Dreams about loved ones/friends who have passed away

[Blondie]

A few weeks ago I had a dream that included my 20 y.o. nephew who died in a car accident back in May of 2003. He was sitting across the living room from me and he was laughing! The dream disturbed me in a way, because I remember feeling scared of him for some odd reason. Someone was sitting beside me on the couch (I couldn't recall who in the morning, but it was a female) and I remember saying to her "he's not supposed to be here, why is he here? On Christmas eve last year, my niece had a dream of him and he was hugging her and told her that he was sorry. It was the first time she had a dream of him, and it brought great comfort to her because it seemed so real.

My DH's aunt recently had a dream of his father who passed away back in 1981. She said he was wearing a long green robe and my aunt was crying in the dream and he hugged her and told her everything was okay. She said she woke up sobbing.

Have you ever had a dream about a deceased loved one or family member? Was it a source of comfort for you?

 

[MB MinnieGirl]

I have. I actually had a dream a few weeks back of my Great Aunt, who was more of a grandmother to me. She passed away in November of 2000 and I miss her dearly. I was so close to her. I wish I had more dreams of her - just seeing and hearing her voice was comforting.

My mother had lots of dreams of her Unlce (ironically my great aunt's hubby) who died long before I was ever born. She always loved going to sleep she said because she knew she would get to see him again in her dreams. One day, the dreams just stopped. She said she missed them every since.

I have also lost my grandmother and my grandfather who I was very close to, but have never had a dream of either of them...although I would love to. I can't describe the comforting feeling I had seeing and hearing my aunt's voice again when I dreamed of her a few weeks ago. I wish I knew why it happened - then I'd have a better chance of seeing her again.

 

[Boots]

My mother died in March of 1998. If she was still alive she would have been 79 on Dec. 22nd. I miss her more than anyone can ever know. I dream of her a lot. Sometimes in my dreams I know that she is dead and we are just talking about things going on in life in general. My dad has been remarried four years now. Even though my step mother is very good to me, a lot has changed. My dad is 77, she is 87, and I am 51. I wasn't exactly a spoiled only child, but life was and is good to me. But things have changed a lot and my father has done a lot that has hurt me extremely. And no it isn't just me, other people have said things to me about it. But I am not sticking to what you asked here. Once I dreamed about her and she apologized to me for the way my dad was acting. Sometimes I dream about her and I am doing things with her, like a normal dream when she was alive. But I am never afraid or upset in either of them. I guess the dream that meant the most to me was one I had about a year ago. When my mother was alive toward the end of her life her macular degeneration had progressed so badly that someone had to drive her where ever she went. Sometimes when I drove I would stick out my right hand and we would hold hands until I needed my hand back to drive. So sometimes when I am really missing her and am driving I will put my hand out and pretend like I am still holding her hand. Once I said to the thin air, "Mama, how I wish you were here holding my hand." That night I dreamed that she told me, " How I wish you could feel me holding your hand back when you are driving." Miss her so very very much!

 

[Sandy51]

I dream about my parents often. Mom died in 1983 and Dad died in 1997, but they are always alive in my dreams. I find it quite comforting.


Sandy

 

[KLAIT]

I was extremely close to my grandma growing up. When my mom got remarried and moved several hundred miles away I stayed with my dad and very close to where my grandparents lived. I was the only grandchild and spent a lot of time with gramma and grandpa. I can honestly say that my gram was my best friend. I told her things that I would not tell another sole.

Anyway, my gram had a massive stroke in the middle of the night. In the morning they sent her to the nearest trauma center..I could not get there that day...they did not expect her to make it through the night....anyway, the follwoing day we made the 6 hour ride to the hospital and when I walked in I went to her bed and told her that I was there and it was OK to go. I walked out of the room to check on my son and she took her last breath as soon as I walked out and she was gone.

The nest day when we got home,my son (who just turned 3) started talking to an imaginary friend. He had never had this friend before. Often he would tell me his friend was by me or him and never my DH,,,anyway, I didn't handle her passing very well....looking back, I was in a depression. I was crabby at home and one day I had the worst day ever...bad day at work, picked a fight with Dh and thought to myself that i was at my wits end...didn't know how I could go on.

