Exceptionally Greedy, Or, Exceptionally Smart...?

[AKL_Megs]

A woman is married to a doctor. He is a well known cardiologist, and brings home big bucks. They have four children together.

They divorce.

It is decided that she will receive something like $100,000 in alimony a year for as long as he works, and she will receive a portion of his social security once he retires stops working... AS LONG as she never remarries.

She meets a new man and they start a life together.

Fast forward 15 years. The children are long since grown. The woman is still with her new man, and they enjoy a luxurious life in a house on a lake, drive nice cars, take lavish vacations, etc., all on the doctors dime. They have been together, living together, for 15 years, but HAVE NOT married.

So, she still receives her $100,000 a year in alimony.

Is she exceptionally greedy? Or, is she exceptionally smart?

FWIW, it is said that the doctor and HIS new wife, and the ex-wife and her boyfriend were ALL very civil at the wedding! The definition of "Game Face"

(A distant relative got married, and this is the GROOM's mother and father...)

 

[happygirl]

A woman is married to a doctor. He is a well known cardiologist, and brings home big bucks. They have four children together.

They divorce.

It is decided that she will receive something like $100,000 in alimony a year for as long as he works, and she will receive a portion of his social security once he retires stops working... AS LONG as she never remarries.

She meets a new man and they start a life together.

Fast forward 15 years. The children are long since grown. The woman is still with her new man, and they enjoy a luxurious life in a house on a lake, drive nice cars, take lavish vacations, etc., all on the doctors dime. They have been together, living together, for 15 years, but HAVE NOT married.

So, she still receives her $100,000 a year in alimony.

Is she exceptionally greedy? Or, is she exceptionally smart?

FWIW, it is said that the doctor and HIS new wife, and the ex-wife and her boyfriend were ALL very civil at the wedding! The definition of "Game Face"

(A distant relative got married, and this is the GROOM's mother and father...)

I say GREEDY!!! Why should she still gets his money, when she has a new life?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would say that is old school divorce and his attorney was crap.

The Ex-DH agreed to the terms.

He would have been smarter to give her a lump sum right off the bat.

 

[Goofyluver]

Maybe both.

 

[dngnb8]

his attorney was crap.

^

 

[rie'smom]

She's following the stipulations which means that she might not be either smart or greedy. There are lots of people whose spouses gave them such a hard time that they never want to marry again.
You didn't say if the new/old man works. He must if they live a lavish lifestyle because $100,000 doesn't go very far these days.

 

[morethananyonex]

Greedy.

But it's still kind of awesome .

 

[brenalexacamp]

good for her!

 

[Andtototoo]

I say smart.

Both parties agreed to the deal and signed the contract. I assume no coercion was involved.

The deal gave the woman a huge financial incentive to stay legally unmarried. The deal gave the woman a huge financial loss if she legally remarried.

She stayed unmarried. She's upholding her end of the contract. She gets the money. Done deal.

Frankly, I think she'd be a fool to do otherwise.

 

[katesorad]

I think it's smart! Maybe not fair.. but smart on her part. Why shouldn't she do this, when the law basically says it's okay for her to?

 

[morethananyonex]

I think it's smart! Maybe not fair.. but smart on her part. Why shouldn't she do this, when the law basically says it's okay for her to?

Exactly.

I mean it's not as if she kept a debit card of his or something and is stealing $100,000 a year, he agreed to it .

 

[ols386]

So the ex-wife and her boyfriend attended the wedding of the cardiologist and his now wife? Did I read that correctly?

If it was agreed upon as part of the divorce settlement, then I don't see anything wrong with the cardiologist paying her $100,000/year.

If they were married for a good many years, and she was a full-time home-maker, housewife, whatever you want to call it, she would probably have a hard time finding a decent-paying job after the divorce. So maybe the cardiologist thought it was fair for her to receive that amount in alimony while he was still working. Even if he didn't think it was fair, it was part of the divorce.

I don't really see it as her being greedy.

 

[epcotprincess]

His agreement to the deal makes me lean towards smart, not greedy. Maybe he thinks she's worth the 100k a year for bearing his 4 children and raising them. Who knows? He had to have some kind of reason for agreeing to it, knowing that what she chose to do would be a possibility.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Smart. For him to agree to that deal makes me wonder what happened to cause the divorce?

 

[tasha99]

Smart.

Disclosure: I get a military spouse retirement and would lose it if I ever remarried. I will never get married again, because I lost all those years moving so many places. I couldn't continue my education during those years, nor could I keep a job without having to give it up a year later. I figure that is my retirement for that portion of my life, and I need it since the rest of my retirement will be smaller because I started late. Now to hear my ex, I'm stealing his money; but that's not the way I see it.

I think the woman described above is playing it safe. What if she remarried and then it didn't work out. She could be out more than a million dollars! Her partner is lucky to have a woman with some financial sense.

 

[AKL_Megs]

His agreement to the deal makes me lean towards smart, not greedy. Maybe he thinks she's worth the 100k a year for bearing his 4 children and raising them. Who knows? He had to have some kind of reason for agreeing to it, knowing that what she chose to do would be a possibility.

Smart. For him to agree to that deal makes me wonder what happened to cause the divorce?

Ehem, from what I gather, he was seeing his new wife on the side...

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

Maybe she helped pay his way through medical school, and the $100,000 a year is her compensation for the sacrifices they both made so that he could pursue his lucrative career.

 

[Mermaid02]

Ehem, from what I gather, he was seeing his new wife on the side...

Maybe she helped pay his way through medical school, and the $100,000 a year is her compensation for the sacrifices they both made so that he could pursue his lucrative career.

If either of these things are true- she deserves every penny.

I say she's smart.... him, maybe not so much.

 

[ols386]

Ehem, from what I gather, he was seeing his new wife on the side...

You should have stated that in the op, because knowing that now, I definitely think she was smart.

 

[luvsJack]

I don't know what she is but he is an idiot!!

He could have had the divorce decree say that he would pay that amount for so many years (giving her ample time to learn to support herself) or unless another man moved into her home.