There but for the grace of God go I....as the saying goes. Bad parenting? Parents just not paying attention? Who knows. What I do know is how fast something can happen, without you ever knowing. Back when my now 37 y/o dd was about 3, she had been put down for her afternoon nap. She had been asleep for about 15 mins and I started to vac my bedroom. I closed my door so as to not disturb her. I finished and went back downstairs. My dd's bedroom door was still shut. Well, I went into the bathroom and looked out the window....only to see my dd's clothes on the swing outside the bathroom area!!!! I freaked out, as you can imagine. I ran upstairs, opened her door, and she was gone from her crib!!!! I ran outside..no where to be seen!!! Now, my street was very short and not well traveled, at least not during the day. But, just two houses away was a very busy street...a major throughway for getting to the center of town. As I headed down the driveway, a police cruiser pulled up. Out got the officer, with my dd in tow. Thank God he lived across the street and realized where she belonged. Seems she had been walking down the center of that busy street, with our family dog beside her...protecting her!!! As the officer approached her, the dog growled at him...poor guy. But, he scooped her up and brought her home. The truly awful thing, that doesn't bear thinking about? He had just stopped a speeder right up the street!! This child proved to be a Houdini...she escaped her play pen and crawled into a lake when she wasn't a year old. She left my mother's house, and went in search of the other kids she had heard playing two yards over...she was 18 months old. We finally started changing locks on doors so that she couldn't get out of houses!!!!
Some kids are just explorers....and most, thankfully, make it out of childhood!!! This poor family probably had an 'explorer'...one who took the chance, when no one was looking, to go off and investigate. That big pool is incredibly bright and loud...just what a young child would want to check out. The pools are open later in the day, into the evening, and lifeguards are on duty. But, especially with that pool, I can see how a child could slip into the water and go unnoticed. Who knows. I doubt that the family had let the toddler go off, in the pool area, unsupervised. The child escaped their watch....I completely understand how quickly something like that can happen. And....even if a parent was only 10' away, when they saw their child wander off, that child could be in 3' of water in seconds...and then take in more than enough water to drown.
Incredibly sad for all concerned. I can't imagine the pain they are feeling. I don't think it serves any purpose to try and lay blame on 'bad parenting' until all the facts are known. And yes, I 'get' that if we can lay the blame somewhere, we can think that it wouldn't happen to us. But, in all reality? Really truly awful things happen to very nice, responsible people...every single day.
To the poster who lives in the town where those two teenagers died in the drivers ed car....I'm so very sorry. I saw that on the news and was truly horrified. I can't imagine how anyone involved in that feels....from the truck driver, to the driver's ed teacher, to the young person driving the car. It would seem to be a true accident, exacerbated by lack of experience on the part of the young woman driving. I can't imagine how she must feel!!! So very sad!!!