Duggar Disturbing photo?

[MzDiz]

One night I got lost on youtube and ended up watching a whole slew of memorial videos for children who were stillborn. Need a good cry? That's where it is.
I admit that my feelings toward them were somewhere between "what a lovely memorial" and "why would you do this?"

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

I don't really follow the Duggars other than small clips that I see here and there in the media. I would like to know why they have insisted on naming every single child of theirs with a "J" as the first letter. I think Jubilee is a terrible name for a child. Maybe a pet, but not a child. I think they were starting to run out of "J" names.

 

[princessmom29]

I am not a fan of the Duggars in any way, shape or form; that said, I have absolutely no problem with them having this picture taken, printed or distributed to the people at the memorial.

I have similar pictures of my niece that was born at 6 months. She was just as much a part of our family as my daughter and my other nieces and we feel she needs to be remembered in photos.

If anyone, god forbid, loses a child, it is up to them to make the decision that is best for their family. They shouldn't have to worry about public opinion in that situation.

On a side note: I love the name Jubilee

ITA. They can mourn in any way they see fit, but I don't think there is any way they expected those photos to remain private when they handed them out at the memorial. Ithink they wanted them out and it part of thier grieving process to try to turn this into some kind of ministry.

I don't personally care for them, thier message, ect and I think the photos are in extremely poor taste. It made me a bit queasy to look at them. That has nothing to do with thier right to display and release them however. I just don't think they can hand them out and then expect them not to be made puiblic. It just isn't realistic.

 

[princessmom29]

I don't really follow the Duggars other than small clips that I see here and there in the media. I would like to know why they have insisted on naming every single child of theirs with a "J" as the first letter. I think Jubilee is a terrible name for a child. Maybe a pet, but not a child. I think they were starting to run out of "J" names.

Because Dad's name is Jim Bob and Dad is the supreme ruler of the household.

 

[NikitaZee]

Because Dad's name is Jim Bob and Dad is the supreme ruler of the household.

Ha, you beat me to it! I don't know if that's really the reason, but it's what I always thought was going on.

 

[AmazingGrace]

I'm Facebook friends with Amy and that's where I first saw the pictures. They were taken down since then. I think Amy meant well, but I'm not sure she was thinking when she posted those pics. Michelle seemed to not be in the family pic.

 

[happygirl]

Because Dad's name is Jim Bob and Dad is the supreme ruler of the household.

I have never understand why people who don't l ike them post in everything thread about them

That not why the use the J name lol

 

[akhenaten]

I have never understand why people who don't l ike them post in everything thread about them

That not why the use the J name lol

because they have an opinion and are on a discussion board perhaps...lol

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

ITA. They can mourn in any way they see fit, but I don't think there is any way they expected those photos to remain private when they handed them out at the memorial. Ithink they wanted them out and it part of thier grieving process to try to turn this into some kind of ministry.

I don't personally care for them, thier message, ect and I think the photos are in extremely poor taste. It made me a bit queasy to look at them. That has nothing to do with thier right to display and release them however. I just don't think they can hand them out and then expect them not to be made puiblic. It just isn't realistic.

I highly doubt they were trying to keep them private in the first place.

At this point nothing they do will be private (they can blame themselves for that) and everything will be considered to be "in bad taste" to someone, so they may as well do what they feel is best. They wanted those pictures, and they wanted to share them with others.

I do not approve of their lifestyle as a whole but this does not bother me at all.

 

[danielephant]

i think that is less than some things i have seen. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and was on a pregnancy site around that time and just "stepped in" the miscarriage forum to see how long people waited to try again and i saw people who held the baby at the memorial service....but Loss is Loss and people deal with in different ways. It is very had for some and seems that if you know the love of a child already that loss is so much harder. I am not a huge fan of the duggars but because everything they do is taped i think that is why they released that to the public

 

[cornflake]

I don't really follow the Duggars other than small clips that I see here and there in the media. I would like to know why they have insisted on naming every single child of theirs with a "J" as the first letter. I think Jubilee is a terrible name for a child. Maybe a pet, but not a child. I think they were starting to run out of "J" names.

They weren't. There are plenty of perfectly normal 'J' names they haven't used - there's no Joan, Jane, Julia, Julie, Jonathan, there's not even a plain John, etc. There is, however, a Jinger. Though many don't have "unique (idiotic/nonsensical)" spellings and such, they do seem to go for the odder now and then.

 

[robinb]

I think Jubilee is a terrible name for a child. Maybe a pet, but not a child. I think they were starting to run out of "J" names.

