Fighting at Disney

[Azure]

Hey all,

Me(14) and my brother(17) always tend to fight where ever we go. It's the "don't look at me" "I hate you" battle even at Disney. What can I do to not be agrivated by him?

 

[catbertdave99]

First of all, let me warn you I'm a dad. I have 2 sons, ages 14 and 11. And they annoy and irritate each other endlessly. However, they're close enough in age to be able to do some of the same things and get along most of the time we're in Disney.

On the other hand, I had a sister 7 years younger than me, and it was really hard. She knew just how to annoy me, and I was always the one who got in trouble. I don't know that I have a solution for you, but there is some hope. Years later, my sister and I became really close as adults. Not sure really what changes as you get older, but we have this really cool relationship now.

Just do the best you can for now. Someday you guys will really appreciate each other in ways that probably seem impossible to you now!

 

[goofyandmore]

That's a bummer. I agree though that things will get better as you get older.

But in the meantime, what worked for me (7 kids, I was the 5th) was to say loud enough for my parents to hear, why are you looking at me like that-it's disney. If you don't cut it out, mom and dad aren't going to bring us again.

 

[cfrith]

Being an only child this is hard for me to understand. Now that I have 2 girls (ages 4 and 7) I am just about losing my mind because they have just recently began arguing non-stop. The younger one does alot of poking and is constantly in the older's space and the older is constantly bossing around the younger and whining when she won't do what she wants. And I hear it only gets worse.

 

[bubba73]

Don't get near him. That ought to do it.

 

[beckmrk04]

Take the mature route and refuse to fight. It's easy. If he picks a fight, ignore it. Can't fight with someone who doesn't fight back- and that's what makes it fun. I have a bother and a sister, so I know it can be hard, but at 14 and 17 I'm sure you can both be adult enough to agree to disagree on things.

 

[Azure]

LOL if I ignore him he beats me up LOL

 

[Captain Brain]

I would just ignore him.

If that doesn't work, hit him back.

 

[Azure]

Hey Billy!

But he hit me in the face with a golf club

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

Okay Azure. First, I'm the mom of 2 boys: 12 and 13. Next, I'm a middle school teacher dealing with 150 of you guys -- everyday. It doesn't matter if you're brothers close in age or far apart. If your sisters close in age or far apart or brother and sister. It is the same story day in and day out. Let me recommend NOT hitting him. Won't solve anything and will make your situation worse.

I know you don't want to hear this, but all kids go through stages and with time and love, he will outgrow this one. You will look at him as your older brother and role model. Be patient, patient and patient...... You are old enough to take a step back and treat him the way that you yourself would like to be treated. Maybe he is jealous of you and this needs to be addressed. Older brothers usually watch over their younger ones, not beat them up.

Do your parents fully understand your situation? Is there another adult you trust to play mediator? Some day you two will probably be the best of friends. The time is now to begin that foundation. But hitting is not the answer. There is enough violence in the world, it shouldn't be in families.

 

[goofyandmore]

Hitting you with a golf club? Listen, your parents need to get involved in this so that your brother understands that there are consequences that he might not like, for his behavior. Your brother now sounds like a bully. If your parents refuse to help you, I agree with the teacher, you need to go to another adult to get help. I am the mom of 3. My sons are 16 1/2 and 12. So, If the 16 year old was acting like this, I would be furious. Using a golf club only shows he has a lot of built up anger and insecurity. Carolyn

 

[jennifer293]

Kill him with kindness...He will be so thrown off by your action that it will just make him mad and he will leave you alone!!!

 

[nickelsfamily]

Being hit with a golf club is very serious. My younger brother was hit with one and it broke his brow bone and caused premanent eye damage.

My brother and I are 2 years apart in age. Growing up, we always faught....some were very physical. But, there came a point when we were just a little older than you guys when things just changed. Sounds stupid but this is how it happened...
I like this guy (Sean). Sean was very much into basketball...I knew nothing about it other than the obvious...ball and basket oh yea and runnning!! haha.
My brother loved basketball. One night he was watching a game, I sat down to watch it with him and he explained the game to me. Wow...we spent a few hrs together not fighting. My mom was shocked! So, we found one thing in to talk about and soon other things followed. We soon became great friends! We now laugh about the old times and I don't know what I would do without him!

That all aside, I agree with the teacher. You need to talk with your parents or someone you feel comfortable with. Or, have you tried just talking with your brother about it or is that not possible.