Duggar Disturbing photo?

[DisneyFan32WI]

I have a question. Did she have to deliver the baby or was the baby taken by c-section? I have no experience with this subject all. Just curious.

 

[ols386]

It's a matter of perspective. Some people find what the Duggars did disturbing, some do not.

If it somehow helps them get through the grieving process, then I have no problem with it.

It may not be the way I would choose to deal with it, but everyone is different.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I have a question. Did she have to deliver the baby or was the baby taken by c-section? I have no experience with this subject all. Just curious.

She delivered the baby.

I have never lost a baby, so I have no idea how I would react in that situation. I agree the photos make the statement that no matter how small, a baby is a baby.

I do wonder how the loss of this baby compares to the loss of her other baby, Caleb. I can't find anything that says they did or did not have a memorial service for him.

As for leaking the photos, well, if someone leaked them without Michelle and Jim Bob's permission, that is very disrespectful. If they want them made public, that is something I can somewhat understand, since they view their publicity as "ministry work." These photos do make a powerful pro-life statement.

 

[NikitaZee]

I found them disturbing to look at. I wouldn't look at them again.
That said, if it were my baby - I'd probably have pictures taken (such as with the volunteer organization mentioned above) and look at them over and over again.

 

[happygirl]

I'm almost certain the Duggar weren't the ones who released the photos. There a lot of people at the service.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

She delivered the baby.

I have never lost a baby, so I have no idea how I would react in that situation. I agree the photos make the statement that no matter how small, a baby is a baby.

I do wonder how the loss of this baby compares to the loss of her other baby, Caleb. I can't find anything that says they did or did not have a memorial service for him.

As for leaking the photos, well, if someone leaked them without Michelle and Jim Bob's permission, that is very disrespectful. If they want them made public, that is something I can somewhat understand, since they view their publicity as "ministry work." These photos do make a powerful pro-life statement.

Very true

 

[MrsKreamer]

When I was in high school, I babysat for a couple. They had a 5 y/o and were expecting their second. She was about 5 mos along(about the same as the Duggars I believe) when she had to deliver a stillbirth. They not only took pictures of the baby, but also had their 5 y/o hold the baby(swaddled in a blanket) for one of the pictures. They then hung that picture in their home.
I thought it was very strange at the time, but now as a mother of 3, I completely understand. To them not only were they expecting a baby, but that little girl was expecting a sister. They chose to honor their baby in some tasteful b/w shots.

I see nothing wrong with what the Duggars did. I also agree that they may have been smiling because to them death means to reunite with God.

 

[iheartdisney]

A friend of mine delivered her second at 19 weeks. She lived for 6 weeks in the NICU.
When she was born, her feet looked like baby feet, but about the size of the last joint on your finger. So no, I don't see anything wrong with that. I haven't seen the pictures, but I think it sounds beautiful.

 

[RainbowBrite]

I don't find the picture disturbing at all. I'm not a fan of the Duggar family but who am I to tell them how to mourn the loss of their child? Memorial services are usually filled with pictures of the person when they were alive. Well, there aren't any pictures of little Jubilee alive. I think the picture was as tasteful as it could be.

 

[kidshop]

awwww, poor baby! It's amazing how perfect she is. the picture doesn't bother me, the circus they made of her life and the life of the other kids' (especially JOsie and her struggle) is what bothers me about them.

I hope they don't show "a very special episode".

 

[3prettyprincesses]

I thought the pictures were tastefully done and really lovely. I have a friend whose sister works for the Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep organization, she says it's hard but rewarding work to help these parents in their grief. How tiny those little feet were and perfectly formed! And such a teeny little hand. It made me a bit teary eyed actually, this was a baby already hoped for and loved. So sad. I wouldn't dream of criticizing a family for the *way* they grieve. If having these pictures and memorial service helped them with their painful loss, then I think it's great. The picture of them all smiling together at first looked odd to me but then I realized that may be one of the only pictures they have with little Jubilee so why not make it a happy one.

Oh, just remembered something. People really do grieve in their own way...DH's grandmother died suddenly and was buried very quickly as she didn't want to be embalmed. He missed the funeral due to sickness but his mom took pictures of his deceased grandmother laying in her casket. She then mailed us the pictures and when she came to visit, wanted us all to look at them together. I was a bit creeped out but didn't say a word since obviously this was important to her.

 

[Heidict]

I see nothing wrong with the pictures. I was a little worried at first, but once I saw them I thought they were very touching and a nice memorial to little Jubilee.

The Duggars did not release these photos, so i don't believe they are using the death of their child to profit.