I'm not wild about the name either. I think the name was chosen for it's "production value" in making a statement. The word jubilee itself means "a time or season for rejoicing" and is a form of the word "jubilation" which is used often in Christianity. "Shalom" is a greeting or farewell and also means "peace". In short, the name wraps up their religious convictions in one tidy package. I wonder if they would have used the name is she hadn't miscarried.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

According to the Duggars, they chose the name Joshua for their oldest. After that Michelle had a miscarriage, and they named the baby Caleb (she was not far along enough to know if the baby was a girl or a boy). Next came twins, John David and Jana. After that, Michelle says they named the next baby (Jill) a J name so she "wouldn't feel left out." And it just kept going from there.

Regarding the name Jubilee, when Michelle was pregnant with Jordyn-Grace, there was an episode in which the family was making a list of possible names, and you could see Jubilee written on the list.

As far as J names they haven't chosen: Julie, Julia, Juliette, Jessica, Jane, Jean, Jude, Judah, Jacob, Jared, Joel.

 

[angwill]

So I just read that they had a memorial for the baby that Michelle Duggar miscarried and they had a pamphlet or a picture printed up with a picture of the baby's feet and a quote about how even the smallest feet can make an imprint. I saw the picture but I won't post it here because I don't want to offend anyone. Anyone else think this is disturbing? for some reason it just made me go I understand having a memorial, but the picture was a little too much in my opinion. I'm sure others will differ.

There was a long thread on this about a month ago when someone saw a picture of the entire baby born premature. The consensus seemed to be that when a person is grieving it is their choice what they choose to do to deal with it and heal. That doesn't mean that it doesn't make some uncomfortable or that some would do it differently but they will do it the way they need to do it to heal if they ever found themselves in the same unfortunate place.

 

[happygirl]

because they have an opinion and are on a discussion board perhaps...lol

I have never understood why people talk about things they dislike. What the point?

 

[tink_n_pooh]

The photos don't bother me, I actually find them very touching. I am just about as far along right now as Michele would have been had she not miscarried, just makes me stop and think that there really is a little person growing inside of me

 

[MSLRAC]

I see nothing wrong with the pictures. You don't know how you will react to a situation like this until you are placed in it. And even then, no two people will react and grieve in the same fashion.

We lost a nephew shortly before he turned 6 weeks old and there were many pictures taken of him after his passing and before his services. He died suddenly and totally unexpectedly and those pictures are cherished by his parents. They do not display them but they needed them to find closure and peace in the end.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

The photos don't bother me, I actually find them very touching. I am just about as far along right now as Michele would have been had she not miscarried, just makes me stop and think that there really is a little person growing inside of me

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy

 

[ead79]

For your average person, that would hold true but the Duggars live in the public spotlight. I hardly think they could possibly be so naive as to believe that these photos would not make their way to media outlets if they handed out multiple copies at the service. They HAD to know that someone would be handing them over to the media. There is NO WAY they are niave enough to assume otherwise given that they have had a TV show and been on public display for so many years. When you are in that situation, you just don't print and hand out photos you don't want seen. Again, if they wanted to keep these as private family photos, they would have done so.

I honestly don't understand what you expected them to do. They lost a daughter, and they held a memorial service for her just like any family not on TV might choose to do. It's common practice to have pictures in a program at a memorial service, and the Duggars chose to follow that custom. I would imagine they planned the memorial service to be a celebration of her short life and to bring them comfort as they grieve, just as any parent who loses a child would do.

Honestly, they are darned if they do and darned if they don't. It seems to me that they had to make the choice they felt was best for them in this situation. It's not like they can help who releases the photos to the media in the end anyway, so if the photos brought them comfort, then more power to them.

I just don't understand the concept that as public figures they have absolutely NO right to privacy or expectation of privacy. That's akin to saying that no hollywood star has the right to have a private funeral service for a loved one because they choose to make money in the public eye.

To me it just seems like your dislike for the Duggars (which you are perfectly entitled to feel) makes you think they deserve no private moment to grieve or no privacy of any sort just because they have a TV show in which SOME moments of their lives are aired.

 

[Heidict]

they handed out copies at the memorial service. They DID make them public. If they didn't want them pickedu p by the media, why do that? Of course they wanted them seen or they never would have handed out copies.

They took these pictures and shared them at the memorial service so that those that love and care for them could see their daughter. So that they could also grieve and mourn with them. Should they have had no pictures, or keep them locked away, just because there is a possibility that they may end up in the hands of the media?

I don't think the Duggars really care if they ended up in the hands of the media or not. This is their daughter, and i don't know any parent that is ashamed of their child and wants to hide them away.

Anyway, who is saying that the Duggars are upset about these pictures making it out there? I am just saying that I don't believe that they are the ones who released them to the media or sent them over to TMZ.