anything else is too much, imo. Sending several messages could come across as intrusive at a time like this if you do not know the adults.

It is up to the remaining parent/family to decide what they think is best for the daughter. If they want to contact you, they will. It is out of your hands at this moment.

That it is 2 weeks ago is no argument. When grieving time moves differently. It moves both slower and quicker than in normal life.