Fall Baseball and I"m annoyed

[mkstlowe]

I'm so annoyed. My DS is 8 and plays Fall ball. He is a pitcher in traning. So today his grandparents drove over an hour to see him play. So the coach told him that he would pitch 3rd and 4th inning. Well the coach's wife helps on the bench and keep score and in the 3rd inning decided her son would stay in as pitcing. Then on the 4th inning put another boy in. I'm ready to say something and my husband said to drop it. This continues to happen each game. She is not the coach her boyfriend is. My DH and I are on the board so I don't want to cause issues. As her and her boyfriend are now board members. I'm just tired of her thinking this can continue!

I would normally not care, but the issue is her promised my son and my in laws drove over an hour. He never even addressed that my son didn't get to pitch with him.

I think I should say something. Would you?

 

[TheIncredibles!]

No I would not say anything but I would be annoyed.

 

[SaraJayne]

I'm so annoyed. My DS is 8 and plays Fall ball. He is a pitcher in traning. So today his grandparents drove over an hour to see him play. So the coach told him that he would pitch 3rd and 4th inning. Well the coach's wife helps on the bench and keep score and in the 3rd inning decided her son would stay in as pitcing. Then on the 4th inning put another boy in. I'm ready to say something and my husband said to drop it. This continues to happen each game. She is not the coach her boyfriend is. My DH and I are on the board so I don't want to cause issues. As her and her boyfriend are now board members. I'm just tired of her thinking this can continue!

I would normally not care, but the issue is her promised my son and my in laws drove over an hour. He never even addressed that my son didn't get to pitch with him.

I think I should say something. Would you?

No, I wouldn't say anything.

 

[rgf207]

nope. don't say anything

 

[Erin1700]

Nope, that's how sports go.

 

[youcansmellit]

If you bring up that the other kid got to pitch and yours didn't, it would probably go bad. This is a hard one. You always have to remember that the parents are going to be talking about what you say. They are going to spin it to make you look wrong. Also it is more then likely their son is going to hear what is said and feel bad or make fun.

If it happens again I would have to pull them aside and have words with them. Make sure you kill them with kindness. Start all arguments with things like "I know your son is an amazing pitcher but bla bla bla" Then they can't come back negative on you or your son if you compliment them. The last thing you want is to look like a whining parent.

 

[3boymthr]

Unless there is a league policy that all kids get to play all positions in an equal and/or approximately equal amount (for example some kids don't want to catch so that position would only be split by the kids willing to catch) then I wouldn't say anything. He's the head coach not you so he's the one who gets to say who pitches and if he really wanted your son to pitch then he'd call him up despite what the bench coach has put in play.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

This is why I don't like sports where the coach has a child on the team.

 

[tvguy]

If it's Little League, he has to get his minimum play. But beyond that, there are no guarantees. Although re-reading your note, if you child is only 8, and pitching, it probably isn't Little League. Most little leagues use coaches or pitching machines at that age.

 

[4forMe]

Nope, that's how sports go.

I agree to not say anything.

I learned during DS10's season last year that the only kids who get to pitch are the sons of the coach and assistant coaches. My DS, who is an excellent pitcher, wasn't even given an opportunity to pitch the entire season.

 

[mkstlowe]

To my understanding is Fall ball is the chance to give all kids the oppurtunity to play any position and learn that position.

The coach made a promise in 2 games and has no followed through. This is someone my son is supposed to learn from.

I will keep my mouth shut this time, but next time I will ask the coach to not make promises he can't keep. Not to an 8 year old anyway! That he is the coach not the girl friend on the bench.

For the sake of the board and the children I will keep quiet this time.

Thank you everyone!!! When it comes to our children sometimes keeping quiet is hard!

 

[Magic Mom]

I'm so annoyed. My DS is 8 and plays Fall ball. He is a pitcher in traning. So today his grandparents drove over an hour to see him play. So the coach told him that he would pitch 3rd and 4th inning. Well the coach's wife helps on the bench and keep score and in the 3rd inning decided her son would stay in as pitcing. Then on the 4th inning put another boy in. I'm ready to say something and my husband said to drop it. This continues to happen each game. She is not the coach her boyfriend is. My DH and I are on the board so I don't want to cause issues. As her and her boyfriend are now board members. I'm just tired of her thinking this can continue!

I would normally not care, but the issue is her promised my son and my in laws drove over an hour. He never even addressed that my son didn't get to pitch with him.

I think I should say something. Would you?

Did he or she promise him? When was he promised to get to play?

 

[mkstlowe]

Did he or she promise him? When was he promised to get to play?

Yes he promised that he would pitch the 3rd and 4th inning. So this is why I"m annoyed. She made the decision to leave her son in 1 more inning. Then when 4th inning came she put another kid in first. Top it all off my son was playing first base and when her son was done pitching. Guess who got that postion???? My son was moved to 3rd base. Keep in mind SHE is not the coach she is the coach's girl friend/fiance. He didn't even stand up to her or tell her what he promised.

