Feeling left out (a whiny little vent)

[AlexWyattMommy]

I've got nothing but a

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'm sorry.

I think you should take a class somewhere (arts and crafts, religion, academic, etc) and meet other people. These two "women" are not your friends.

I've definitely felt left out before. I remember one time my two friends and I were talking about seeing a movie (actually it was Ya Ya Sisterhood, which made it worse) and we all decided we were going to see it together. We said we'd check our schedules, etc and give eachother a call.

I was talking to someone else and mentioned that I had to call "Pattie" and "Donna" to see when they wanted to go see the movie and she said, "Um, Eden, they already went and saw it together." I felt absolutely awful. I even cried (and then cried harder when my sweet dh offered to go see it with me).

You'll meet some better friends soon. Just stay away from those two.

 

[dislaney]

First off I know it can feel really bad to feel left out. Try and find some new friends that will treat you better. Take a class, join a club, volunteer somewhere, hopefully you will meet some other people that will treat you better and you have something in common with.

 

[Magic Mom]

I was talking to someone else and mentioned that I had to call "Pattie" and "Donna" to see when they wanted to go see the movie and she said, "Um, Eden, they already went and saw it together." I felt absolutely awful. I even cried (and then cried harder when my sweet dh offered to go see it with me).

AW! I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I think Im gonna try and hang out with Jessie more, she and I dont have alot in common but she's nice to me and funny.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Awww.

You sound like such a sweet and fun person. Any "friend" who treats you like those people is not worthy of being called your "friend."

Like the other PPs said, expand your interests and try to meet other people. You don't need thoughtless clods like this in your life. You deserve much better.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Im not sure where to look. I want to find a photography club but havent yet. This incident is the final straw for me.

Time to find new friends.

On the note of the photo club, check your local rec/community center. We have one in the next town over that has classes, maybe it could be turned into a club thing.

 

[Liberty Belle]

AW! I'm sorry that happened to you.

Thank you. It happened quite a while ago, of course, but it still kind of stings.

 

[C.Ann]

It wouldn't be any fun hanging out with people who obviously don't want you around anyhow, would it?

Take a shot at developing a friendship with the other person you mentioned.. You may "think" you don't have a lot in common, but you might be surprised..

Good luck!

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

So an update:
I called her, she didnt answer.

 

[crashbb]

So an update:
I called her, she didnt answer.

Maybe she wasn't home.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I called her cell which is awalys on, she likes to ignore people when she doesnt want to talk to them.....

 

[Liberty Belle]

I called her cell which is awalys on, she likes to ignore people when she doesnt want to talk to them.....

Maybe she was in a checkout line, bathroom, doctor's office...just because she didn't answer doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you. Who is she, any way? Another co-worker? Don't write her off so quickly.

 

[glitterkittyy]

I called her cell which is awalys on, she likes to ignore people when she doesnt want to talk to them.....

I ignore people on my cell phone all the time. It's not because I don't "want" to talk to the person. It's that it's not a convenient time. Try not to let it discourage you. I think you need to broaden your circle of friends beyond this other girl too, though.

 

[C.Ann]

I called her cell which is awalys on, she likes to ignore people when she doesnt want to talk to them.....

I think you're letting your imagination run away with you - which could be part of the problem.. If you're sending out negative vibes, it's a big turn off for people who are engaging in fun activities..

One person didn't answer their phone - so you automatically assume she's ignoring you?

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I think you're letting your imagination run away with you - which could be part of the problem.. If you're sending out negative vibes, it's a big turn off for people who are engaging in fun activities..

One person didn't answer their phone - so you automatically assume she's ignoring you?

Shes a coworker. I dont know what to think. I guess I think the worst since Im upset with her.

 

[michellev]

Why are you upset with her?

She didn't answer the phone. Most likely it is because she is busy. If she truly is ignoring you, then she isn't much of a friend anyway!

Do you have any friends outside of work? Get involved in the community, join the photography club, get out there and you will meet people.

 

[Octoberbride03]

My freinds seem to be planning everything without me. They planned to go to this work realted play. I was not invited to go with them. Then they plan to dress like twins, go shopping and have a preprimping party. These two know there basically the only freinds I have in the area. Oh and then when I mentioned going, they invited me to sit with them. They then told me, I couldnt go in the car with them, there wouldnt be room and that they all had dates. I guess Im just feeling left out and need a hug today. Oh and I am going to the party, another coworker they invited (who they arnt close to) offered me a ride and told me I could sit with her. This isnt the first time they have left me out. They plan dinners and hang out at each others house alot without me. Mabye I should take the hint. Thanks for listening, I know I should just get over it but Its making me sad.

These are friends?
I think NOT. Time to find some new activities or take a course in something you're interested in so you can find some real friends. These girls are so not it.

 

[surfergirl602]

Whine away. I know how you feel. I used to work in an office where I was "friends" with everyone, but the ladies I worked in the office with were like, "best friends" and excluded me from everything they did, talked about it at work, and I felt really left out sometimes.

 

[aristocatz]

It a work thing, I was invited orginally by corprate (they invite everyone) but wasnt going unless someone else I knew was. One of the women is 34 (married and has kids) and the other is 26 (and single). I think I will find new freinds. Now I see why everyone at work has issues with S (the 34 year old).

Wow, reading this I assumed that you and your friends are in high school!! (NOT from the way you are acting, just from the way you describe these people!!). Get rid of them & find new friends-these ones seem like annoying losers!!