Anyway, that same night, I had a very vivid dream about my gramma and to this day I can remember every detail. WE talked and I asked her if she was in pain before she died and what had happened....she told me it hurt for just a split second and then it didn't hurt anymore and she told me where it hurt (I was worried about her in pain because I saw the bottle of Tylenol in the bathroom counter and she had blood running out of her ear in the morning). We had a very good talk.

In the morning I woke up at such a feeling of peace..it is so hard to describe. I am not the most religious person who ever lived, but I truly blieve that she was my sons imaginary friend and I do believe that she came to me in my dream to help me at a time when I needed her the most.

After that dream, my son never talked about his imaginary friend anymore.

It really helped me come to terms with a lot of things and especially d

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I have told this story before, but I will tell it again.

My Sister had a friend who was killed in a car accident when they were Juniors in HS. During HS and College my Sister and I drove the same model car just slightly different colors.

In my dream I was coming out of class at college. My Sisters friend was floating around my car and he was confused. I asked if I could help him and he said he was looking for my Sister. I said that this was my car and she wasn't here. He then asked me to tell her that he was OK. And that was it.

I didn't tell her for a while. I didn't know if she would find it a comfort or what. When I did tell her she started crying and asked me when I had ahd this dream. I told her and she said that her other friend (who was best friends with the boy who was killed) had a dream also where he was visited around that time.

I really believe he was looking to comfort my Sister. I don't know if he was lost? Or if my Sister was just not 'open' to a visit? Either way I am gald it helped her.

 

[eeyore45]

I had a best friend die when she was 20, cystic fibrosis, and I dream of her, but not had a 'visit' from her in my dreams...

then I had another friend die, in our 30's, it was so sad, he had a cancer, and didnt want anyone to see him so deterioate... I took his death really hard. At his sister's house his young nephew was still on the bottle, and his sister (hte niece) said "friend was here, and gave brother his bottle" it freaked mom that son had bottle, it was kept in frig and not given to him in bed! I had also experienced a dream, when he came and sat and said "sorry" for not letting me know he was dieing...

a few years ago I almost overslept for a very important appointment, and I had dreamed he yelled wake up and jumped on the corner of the waterbed to wake me... I rationalized it must've been dh.. but nope, no other explanation of that shake of the bed!!

 

[Pop Daddy]

I dont think dreams have any truth or sighns in them

 

[MB MinnieGirl]

Once I said to the thin air, "Mama, how I wish you were here holding my hand." That night I dreamed that she told me, " How I wish you could feel me holding your hand back when you are driving." Miss her so very very much!

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom. You were obviously very close.

How fortunate you are to have these "visits" with her in your dreams! What a source of comfort they must be to you. And I'll bet you hold your hand out a bit more often since the dream you mention in your post.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

My grandpa died in 93. I was very close to him. I had a very hard time with his death. He has come to me in several dreams and each time I wake up with a great feeling of peace. It's hard to explain but it helps a lot.

 

[browneyes]

I have recurring dreams about my grandmother. It used to freak me out. Then, I bought a dream analysis book and got to the root of the dream, now I look forward to dreaming about her. In my dreams, I would be taking her kitchen apart looking for something, looking for it quite desperately. In the dream analysis book I bought, it said something about the kitchen being the heart of the home. I realized the reason why I was dreaming about her kitchen, and was so desperate to find something was because I miss her love. Now when I dream about her, it's like my subconscious is telling me her love is with me even though she's been gone 13 years now.

 

[browneyes]

I dont think dreams have any truth or sighns in them

You and I need to talk about Freud sometime.

 

[NCRedding]

My brother passed away in July of this year. The Wednesday night after Thanksgiving, my mother woke up in the middle of the night because a bell rang very loudly. She never found the source of the noise, but said she knew that "her son had earned his wings" (like in the Wonderful Life movie). Several nights later, she was talking to my SIL who told Mom (before Mom said antyhing about the bell) that on Wednesday night, my SIL had had a dream that my brother was showing her his new wings.

We've also had several angels appear this Christmas--we have a nativity set that had a piece we didn't remember--a shepherd's angel. I keep a list of the pieces--it wasn't on that list. I think we're just more aware of angels, and it does cause us some comfort.