 

[luvsJack]

This is one of those times that IMHO, if anyone is going to ask about it, it should be your son. At practice maybe

Older ds was a pitcher and he learned at a young age that the head coach may make changes in the pitching line up because of the other team. Now, maybe it was just our coach at the time but he knew how each pitcher pitched and watched what the other team was hitting the most. If they were hitting what a certain pitcher pitched the best then he wouldn't put that boy in to pitch. But he usually explained it to the player after the game (never to parents and never during the game). DS was 9 at that time.

 

[rgf207]

To my understanding is Fall ball is the chance to give all kids the oppurtunity to play any position and learn that position.

The coach made a promise in 2 games and has no followed through. This is someone my son is supposed to learn from.

I will keep my mouth shut this time, but next time I will ask the coach to not make promises he can't keep. Not to an 8 year old anyway! That he is the coach not the girl friend on the bench.

For the sake of the board and the children I will keep quiet this time.

Thank you everyone!!! When it comes to our children sometimes keeping quiet is hard!

I don't have kids but I can understand that it's very frustrating as a parent and you want to do what's best for your kids.

I played a lot of sports as a kid so I can relate. Before you say anything please consider what impact it might have on your kid

If the coach is making promises and not keeping them, it stands to reason that this coach may not have the best interest of all kids in mind. If you say something it will most likely make him mad and defensive. He won't take it out on you but rather take it out on your son.

There are times when, as a parent, you want nothing more than to tell people how you feel and make sure you child is getting the best. This time is not one of those. Trust me, NOT saying something is the way to go

Rather than talking to the coach, talk to your son and explain that sometimes people don't keep promises and it can be hurtful. Explain that sometimes life isn't fair and people don't always get equal play time. This can be a learning experience for you and your son.

 

[Magic Mom]

Yes he promised that he would pitch the 3rd and 4th inning. So this is why I"m annoyed. She made the decision to leave her son in 1 more inning. Then when 4th inning came she put another kid in first. Top it all off my son was playing first base and when her son was done pitching. Guess who got that postion???? My son was moved to 3rd base. Keep in mind SHE is not the coach she is the coach's girl friend/fiance. He didn't even stand up to her or tell her what he promised.

It would bother me a little, but I wouldn't make a fuss over it. He got to play so it wasn't a total wash. Did you hear the coach promise? Because sometimes kids hear what they want to hear, and I wonder if the conversation was a little different than what your son thought he heard.

Also, it sounds like the coaches GF is acting as his assistant. I would stop making a point of saying SHE...the girlfriend ...is not the coach. She's there, she's working with the team, and her child plays on the team. What's the point of diminishing her role by insisting all she is, is the coach's girlfriend?

 

[mkstlowe]

This is one of those times that IMHO, if anyone is going to ask about it, it should be your son. At practice maybe

Older ds was a pitcher and he learned at a young age that the head coach may make changes in the pitching line up because of the other team. Now, maybe it was just our coach at the time but he knew how each pitcher pitched and watched what the other team was hitting the most. If they were hitting what a certain pitcher pitched the best then he wouldn't put that boy in to pitch. But he usually explained it to the player after the game (never to parents and never during the game). DS was 9 at that time.

Maybe i will have DS speak with him and ask. Remember Fall ball is not about winning. It's learning time! There no stars in Fall ball. It's supposed to be fun. Not weekly have children disappointed!

 

[mkstlowe]

It would bother me a little, but I wouldn't make a fuss over it. He got to play so it wasn't a total wash. Did you hear the coach promise? Because sometimes kids hear what they want to hear, and I wonder if the conversation was a little different than what your son thought he heard.

Also, it sounds like the coaches GF is acting as his assistant. I would stop making a point of saying SHE...the girlfriend ...is not the coach. She's there, she's working with the team, and her child plays on the team. What's the point of diminishing her role by insisting all she is, is the coach's girlfriend?

MY DH helps on the team since we could not find an Assit Coach when Fall ball started. So my husband was there when he promised. My DH is wounderful person. He did speak with our son. DS was not too upset. What really stinks he just wanted to show his POP how he can pitch. Remember they drove over 1 hour to see my children play yesterday. So now they will have to wait for Spring ball to see him pitch as next weekend is our last games then we are off to the MAGICAL PLACE IN THE WORLD!!

 

[Magic Mom]

MY DH helps on the team since we could not find an Assit Coach when Fall ball started. So my husband was there when he promised. My DH is wounderful person. He did speak with our son. DS was not too upset. What really stinks he just wanted to show his POP how he can pitch. Remember they drove over 1 hour to see my children play yesterday. So now they will have to wait for Spring ball to see him pitch as next weekend is our last games then we are off to the MAGICAL PLACE IN THE WORLD!!

Have fun!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Maybe i will have DS speak with him and ask. Remember Fall ball is not about winning. It's learning time! There no stars in Fall ball. It's supposed to be fun. Not weekly have children disappointed!

Did he get to play? I would be really annoyed. They told him the innings he would play and he didn't get them. I would encourage your DS to talk to the coach in private. Have your DS ask him about it. Maybe the coach isn't even seeing what is going on in the scheme of things. Once he gets a heads up, maybe he'll look out for your DS. It does sound like he's getting the short end of the stick.