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[3xthecharm]

If I had that kind of money, you would not catch me at a value resort on the 4th in the heat.

It would be Deluxe all the way.

 

[eeyore0062]

Can she make dinner show ressies this far in advance? I thought it was 90 days.

Dinner show reservations can be made up to 2 years in advance. They would include Spirit of Aloha, Mickey's Backyard BBQ and Hoop de Doo Review. That is why when you call for those within the 90 day period, you may have a hard time getting the show time you would like.

 

[Becky2005]

I also suggested she call NOW and make reservations for the dinner shows. Especially with a party of seven. But no, she thinks she can just walk in and get seated.

Now THAT one she may have a hard time with...

I can't say too much about her going in July as that is when we are going.

We are going the weekend AFTER 4th of July - still will be crowded, etc... but I'm hoping most of those that go for 4th of July are leaving.

 

[Lord Fantasius]

O.k., let me get this straight...your MIL wants to take you, her son, and grandchildren on a paid vacation to WDW at that ghastly time of year in July and you're upset because you're feeling manipulated and not the one in control?! Sounds like someone needs an reality check...and it's not your MIL!

Sorry, it might appear to you that she's trying to use her money to be the "Big Hero," but who are you afraid of losing face in front of...the children? I don't know any child who thinks less of a parent because they have to work to put food on the table. Admittedly, it might not be as fun as grandma's money and eccentricity, but just wait until you're the grandparent and want to do something for them.

And yes, I realize boundaries need to be established in any relationship, but is she living with you now and telling you or your husband-to-be what food to buy, what clothes to wear, etc? Just remember, how your husband-to-be treats his mother is exactly how he is going to be treating you for the rest of your life barring a major life-altering event. Also remember it is her money, not your inheritance quite yet, and be thankful she is willing to use it on you.

Well, so much for the harshness, I really do understand how you might feel as my mom can sometimes be that type of woman (though maybe not as rich or idle, and she has learned to suppress her grand generosity over the years since she has learned it really does make the son/daughter-in-laws a little uncomfortable); however, I can almost for sure tell you she is not doing it out of any sort of greed or manipulation. For that generation, especially if they did not grow up with alot of money, they do not want their heirs to miss out on the stuff they thought they were missing out on when they were growing up. Ergo, she really just wants to be around to watch her children and grandchildren enjoy a portion of their inheritance before she actually does pass on. In other words, she knows exactly what she is doing (unless, of course she's clinically insane and thinks she is the Queen Mum...no offense to our British DISers intended)

If I were Dr. Laura (thankfully I am not), I would tell you to go to her and apologize about your attitude and joyfully ask if there is anything you can do to help make this trip more memorable for her and her grandchildren. And, if she doesn't listen, tell her you really would like at least one day/night out of the trip that you can do something special for her since she has been so generous.

Rant and rave over, just a little sensitive in this area. Hope you and your family have a great time this July (but what's that, no planning sessions, no PS's, no scheduling every detail of the trip down to the last minute...oh my, she must be crazy!). But if she really wants be generous have your fiance' drop a hint that if she really enjoys Disney World that much maybe she can spring for a DVC membership!

-R

 

[MagicalMom]

We went in July last year & are doing it again this year. It's not so bad. I prefer the heat of July compared to the crowds of Easter. Until last year, we flew by the seat of our pants on trip to WDW. I never felt like I was missing anything. I didn't feel slighted at all by not having any PS. We didn't even know what PS stood for. We were happy anyways. Now ofcourse, we must have one character meal for each day, but that's really so I can avoid standing in lines waiting for autographs. As a matter of fact, we have stayed at some hotels that we were very happy with. Only to come home, look them up on the internet & find out that other people consider them dumps! In the early years of our Disney addiction we were like the blind leading the blind, but boy were we happy.

 

[Aroura]

I feel as though you are more than lucky. If you don't object, I shall gladly take your place.. LOL..

We went last year from the 2-9, it *was* very hot, but I'd do it again. I suggest Epcot for the 4th fireworks.. I still get tears in my eyes when I think of it. Take me with you.......... LOL

 

[Spoisal]

Aren't ALL MILs crazy? My vote is "yes" without even reading the details! haha