DS13 finally had enough (long) *update pg 3*

[calypso*a*go-go]

I hate to be a wet blanket here, but I do so out of concern. I obviously don't know all the circumstances here but in my opinion, if someone is sneaky enough to attack from behind, they wouldn't have second thoughts about enlisting a few of their friends to gang up on somebody either. Tell your son how proud you are of him but make absolutely sure he realizes he cannot put himself in a situation where he is alone (and vulnerable)...walking home from school, in the school restrooms, etc. Let's face it...bullies are creeps that don't think the rules apply to them. The fact that he has been caught and put in detention for a week might just make him even madder. Please don't assume the problem is taken care of -- make sure you keep your eye on the little ******.

Good luck and give your son about 70,000 hugs because everyone on these boards are proud of him.

 

[decker96]

Way to go!! Can't stand bullies either. Hopefully they will stop now that they know he will fight back!

 

[SnowAngel]

Go for it!
I am so glad to see kids taking up for themself especially in such a constructive non-violent way. I was thing of putting my girls in Tae Kwon Do also. I took it as a teen and loved it.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Originally posted by calypso*a*go-go
I hate to be a wet blanket here, but I do so out of concern. I obviously don't know all the circumstances here but in my opinion, if someone is sneaky enough to attack from behind, they wouldn't have second thoughts about enlisting a few of their friends to gang up on somebody either. Tell your son how proud you are of him but make absolutely sure he realizes he cannot put himself in a situation where he is alone (and vulnerable)...walking home from school, in the school restrooms, etc. Let's face it...bullies are creeps that don't think the rules apply to them. The fact that he has been caught and put in detention for a week might just make him even madder. Please don't assume the problem is taken care of -- make sure you keep your eye on the little ******.

Good luck and give your son about 70,000 hugs because everyone on these boards are proud of him.

I agree with all of this.

 

[chrissie123]

Originally posted by Pooh67_68
I agree with all of this.

Please tell your ds to take care & watch out.... Even so i do think he deoes deserve a very BIG pat on the back... WELL DONE

 

[holycow]

Yahooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!! for your DS!!!!

Holycow


(whose DS has been in the same position!)

 

[snarfer1]

Too Important a thread to die so early!

BUMP

 

[Lynn CC]

Horrayyyyy.... for your DS

 

[Serena]

I'm glad he was finally confident enough to defend himself. But yeah, tell him to be careful.
The good point is that they saw a portion of what he is capable of, they might not want to chance seeing the rest.

 

[parrothead365]

I think your son handled this perfectly. Using only the force needed and showing restraint speaks well him and of his Instructor. His Instructor should use him as a role model for the younger students.My son is involved with Shotokan Karate (purple belt 4th kyu) and is taught the same thing. IF this other coward decides to come back with several friends as sugguested, I think your son will handle that situation as well.

 

[Nancy]

Originally posted by Doug123
Goof for him. It's funny, though, that a school with a "zero tolerance" would give someone a second chance. Doesn't sound very "zero" to me.

That was my thought too. Why is he being given a second chance. Parents should have been called immediately and the child removed from school for a suspension at the very least.

Good for you son for defending himself and kudos to the gym teacher for realizing that your son was defending himself.

 

[pjlla]

As a former "picked on kid" (K-8th!!), I applaud your son. I agree with calypso that he does need to watch his back now, but maybe those lunk-heads will get the message and back off! Unfortunately, back in the "old days" when I went to school there was no such thing as "zero tolerance" or anything like that. The few times I fought back or defended myself, I got in trouble along with the bully, although thankfully my parents knew I had no choice. And teachers spent a LOT of time looking the other way, not wanting to get involved. Sad, but true.

Anyhow, so glad things are looking up for your son! Big hugs from me!...................P

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Good for your son! He should be proud that he stood up for himself. I'm glad the school was behind him.
I don't think anybody will be bothering your son now!!!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Good for your DS. I can't stand Bullies of any kind. No one should have to put up with that kind of treatment.