My DH has lost both parents at early ages--I dreamed about them several times following their deaths.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

When I was 19 a close friend of mine who was 17 died in a car accident. I was really struggling with her death and was not doing well - I kept having dreams that she was running down a hall and if I could stop her she wouldn't die but no matter how hard I tried I couldn't stop her. I was very disturbed by these dreams.

Then one night I had a dream that 2 other close friends and I were at a table with 3 chairs and she came to tak with us - but there was no chair for her so she sat down on the chair with me - I could feel her as clearly as I have ever felt a person in my life - and the 4 of us had a conversation and laughed and talked and then she said - I have to go now and I asked why - she was here and she could just stay - she didn't have to leave - she looked at me and said "You don't understand, I want to go back - I am in such a beautiful place, tell my mom I am okay." and she left.

I still get tears when I think of that dream. I never dreamed about her again and was completely at peace after that night.

 

[Pop Daddy]

You and I need to talk about Freud sometime.

whats does he know he is dead

 

[browneyes]

whats does he know he is dead

LOL, you'd love a few of his theories.

 

[FloraFauna]

I lost my grandmother almost 2 years ago. I have had 2 dreams about her. The first one was so real to me that I woke up crying. They were happy tears. She hugged me in my dream--it was a wonderful feeling.

 

[MELSMICE]

I have had dreams of a cousin of mine that passed away when she was 10 years old in a tragic drowning accident. It was years ago that I had this dream & I don't remember it vividly.

I have also had dreams of my grandfather that passed away 13 years ago, but again, can't remember them vividly.

I do remember that they were pleasant dreams though & not disturbing.

 

[Beth76]

I've had dreams of my grandparents where I'm thinking that they shouldn't be there because they're supposed to be dead. But, I didn't really speak to them and they didn't say anything to me. They were just sort of there.

Right after I graduated from college, DH's best friend was killed in a car accident. I wasn't particularly close to this friend, but DH was. It was really hard for both of us. For me mostly because he was so young. The only other people I've known who have died were all sick/elderly.

The last time I saw him was when he was leaving our apartment, about 2 days before his accident. Well, I remember having a few dreams, not about him, just that he was present in. In the last one, he was getting ready to leave our apartment (exactly like the last time I had seen him) and I gave him a hug. I had never hugged him in real life, but after this dream I've never seen him in my dreams again.

 

[disneyfanatic60]

I have had many dreams about family members or friends that have passed away. Some are so very vivid and other's not quite so clear. They usually are of my Grandmother and a friend of mine who passed away several years ago.

My Mom passed away this past May. I began having dreams frequently a few month's after her passing. Some of them appear to be so real! There is one that stands out and will probably stay with me for a very long time.

Let me preface this by saying that my Mom loved Christmas and all the decorations particularly Disney decorations. She was never able to visit WDW during the holidays. I have dreamed since I can remember about staying at the GF during the Holidays. Well, earlier in December my DD-17 and I got to fufill my dream. I was so thrilled knowing I was "sharing" this trip with my Mom (I carried a picture of her with me the entire trip) and seeing it through her eyes. Two days before we left WDW, I had the most vivid and realistic dream of Mom. I had not had any other dreams of her except this one the entire time. There was a man (I'm assuming my Dad) and someone who had their backs turned to me. That person turned around and it was my Mom!! I was floored and just cried. We hugged harder than we have ever hugged before and I can tell you I felt every ounce of that hug and her touch and we got to tell each other we loved them! I awoke to shivers and a sense of contentment. I never got to say goodbye to her and I believe I finally had my chance to do that.

Another time, relating to my Mom again, happened the day she passed. My Mom had Alzheimer's for more than 10 years and passed at 64. She's been "gone" for quite a few years not being able to recognize us and know our names most days. She had been hospitalized for about three months and I was called to tell me she was being moved to Hospice and had about 3 month's or so to live. This was a shock as she was healthy despite her Alzheimer's. This was on Tuesday. On Sunday morning I had the most vivid dream of being in the bathroom (of all places) and the door flung open. I yelled at my son thinking he was being a smart ***. There stood my Mom in all her glory. She was as clear as day looking better than I could ever remember and her mind appeared to be in tack. It lasted only a brief moment. Within one hour, I received a call to come to the hospital immediately. She passed away that afternoon.
I still get shivers thinking about both of these dreams.


Michele