DS13 finally had enough (long) *update pg 3*

[mom2of2]

DS13 has been picked on horribly for the past 4 years or so at school and has been taking Tae kwon do for the past 3 1/2, I've told him over and over that I have paid big $$$$ for him to block punches and kicks and for him to do just that. Well this year he told me that enough was enough and that he was going to defend himself for a change. Now I DON'T condone fighting for any reason but a person has a right to defend themselves IF they are being attacked physically, words are words but fists are another. Today during gym one of the biggest offenders signed my son's last name on the sign in sheet as the C word and when DS tried to get the paper away from him the boy grabbed his wrist. DS broke free and walked away. Then the boy grabbed him from behind and DS did a self defense move (minus the kick) and put him in a wrist lock as the gym teacher ran over. They were both sent to the office and DS was terrified that he was going to get into trouble for using his self defense steps. The principal told the other boy that my DS could have and SHOULD have kicked his butt for attacking him from behind and that only cowards attacked from behind. The boy was also told that what he did (the C word) was sexual harrassment and that the school has a ZERO tolerance policy for harrassment of any kind and that if it happened again that he would be expelled and that I could bring him up on charges. DS was proud of himself and frankly I'm proud of him too. It's about time that he stood up for himself, hopefully this will put an end to at least some of the bullying.

 

[luckywife]

GOOD FOR YOUR DS!

I definitely don't condone fighting either but I think there are certain cases where people have to stick up for themselves. A person can only take so much and will sooner or later "strike back." Your DS certainly sounds like he has enough common sense to know when to defend himself and just couldn't take anymore. Hopefully he put this bully in his place for good!

 

[tmq2766]

Yeah for the underdog!!!!! I love these kind of stories!

 

[Doug123]

Goof for him. It's funny, though, that a school with a "zero tolerance" would give someone a second chance. Doesn't sound very "zero" to me.

 

[snarfer1]

Good For You and Great For Your Son!

I admire his restraint, I would have broken the bully's wrist. And if the school really had a zero tolerance sexual harrasment policy the bully would be out now, not warned one more time!

Anyway, my kids all take Karate, and they have been told that they are *NEVER* to throw the first punch.

(But Dad won't mind if the throw the *LAST* punch!)

-Tony

 

[gr8tpanther]

Glad to see that kids are not willing to take CRAP from other kids!!!

 

[cinmell]

Originally posted by luckywife
GOOD FOR YOUR DS!

I definitely don't condone fighting either but I think there are certain cases where people have to stick up for themselves. A person can only take so much and will sooner or later "strike back." Your DS certainly sounds like he has enough common sense to know when to defend himself and just couldn't take anymore. Hopefully he put this bully in his place for good!

I hate bullies and I'm glad your son was able to stick up for himself.

 

[mom2of2]

The other boy did get detention for the rest of the week so it wasn't a total get off free.

 

[liznboys]

Way to go to your ds!!!! I got choked up reading your post, I don't even know you or your son, but I am SO PROUD OF HIM!!

 

[Kimickey]

Way to go DS!!! He used his head and did not react in an unappropriate manner. Way to go for defending himself. Now we shall see who picks on him. They will think twice!!!

 

[RobinMarie]

It's so nice to read a story like this, I was starting to think kids would not be allowed to defend themselves. I applaud the school for using common sense!

Big thumbs up to your son! Atta boy!

 

[Disney Doll]

Good for yur son. Perhaps that little interlude will be al esson to soe of the other kids.

Kudos to your on for estraining himself to just get the kid off him, and not really kicking his butt like I know he could!

And I go back to the school principal and tell him that "zero tolerance" means oyu don't tolerate one incident. It doesn't mean the first incident gets you a warning.

 

[Kallison]

I always tell my kids if someone else throw the first punch to defend themselves full force and we will worry about the consequences later. Luckily that has never happened yet. Good for your son.

 

[chrissyk]

Good for your son! I was bullied in 7th and 8th grade, and the school did nothing to stop the bullies I tried to fight back once, and I was the one who got in trouble Schools SHOULD have a zero-tolerance policy on this garbage. In this day-and-age, you can also press charges for harrassment. I'd at least consider it if the bullying didn't stop dead.

 

[mom2of2]

For years now I have wanted to step in and say something, whether it be to the school, the other child or the parent and my DS has begged me not to do anything about it. He knew that he would be ridiculed if "Mommy" stepped in and I knew he was right and I figured eventually he'd get tired of the crap and do something about it. I too have told him to block as much as possible and only use a punch if he was hit first. His last TKD school had a policy that students were not allowed to use TKD outside of the academy. This TKD had a sit down with the kids about a week before school and told them that they didn't condone violence but that they had a right to defend themselves using the moves that they have been taught. They would be dismissed from the Academy and stripped of any rank if they were the agressor and used their knowledge. DS is a Sr Brown Belt btw and 2 belts away from Black, he's also a student instructor at our Academy.

 

[Shutterbug]

Glad to see the way the school handled it. Alot of schools would have sent BOTH boys to detention regardless of who attacked who.

Good for your son!

 

[binny]

Nice to hear this! Give your son a big Atta Boy for me!


He used his head and handled it very well. He should be commended for it!



and Kudos to the school as well. I think more kids need to be told that!

 

[mom2of2]

Glad to see the way the school handled it. Alot of schools would have sent BOTH boys to detention regardless of who attacked who.

had the principal given DS detention I would have been down there soooo fast!! After years and I'm talking YEARS of being humiliated, teased, kicked, hit etc etc etc DS finally said ENOUGH and stood up for himself. It shouldn't have gone on this long and I do blame myself somewhat but he didn't want me to step in and since he is the one going there everyday he knew what he could handle. Guess his growing 4 inches and gaining about 15lbs over the summer didn't hurt either

edited to add that this is the first year that ZERO tolerance has been put in place. For years they have sent the kids to a mediation group with the guidance counselor

 

[jetsetter90]

Congrats to your Son. My DS was picked on from 6-8th grade and when he did defend himself He was the one to get in trouble, mind you he didn't hit anyone just the kids bike, that no one was on. I admit wrong but he had enough and I'm just glad he didn't hit the kid. You also have to understand that he is small for his age and even though I wasn't happy with what happened I also wasn't happy with the fact that he cried every morning and afternoon that he didn't want to go to school. We finally decided that he would change schools when it came to High School. He, so far, is sooo much happier. BTW the kid who was constantly picking on him also changed schools....yep to the same school. I was told the parents sent him there for the Discipline. The school they are attending is an all boys school run by the Jesuits. They will not tolerate anything. We were told that if something happens on their way home or even 20 miles from home they WILL get in trouble.


TTFN

Jetsetter90

 

[patsvette]

Good for him.Thats one thing i cant stand is bullys.