You should be proud of him that he used his moves the right way.

 

[philaround]

I haven't read the whole thread so if this has been asked already I apologize.

If, as the pricipal said, there is a zero tolerance rule regarding what the other boy wrote, WHY DID HE GIVE HIM ONLY A WARNING AND NOT A SUSPENSION??????

 

[Serena]

With zero tolerance the principal would have had to punish her son too. They are not allowed to touch each other.
He's trying to cover his behind and keep it fair at the same time.
Zero tolerance makes no sense to me. Several years ago my oldest got a 3 day suspension for telling another girl that some other girls were planning on jumping her after school. I did fight it but it did no good.

 

[Lachesis00]

Kuddos to your son!!

Last year @ DS's old school I got so tired him being picked on (it was going on for over 3 years, same 2 kids) I told the principal if he kicked this GIRLS #%% I would stand behind him (as we'd been in many times, filed many complaints, all to be swept under the rug). I was told he'd be suspended, maybe expelled... I told them to be my guest. My son is and always has been bigger then most kids. Not fat, just bigger... I was always afraid he'd do some serious damage by the time he did get into a fight.
To see my child miserable, depressed, sad all the time.... b/c of them medical problems cropped up causing him to miss school (this was all directly related to his being picked on, the stress). We held him back this year. HE wanted it b/c he didn't feel like got enough out of last year.
We moved and I told the new principal what happened @ the old school and he was shocked the school didn't do anything to these 2 kids. And he actually agreed that if all efforts failed in dealing with the bullies with the school involved, the picked on student had a right to defend themselves.

 

[bubba's mom]

I am glad to hear your son defended himself. I bet he is now beaming with a TON of confidence!!! Our son (as my avatar depicts) is also in TaeKwonDo (Karate for Kids). He is 1/2 way to his black belt at a current green belt level. He will be 6 in January. We constantly tell him NOBODY has the right to lay a hand on you (unless it's one of us...lol....) and he is to defend himself with techniques he's learned....after warning the offender. He may block, punch, kick, whatever he needs to do to protect himself. If it happens to be at school (in the future-we are only in kindergarten now), do it. We tell DS, "will you get in trouble? yes. will you go to the principal's office? yes. will they call us? yes. will you get in trouble with us? absolutely not, as long as you didn't throw the first punch ". We are trying to teach him the confidence to use his knowledge of self defense. Thank you so much for sharing your story....I will definately show it to DS when he gets home soon. Very inspriational!!!

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

Yea for your DS!!!

:thewave::thewave::thewave:

 

[mom2of2]

Just got off the phone with the principal and wanted to hear his side of what happened and the outcome. The reason the other boy didn't get suspended or expelled was because his parents sold their house last week and are moving out of the township the end of the next week. Until then he has detention, now here they do in school detention meaning that it's during lunch peroid. The boy's record was also noted and will follow him to his next school. A great solution? dunno but at least that's one less bully that we will have to deal with this year. I told the principal that I was proud of my son and that after years of crap, glad that he defended himself. The principal agreed and said that my son showed great restraint and that the gym teacher was surprised that he showed strength as well as restraint. I plan on telling his TKD instructor tomorrow at class and hope that he is pleased as well. Is my son a hero or a role model, no. He's just a boy who got sick of being picked on and stood up for himself. A person can only take so much mental and physical abuse before they can't take it anymore, some deal with the situation better then others who either take it out on themselves or others. I'm glad my son was resposible with his actions, no one got hurt and the point got across.
To answer the concern about after school situations. We live in a very small rural town of about 1500 pple. The kids ride the bus and mine are the first ones on and off, school is about 3/4 mile down the hill. I work for the township and having been born and raised, I know most of the people here. The kids only outside school contact is at the Community Center for dances....guess where I work!! So there is NO way anything will happen there. . Funny thing is, when he first moved here he came to my house to play and my son went to his home as well. When the other boy learned that my son wasn't in the "group of cool" that's when this all started.