 

[akhenaten]

I thought the pictures were tastefully done and really lovely. I have a friend whose sister works for the Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep organization, she says it's hard but rewarding work to help these parents in their grief. How tiny those little feet were and perfectly formed! And such a teeny little hand. It made me a bit teary eyed actually, this was a baby already hoped for and loved. So sad. I wouldn't dream of criticizing a family for the *way* they grieve. If having these pictures and memorial service helped them with their painful loss, then I think it's great. The picture of them all smiling together at first looked odd to me but then I realized that may be one of the only pictures they have with little Jubilee so why not make it a happy one.

Oh, just remembered something. People really do grieve in their own way...DH's grandmother died suddenly and was buried very quickly as she didn't want to be embalmed. He missed the funeral due to sickness but his mom took pictures of his deceased grandmother laying in her casket. She then mailed us the pictures and when she came to visit, wanted us all to look at them together. I was a bit creeped out but didn't say a word since obviously this was important to her.

I was one who said they were beautiful and also disturbing... but I find it disturbing to see casket photos too...

 

[lucas]

Well I think most of it has to do with the Duggars own propaganda which is "have kids thats what god wants" so showing pictures will affect the groups who believe it's only cells.

I really wish that the Duggars and Kardashins would all just go away.

I have to agree with this.

 

[princessmom29]

I see nothing wrong with the pictures. I was a little worried at first, but once I saw them I thought they were very touching and a nice memorial to little Jubilee.

The Duggars did not release these photos, so i don't believe they are using the death of their child to profit.

they handed out copies at the memorial serivce. They DID make them public. If they didn't want them pickedu p by the media, why do that? Of course they wanted them seen or they never would have handed out copies.

 

[happygirl]

they handed out copies at the memorial serivce. They DID make them public. If they didn't want them pickedu p by the media, why do that? Of course they wanted them seen or they never would have handed out copies.

Well in that case everyone that hands out porgram at funeral want them made public

 

[3prettyprincesses]

they handed out copies at the memorial serivce. They DID make them public. If they didn't want them pickedu p by the media, why do that? Of course they wanted them seen or they never would have handed out copies.

I disagree. Memorial programs are of course handed out at a memorial. I've received funeral programs, memorial programs, heck even wedding programs. How does handing them out at their memorial constitute them wanting the media to display them? I think that's a bit far fetched to assume.

Now, if they were passing them out on the street then I'd agree with you. But this was their memorial for their deceased baby girl, something not everyone was invited to obviously. Whoever leaked them to TMZ had poor taste IMO.

 

[robinb]

So I just read that they had a memorial for the baby that Michelle Duggar miscarried and they had a pamphlet or a picture printed up with a picture of the baby's feet and a quote about how even the smallest feet can make an imprint. I saw the picture but I won't post it here because I don't want to offend anyone. Anyone else think this is disturbing? for some reason it just made me go I understand having a memorial, but the picture was a little too much in my opinion. I'm sure others will differ.

I'm not a big Duggar fan and *I* wouldn't so it, but I don't have any problem with the way they are mourning their miscarriage. I remember a few months back there was a similar thread about an obituary with a picture of a premature fetus that some felt was disturbing and I felt the same way.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

I am not a fan of the Duggars in any way, shape or form; that said, I have absolutely no problem with them having this picture taken, printed or distributed to the people at the memorial.

I have similar pictures of my niece that was born at 6 months. She was just as much a part of our family as my daughter and my other nieces and we feel she needs to be remembered in photos.

If anyone, god forbid, loses a child, it is up to them to make the decision that is best for their family. They shouldn't have to worry about public opinion in that situation.

On a side note: I love the name Jubilee

 

[princessmom29]

I disagree. Memorial programs are of course handed out at a memorial. I've received funeral programs, memorial programs, heck even wedding programs. How does handing them out at their memorial constitute them wanting the media to display them? I think that's a bit far fetched to assume.

Now, if they were passing them out on the street then I'd agree with you. But this was their memorial for their deceased baby girl, something not everyone was invited to obviously. Whoever leaked them to TMZ had poor taste IMO.

For your average person, that would hold true but the Duggars live in the public spotlight. I hardly think they could possibly be so naive as to believe that these photos would not make their way to media outlets if they handed out multiple copies at the service. They HAD to know that someone would be handing them over to the media. There is NO WAY they are niave enough to assume otherwise given that they have had a TV show and been on public display for so many years. When you are in that situation, you just don't print and hand out photos you don't want seen. Again, if they wanted to keep these as private family photos, they would have done so.